I'm impressed.
I take my dog to the park at almost the same time every day. At first, a man took the opportunity of teasing the dog to inquire about my occupation, and then found various opportunities to chat with me and add me to WeChat. I am not a beautiful woman, but I know very well that if I am an old and ugly woman, men will not be interested at all.
This inspired me, so I put forward this proposition: women should have five kinds of people.
In order to facilitate memory, I use "gold, wood, water, fire and earth" to represent these five human designs and explain them one by one.
Earth: unpretentious and self-protective.
20 14 years, I, a woman, rode thousands of miles alone and traveled to Tibet.
At that time, I had resigned, and a firm idea came to my mind: I want to go to Tibet. So I immediately bought a berth in Guangzhou-Lhasa, packed my things and set off.
At that time, everyone thought I was crazy and worried about me. What should I do if I go to altitude sickness alone? What should I do if I meet the bad guys? What about sudden accidents?
In fact, nothing happened.
I didn't make any strategy. I stayed there for more than 1 month, let nature take its course, stop and go, had a good time, and made some brave friends and gained a lot.
Everyone goes out to play alone, so why do some people have accidents and some people don't get into trouble wherever they go? There is only one principle: flies will never bite eggs without gaps.
When I am away from home, I have a principle: simplicity, simplicity and safety first.
Dress as usual as possible. Walking on the road like a passer-by, no one will notice you.
Most women are the opposite. When they go out to play, they always dress themselves up and wish everyone would look back at her.
In fact, this is the greatest beauty and the biggest crisis.
Girls who often travel in Lijiang, Dali, Yunnan, Southeast Asia ... are exposed in clothes, which makes men's eyes simply unable to move. If you are with a group of friends you know, that's fine; If you are alone, it is easy to attract a pervert for yourself.
If you think that strange men come to court because they are attractive, you are wrong. Faced with the temptation of beautiful women, most men can't hold it. The other person can't remember your name at all, but he can remember your chest, beautiful back and slender legs.
Some women go hiking in the wild and wear miniskirts, shorts and high heels, which is really hard for me to understand.
Not afraid of exposure, not afraid of being seen by people below, not afraid of being bitten by mosquitoes. I don't know whether these women want to show their beauty or their stupidity.
After coming back from Tibet, after more than a month, the tanned skin slowly recovered and returned to the usual fashion. The little friend I met in Tibet suddenly brightened up: "Wow! It will be beautiful to return to the big city! You were so rustic when you were in Lhasa. "
This is my strategy, the strategy of self-protection.
During the trip, I saw those strange men always pay attention to fashionable and beautiful girls and take the initiative to strike up a conversation. That's an instinctive reaction.
If your appearance is simple, men will still be attracted to you. That's your real charm. When a man makes friends with you not because of "visual impulse", he is a relatively reliable friend.
Kim: shine, let yourself go.
The person mentioned above is "soil", protect yourself; Now, let's say that the opposite person set "gold" and released himself.
Three-point looks and seven-point makeup.
A woman is not beautiful enough, which can be supplemented by makeup, clothing and showing her own advantages.
I have a good friend who performed a sexy belly dance at the company's annual meeting, which surprised the audience.
On the stage, she is radiant and charming. Although the clothes were exposed, everyone appreciated them and didn't feel much. This is the courage to release your charm.
In contrast, some women want to show it, but they dare not.
I remember once, we went to the prairie to play, lit a bonfire at night, and everyone danced together. Some women want to dance very much, but they are afraid that they can't dance well, so they can only stand by and watch and be disappointed.
What is the charm of such a woman who doesn't even show courage?
Water: as soft as water, it moistens things silently.
False tenderness is not the same as true tenderness. After a long time, it will show its true colors.
One night, I saw a mother pull over and scold her dissatisfied 10-year-old son. She was very angry and began to pull the child's ear hard. The little boy didn't dare to say anything, but silently endured it.
I know a friend who once talked about her family. She said that she was very capable and could buy food and cook something, but the only thing she couldn't control was that the children couldn't help but do it if they didn't listen to her. A few times, I was angry from my heart and hit my son hard, causing his nose to bleed. I regret it afterwards and repent with tears, but I can't control my anger next time.
These are very common.
There was an extreme murder in the news some time ago. My mother strangled her fifth-grade son with a cell phone charging cable and then committed suicide by jumping off a building.
Why do old people say that marrying a bad daughter-in-law will destroy three generations? Here's the key.
Fire: energetic and positive.
Most women love to eat snacks, lose weight (just shouting, no action), indulge in drama, chat and gossip, go shopping until they want to give up their hands ... This is the "depression" of the new era.
Only a few women can catch fire: keep exercising, go hiking on weekends, have picnics in nature, read more books, take part in beneficial activities, make interesting handicrafts, eat delicious food and garden. ...
The atmosphere of a home, whether it is full of vitality or dull and lazy, is run by people. An interesting woman can create an interesting home.
Wood: Work hard and think independently.
I know many women. Men are philandering outside and even openly raising mistresses. Women can only quarrel and cry day and night, but they have no ability and courage to leave this man.
Why? Because there is no "wood".
Wood not only represents a down-to-earth attitude, but also represents a flourishing career.
Many women are afraid to divorce because they are afraid that they will not find a job and lose their financial resources after divorce, which is not good for their children's lives, so they fight and make noise every day, just because they don't want to divorce. In fact, this kind of family is the most harmful to children.
Many women "overcorrect", especially those in first-and second-tier cities, because of their economic independence and high efficiency, can buy houses and cars without relying on men's own money, and the yin flourishes while the yang declines, and they begin to go to the other extreme.
In life, not many people would like a strong woman to be competitive and aggressive. Only weak-willed little men who want to "struggle less 10 years" like to find strong women.
Women's strength is not aggressive, but easy to put away. The strong are strong and the weak are soft. Take it easy in prosperity and rise resolutely in adversity.
Living in this era, if a woman has these five kinds of people at the same time, and changes flexibly with different times and occasions, and constantly improves herself, then no matter what happens, this woman's life is beautiful.