(1) lacks lofty ideals and has no life goals. A lofty ideal is a spiritual pillar, which will enable people to overcome many difficulties and setbacks and make them go forward bravely. But without ideals and goals, people seem to wander in the dark, which will affect the healthy development of people's psychology and thoughts. A college student wrote in the letter: "As soon as many college students enter the university gate, the tight strings in middle school seem to loosen at once, and there is no pressure or burden, and the students are very leisurely." Many students don't study at night, so they play mahjong and poker in the dormitory, or go to the video hall and karaoke hall, which is very leisurely. There are still some students in love, both of whom are on campus and can be seen everywhere. Some couples simply sneak out of the school gate to dance in the ballroom. Because I didn't study hard, cheating in exams became a common occurrence. The police in the examination room passed by one by one, and they believed in 60 minutes ... "This is just a problem among students. In enterprises, it is common for workers to have no ideals and no goals. As they have no spiritual support, they muddle along and live one day at a time. Many of them have lived in this environment for a long time, feeling that life is getting more and more boring and their sense of world-weariness is deepening.
(2) I feel that my future is bleak because I am not reused in the company. Many young workers, with diplomas, talents and full of energy, wanted to make a career in the unit, but for various reasons, the leaders did not like it and paid no attention to it. Although not satisfied, but also very helpless, because now many business leaders are appointment system, rather than competitive employment system. What can I do if I have the ability again? Sitting in the office and office, doing nothing all day, killing time with a newspaper and a cup of tea. Day after day, year after year, the years are quietly passing, and they still have no achievements in their careers. They lamented that life was too late. It is in this environment that many young and middle-aged workers have developed pessimism, but they can't get rid of it. You don't need a major Due to environmental restrictions, there is also a lack of communication with society. Over time, they feel that their future is bleak and a sense of world-weariness arises spontaneously.
(3) The influence of unemployment on people's thinking. According to the statistics of relevant departments in China, by the end of 1995, the current situation of urban unemployment in China was: 5190,000 registered unemployed people, 9 million laid-off workers and 20 million redundant workers, totaling 34 million. Unemployment has become a serious social problem. Unemployed and laid off, many people are psychologically unbalanced. They are depressed, pessimistic and disappointed. Originally, I was the boss of an enterprise, but in a blink of an eye, I became a redundant person in society. Without wages, we have to live and provide education for our children. A series of problems have overwhelmed the unemployed and laid-off workers. Because there is no other major, it is even more difficult to find a job because it does not match the employment procedures in the society now. Idle at home, some workers can't get the understanding and care of their relatives, family conflicts are increasing, and the relationship between husband and wife is becoming increasingly crisis. In our psychological counseling, I once received laid-off women workers from a shopping mall. She said that the mall was depressed and many salespeople were dismissed. She is one of them. I have been working in this shopping mall for almost 20 years, and suddenly I was swept out like garbage and said no. I used to pay a few thousand dollars of risky mortgage, and the mall wouldn't refund it. Although I have consulted with the on-site leaders many times, there is still no result. Back home, my husband also looked down on himself, blowing his beard and glaring all day, as if he were a redundant person in this society and no one needed him. She feels so sad, so sad, and she feels that living is really boring. There are many examples of such laid-off women workers' moods.
(4) Suffering from major setbacks and blows in life, which is unbearable psychologically. There will inevitably be setbacks and blows in life, such as family changes, physical disabilities, dependence and so on. Everyone will meet it. However, due to individual differences, people's psychological endurance varies greatly. Some people encounter setbacks, failures, and blows. Instead of retreating, they cheer up and move on. They believe that these factors are the driving force for progress. But there are also many people who are devastated and extremely pessimistic after being hit. A young man wrote in a letter to a psychological counseling agency: "Since I experienced a heavy blow, people have become very negative. The fighting spirit and self-confidence in the past have disappeared without a trace. Sometimes I feel that everything in the world has become dull and I wish I could disappear from the earth. The emptiness in my heart made me lose my way ... "Our society is now in a transitional period, and the fast-paced life makes people busy running around. Many people can't bear all kinds of pressures and blows because of their weak psychological endurance. Some of them are depressed and pessimistic, and some even commit suicide, which should be highly valued by society.
5] Experiencing sex prematurely and indulging in sex. Both sexes can attract each other, and love has magical power, which can inspire people to overcome many difficulties and complete unfinished work and tasks. However, if the relationship between men and women is not well grasped, it will also lead to sexual indulgence and begin to degenerate. Because of too much experience of sex and lack of correct understanding of sex, it is easy to cause people to be disappointed with people and society, thus being world-weary. A young woman wrote in a letter to a psychologist: "I feel indifferent to life. See a diary: Who am I? " I am a dreamer, like dreams, a girl looking for dreams. Black eyes often disappear in the fog. Like some people in the world, I am wasting my youth casually. Kissing you, I am used to it, because I have kissed many people; Hugging you is like white water to me, because I have hugged many people. As I said, those beautiful words full of love are as casual as striking matches ... "There are still many young people who are sexually indulgent because they have no correct outlook on life and love. They seem to see through everything in life and are not interested in anything. Finally, some people took the road of crime and suicide.
With China's reform and opening up and the improvement of people's living standards, people's requirements for the quality of married life are getting higher and higher. As a result, various marital problems have emerged. Because one party of the marriage is dissatisfied with the marriage, in order to get rid of the depression and depression caused by dissatisfaction, they must find other ways to get satisfaction. When you seek happiness outside marriage, it will inevitably hurt the other side of marriage. A middle-aged woman told her story in a letter to a psychological counseling agency. "In the past six months, I almost went crazy. I really want to find her, scold her and block them there. Now, he often doesn't come back and asks what he is doing. Why don't you come back and live? He always says that he is busy. But I know that he rented a house outside, and his heart has changed, and he has someone else in his heart. As soon as he gets home, there will be a BP machine chasing him. Although I am a woman, I am also a human being, and no one will have normal desires. Whenever he abandons me, whenever I call him, he gives me the cold shoulder, and I just feel very angry. The pain of being abandoned often gives me headaches, insomnia, neurasthenia and endocrine disorders ... "According to the psychological counseling we have done in recent years, most of them are due to marital problems. A large number of people feel pessimistic and world-weary because of marriage problems, which has to attract the attention of sociologists and psychologists.
(7) Under the impact of the market economy, people will face many problems, such as job hunting, unemployment, re-employment, complicated interpersonal relationships, etc. If these problems are not handled well, it will give people great psychological pressure, which will lead to mental illness. Once suffering from mental illness, its pessimism is very obvious. A middle-aged woman wrote in a letter to a psychological counseling agency: "My husband is the general manager of a state-owned enterprise. In the past two years, I found that he has changed, becoming unwilling to associate with others and depressed. He always says that he is uncomfortable and irritable. Although I can persist in going to work, I always say that my ability is declining and I can't persist in my present position, and I feel very tired. He feels that life is worse than death. " Another anxiety patient wrote: "In the past five years, whenever I saw many people, I felt nervous. I was particularly scared and uncomfortable when I heard the brakes of the car. I am always in inexplicable fear and tension ... In the past six months, I feel that my hands and feet are out of control, I have difficulty walking, I need crutches, I can't lift the glass, I can't read newspapers, write, etc. On several occasions, I felt that my throat was blocked, I had difficulty breathing, my heart was tense, and I had a fear of death ... "Because mental illness caused people to be pessimistic and world-weary, these examples will become more and more common in our increasingly competitive society and should attract social attention.
Now, in another group, people's pessimism and loneliness have aroused widespread concern among psychologists, which is the mental depression of some writers and artists. Throughout the history of modern literature and philosophy in the world, many writers and philosophers, while providing spiritual food for the world, slowly consumed themselves, or committed suicide, or entered a mental hospital like a burning candle. Such as Mo Bosang, Nietzsche, Hemingway, Kawabata Yasunari, Gu Cheng, etc. The reasons why scholars and philosophers are world-weary and commit suicide are worth pondering. But at least there are some representative points, that is, the deep insight and understanding of human nature brought about by disappointment; Where is the sense of loss after the peak of creation, and where is the new goal and motivation? Because of the need of creation, the mind is always in a closed state, and anxiety, loneliness and loneliness are always deeply entangled with them, forcing them to get rid of the psychological crisis only by constantly creating (this issue will be discussed in detail later).
To sum up, we are discussing the factors that make people pessimistic and world-weary, with the aim of making people cherish life and live happily. For those who are pessimistic and world-weary, we should give them help and guidance to get rid of the crisis and face life confidently. Of course, this is also the requirement of socialist spiritual civilization construction.