Everyone is familiar with the name Guo Degang, because they have heard his cross talk more or less. He has been learning cross talk from his master since he was a child. Although he has not read many books, he often talks about some important principles of life. I think there are roughly two reasons. First, he absorbed a lot of traditional cultural ideas from the art of cross talk. Second, he went out to work in society when he was young. He went through ups and downs in the process and gained a deeper understanding of the hardships of life.
This family letter was written when his son Guo Qilin was eighteen years old. It was only broadcast on the program "Seeing Words as Faces" a few days ago and became known to everyone. It can be seen that this letter home from a few years ago was not written for the show's effect, but it was a true expression of emotion.
The full text is not long, and the content is mostly about views on human nature and expectations for sons. This letter from home is also like Guo Degang's summary of his life experience over the years. < /p>
To sum up the words in the family letter: it is difficult to ask for help, it is difficult to have no money, people are dangerous, and people are unkind.
Although these words may sound a little uncomfortable and negative, and may seem to describe human nature too ugly. But I think that today's society is cruel, and no one will help you easily, especially when you are in trouble. Therefore, sincerity is particularly valuable in times of adversity.
A few years ago, Taiwan's popular actor Ko Chen-tung was imprisoned for drug abuse, which caused everyone's temporary consternation. Later, after he was released from prison, he said that at least 50 people had deleted his WeChat messages, and these 50 people were all people he once considered friends. Examples abound.
It is indeed only when people are in trouble that they can deeply understand what the true "warmth and warmth of human nature" is. I remember that Guo Degang once mentioned his experience of "drifting to the North" in an interview on Beijing Satellite TV's "Five Star Night Talk".
He said that if he had not experienced it, he would not know the meaning of the warmth and warmth of human relationships and the warmth of the world. He recalled that he was renting in a rural area in Beijing and had no money left. Later, he accidentally discovered that he could make a living by joining an opera troupe, and his boss promised him 1,000 yuan for a month of singing. Later, after singing for a month and a half, the boss didn't pay my salary and he couldn't leave because once he left, the salary for the previous month and a half would be gone. One night, I was returning home after singing an opera and found that there was no last train, so I walked back alone. Since the road is only for large vehicles, we can only walk along a very narrow roadside. Halfway there, I feel very tired. Looking at the lights of the players in the darkness, I sighed: Where in the world is my hiding place? I felt aggrieved and shed tears.
This story is really moving after listening to it. But I think that his experience must have been experienced by many people who drifted to the north. Because they have no relatives and are under heavy financial pressure, many Beipiao can only rent in basements in Beijing.
But I also want to emphasize that we cannot completely interpret Guo Degang’s views on human nature as simply not wanting to interact with others, being on guard against others, or even being disappointed in human nature. On the contrary, his words should have served as a warning to us. Tell us to learn to make friends in life, to make sincere friends who can overcome difficulties. On the other hand, it also tells us not to have too high expectations for favors, otherwise we will be more disappointed. < /p>
In his family letter, Guo Degang stated that he did not want his son Guo Qilin to become famous. Because once a person becomes famous, it will be accompanied by a lot of troubles. After many people become famous, they have constant disputes and troubles, and even become confused. Just like the lyrics written by singer Yang Kun himself, I am lonelier than before. On the contrary, after becoming famous, I became less happy.
In modern society, many young people are eager to become famous, and even do many eye-catching behaviors to become famous, but they have never considered whether they can receive this fame. For example, if a singer becomes famous with one song, but lacks the ability to create enough works, he will soon be abandoned by the market, and he will not be able to achieve lasting fame and can only be regarded as a flash in the pan.
I also find that we are often misled by the saying "you have to be famous early". It comes from the writer Zhang Ailing and first appeared in her "Legendary Reprinted Words".
"Oh, you should become famous as early as possible! If it comes too late, the happiness will not be so pleasant."
But on the contrary, I think it is not good to become famous too early. Because I don’t have enough confidence and ability to take on this fame. More endings will only be confusion and pain. For example, Zhao Wei, who became popular in Asia with "Huan Zhuge Ge", later lamented, "I think my youth was abnormal and too bumpy. I became famous very early, and my life was very pale."
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"When it comes to making friends, it’s okay to suffer a little loss. Remember, if you talk too much, beware of deception. If you are ungrateful and think about small mistakes, you will definitely turn against you. Speak up and speak up, but in the face of disaster It is necessary to betray. It is normal to call people brothers when you meet them."
Making friends is a science, and everyone's understanding of friends will be different. But one thing is almost certain, no one wants to make friends who are ungrateful, dishonest, and go their separate ways when disaster strikes. I personally believe that you should not expect too much from your friends, treat them with a normal heart, and it is best to keep the friendship between gentlemen as light as water. Try to avoid falling into the mood where the greater your expectations, the greater your disappointment.
Attached is the full text of Guo Degang’s family letter:
The ninth day of the first lunar month of the Jiawu Year. My son is eighteen, and he has grown up as a man. The scientific name Qilin means a wonderful arrival. Later, he went to the sea, and his stage name was Qilin, which was imitated by Master Zhou. Life is extremely difficult.
It is difficult to reach the sky, and even harder to ask for help. Coptis chinensis is bitter, and having no money is even more bitter. The world is dangerous, and people's hearts are even more dangerous. Spring ice is thin, and human feelings are even thinner. There was a saying in the past: Once you fall into the Jianghu, you are a bad person. I didn’t want my son to pursue an art career, but people have their own ambitions and can’t stop me. But there are a few words that need to be made clear. Artists are divided into several categories, with various differences. One is an ordinary artist who has a certain skill and relies on his ability to make a living. First, he is a famous actor. He is well-known, but it does not mean he is artistic. There are two things to say about this. One is Jiao'er. What is Jiao'er? The mainstay on the stage and the soul of the troupe. Post your name to ensure that tickets are sold, and the whole group, young and old, will point to you to eat. Jiaoer is a responsible artist.
Guo Qilin is just eighteen, and I don’t want my son to become famous. Being famous brings a lot of troubles, one is a big one or the other is a big one. After becoming famous, there is a lot of expense, a lot of pressure and a lot of right and wrong. It's easy to become popular, but the difficult thing is to catch yourself. It’s easy to eat dumplings on New Year’s Eve, but what happens after that? You have to eat dumplings every day, but do you have so much noodles and fillings? Therefore, you need to work harder and maintain a good attitude. The main reason why many people are unsuccessful is that they respect themselves too much.
If a person is just starting out and is not crazy, he will have no future. But if you continue to be crazy, you will definitely have no future. The you in your eyes and the you in others' eyes are not the same thing. Praising yourself infinitely is just a kind of timidity. I have always believed that fear ends up being anger. Using his invincible imagination, he painted a fairy tale world for himself, with white clothes like snow coming and going like the wind. After the sword shadow flashed, you stood on the top of Mount Everest with a cold face, looking down on the common people and being extremely heroic. What I want to ask at this time is: Child, how do you get down? Not giving in to the ancients means having ambition. Not allowing today's people is called unscrupulous.
Some actors have third-level abilities, enjoy first-level treatment, have the temperament of an artist, and the state of a master in their hearts. As a result, they look like cross talk enthusiasts. As for art, it’s hard to say enough. Remember, the vulgar will make you elegant, and the elegance will make you vulgar. If someone praises you, don't believe it. If someone scolds you, don't listen. People around you may criticize you at will, but you should not interact with them because they are devoid of character.
In addition, be cautious in everything you do. Once you enter the rivers and lakes, you are as deep as the sea. From then on, your integrity is just a passerby. Although this statement is a joke, you should think twice before saying it. The children of Jianghu can pick it up and put it down.
The people around you are important. If you throw a piece of straw on the street, it is garbage. If you bundle it with cabbage, it will be the price of cabbage. If you bundle it with hairy crabs, it will be the price of hairy crabs. Including the platform under your feet is also extremely important.
How far can the same person walk in one hour? What about cycling? What about driving? What about flying? The platform will determine your speed, remember, remember.
In addition, money should be cherished, but not taken too seriously. Wealth is the most important thing in heaven and earth. It can only be left to others. The rain will destroy the flowers and the wind will blow away the clouds. Turns have come and gone, the poor have turned to riches, the rich have turned to poverty. How can there be a rich man who will live forever?
As for making friends, it doesn’t hurt to suffer a little loss. Remember, if you use repeated words, beware of fraud. If you are ungrateful and think about small mistakes, you will definitely turn against you. If you speak uprightly, you will turn traitor in the face of disaster. It's normal to call people brothers when you meet them, even if they have a close friendship.
Every time people say that poverty, longevity, and longevity are determined by their fate, don’t they know that the rewards and gifts of creation are all based on what people take for themselves? All living beings may be rich or poor, but not everyone can be proud of the world. There is destiny and luck among them. You must know cause and effect and understand good and evil. My son, please remember, but do good deeds and don’t ask about the future.