Two days ago, I shared the fairy Nie Mengyin’s “twins” and practical feedback with everyone in the book club community. After that, it aroused everyone’s heated discussion and next steps, so several friends Sign up for the event and use text sharing to find your "twin". I have to say that everyone is really positive and efficient.

I also signed up to participate. At first I wanted to take this opportunity to try to find my "twin", but as I wrote, I discovered that I had actually found my "twin", so I didn't need to. Looking again. It's just that we are not "twins" of two people, but a small team of three people, so we simply gave our small team of three people a similar name called "Twins".

I write down my experience through "Twins": link to "Twins" and the story of self-growth, and share it with everyone.

Twins are finding another you in the world. There will always be someone who makes you feel that you are on the same wavelength and have a tacit understanding. Then you can form a "twin" with this person (but there is a prerequisite that he or she needs to be at the same level as you).

You and your twin learn and communicate together, supervise each other's progress (solve problems together, share experiences with each other, and make plans together to advance goals), pushing you to reach a higher level faster.

How to find it? The most critical point is: same frequency. You must be at the same level, work hard together, and have the same dream of advancement.

(The above is shared by "Nie Mengyin")

Recall that at the beginning of 2017, I made a link to "Growing Together", and in the second half of the year I tried to link to another "Growth partners" to help ourselves and each other accelerate growth. By the end of the year, this idea finally became a reality.

Link to "Growing Together": The original intention is just to find a "fighting" partner

When a person walks alone in the dark, sometimes he will be overwhelmed by reality and can't breathe. , so I want to fight the pressure of reality with my friends.

There have been complaints and expectations, there have been self-doubts and doubts about others, there have been thoughts of disbanding the community, there have been sharing and asking, there have been cheering and encouragement, there have been receiving and giving. Only later did I realize that by doing this, we were actually growing together.

Links to “Growth Partners”: Share and Give.

After the early sharing, communication, and mutual adjustment, after the precipitation of time, it naturally formed a kind of recognition. We have a deeper understanding of each other, and then we sincerely want to do something for each other and give something to each other. For example: sharing knowledge learned, suggestions for problems, giving small gifts, etc.

When it comes to giving small gifts, the most memorable thing is: I forwarded a message to Sister Xiaosha on Weibo. Maybe because of my sincerity, I got a signed copy from the elder sister. Then I gave this book to my good friend and Growth partner "Shi". And in mid-November before the early meeting, each of the three friends in the group was given an early efficiency manual.

Because we have done these things, we have more positive links for our growth. Thinking about it on the other hand, this is like a subtle "transformation", so growth partners can also be transformed in this way (the method varies from person to person, for me it is sharing what I have learned, sending books, and giving handbooks) , because it is difficult for us to find a "growth partner" who is particularly well matched with us at once.

"Idea realization", by doing things together, we can achieve mutual growth.

Now we have formed a small growth team of three people, all with a positive heart, doing one thing together, and driving and promoting each other's growth by doing things together. For the same goal, each learns and adjusts, and devotes one's time and efforts to it without asking for anything in return.

To reach this point, we must have appreciated each other and recognized our values, so we can form a team.

Before this, I didn’t realize that what we were doing was something like “twins”. I just subconsciously told myself that the growth brought about by doing this would be better and faster than working alone behind closed doors. .

It took one year from the germination of the initial awareness to the realization of the idea. During this period, we went through several stages of sharing and communication, running into each other, in-depth understanding, appreciating each other, and recognizing values. Become a partner. The combination of the three of us can be described as "three children". Growing up together, I think it can also be four or several people with the same concept.

Therefore, it takes a process to find those with the same frequency and form twins or triplets. We must be proactive and at the same time maintain an open and true attitude towards ourselves and others. While allowing the other party to better understand us, it can also better help us and the other party to identify on the same frequency.

What you need to pay special attention to is: What you want to get from the other party, you have to pay first.

Because of what I want, I have the motivation to do it, and because of the upward spirit in my heart, I have the initiative to create without having to do anything, and because of the gains and gains, I want to do it even more. Share these gains with friends who are also budding, confused, struggling, or gaining something on the road to self-growth. Help or form alliances, give and be given. When we help others and provide methodologies for their growth, we are also helping ourselves invisibly, so helping others is actually helping ourselves.

These gains are all due to the desire to grow and change, and then proactively linking and creating, which brings about a chain reaction of clarifying the direction of self-development.

Harvest in three dimensions:

1. Self: self-affirmation, others’ affirmation, bravely and actively explore and try diversification;

21-day personal growth training Camp

21-day efficient reading camp

Grace 100-day career camp

Voice PPT community sharing

Apply to operate an early reading club

Challenge to read 100 books (2018)

Join the Touma Club (exercise the ability to express and speak)

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Application and operation Studying early would be inseparable from the encouragement and support given by my growth partners. Including other things I do, they have become my solid backing. When I learn and input new knowledge, I will share it with them, which gives me a place to export knowledge. Input and output make growth more efficient, so I am particularly grateful to them.

2. Work: Through diversified attempts, gradually determine the direction of your career development through exploration and search.

Before this, my development direction was just an uncertain idea, because the signals sent by the surrounding environment were somewhat conflicting with my own ideas, or in other words, they were not in line with what everyone expected. development. I tried it, but finally chose to find another way, and that's why I came up with such an uncertain idea.

This idea comes from the truest voice in my heart. Although it was relatively weak at the beginning, after diversified exploration and attempts, its voice became stronger and stronger until it became a firm goal in my heart today.

The aforementioned writing platform review is the result of "interest" brought about by proactive attempts. Because I was "interested" in trying it, I accidentally discovered its potential correlation with career development direction, which opened a new door for career development. This was an unexpected bonus that I didn't expect.

3. Family: Be yourself and influence the people around you subtly

Thanks to diversified attempts, your cognition and thinking are constantly refreshed. The biggest gain is the goal A complete set of methodologies for implementation. Let me know how to turn your ideas into reality.

And because I know that to achieve my goals, I need to learn through reading, I increase the frequency of reading, and then accidentally affect the people around me and encourage reading.

Also because of cognitive and ideological refreshment, children began to follow nature in raising children, allowing them to respond to the surrounding environment, people and things, and allowing their nature, interests and hobbies to emerge automatically. Let him become a sane and independent person. When you grow up, you can follow your heart and be brave enough to do what you want to do and be who you want to be.

In this year, I have experienced the awakening of consciousness of self-growth, to the initiative to create when there is nothing, to the self-development of clear goals. In addition to thanking myself, I would also like to thank my "Sanshengzi" who grew up with me and my friends who have been connected with me.

Because every friend who is connected with you is equivalent to accompanying you on a journey and helping you grow. To a certain extent, they all become your "twins" at that time. , because of each other's truth, they became "soulmates" on the road of growth.

Finally, I would like to tell you that please send a sincere gift to the friends who appear to help you on your growth path, and pass on their "goodness" (helping others and giving gifts) to others. Help more people.

Helping others and ourselves makes the environment in which we grow better, and at the same time, because we do these things, we may make our world a little better!