Every parent wants their children to grow up healthily and happily, so they always take good care of their children and try their best to work for them. However, some children are not only in poor health, but also often disobedient, which always annoys their parents and makes them feel very annoyed.

We understand parents' feelings, but do parents know what their children really need? It doesn't have to be like this.

Around us, many parents always tell their children what to do and what not to do when they encounter something; Parents always yell at their children after they do something wrong, no matter why; In the name of being good to their children, many parents confidently demand that their children be obedient, clever and sensible, no matter what their personality is.

Over time, children have invisible pressure in their hearts. Every time a child "acts", he must first consider his parents' feelings, but forget his own thoughts.

And many parents have not thought about a problem. The child is so small. Will parents kill their children's personality by doing so?

Children prefer open-minded and direct parents. They solve things simply and effectively, eat and play whenever they want, and have free time, if the requirements are reasonable.

10-year-old An An is like this. An An is a happy little boy, and his parents are straightforward and open-minded.

When other people's children are coaxed to eat by their parents all day, Ann can already cook a meal by herself. When other children were still crying when they were sick, Ann was able to think about the reasons for her illness.

This is not what Ann's parents did on purpose, but what they said and did. Ann's parents didn't spoil their children since childhood, but lived with them equally.

For example, Ann will say thank you to her parents for cooking Ann's favorite dishes, and then finish the meal and wash the dishes carefully.

There are many such things in Ann's life. In the process of getting along with An An, although parents are often ridiculed by An An as "having parents is the same as not having parents", their family life is warm and warm.

Once, Ann may have eaten too many snacks and felt bloated and uncomfortable. Maybe she has accumulated food.

Anma doesn't blindly recuperate like other parents, just let the children starve for two meals or drink some soup to recuperate, but take the initiative to read parenting books and deal with problems in a scientific way.

Ann's mother learned that food accumulation is generally a problem with the child's spleen and stomach. At this time, she should give her children some digestible food. Therefore, when arranging meals for Ann, she will prepare some ingredients that will help the child regulate the spleen and stomach and help digestion, so as to reduce the burden on the child's stomach, reduce food accumulation and strengthen the spleen and stomach.

For example, Anma will make some hawthorn cakes and cook some yam porridge, lotus root soup and millet porridge for her children.

Because these foods can strengthen the spleen and stomach, only when the child's spleen and stomach are strong and the digestion and absorption ability are improved can the child's body be healthy and healthy and the child can grow up happily.

1. Don't put pressure on children.

Many parents will give their children many interest classes, while Ann's mother will let Ann choose what she likes. No matter what is unpopular, as long as the children like it, they will support it.

The premise is to reach an agreement with Ann, and Ann is not allowed to give up what she chooses lightly.

So Ann chose her favorite drum set and studied it for two years. I have also participated in competitions in schools, communities and cities, with good results. An An is obviously more confident.

Although I am not particularly good at studying, I can ask myself. Although I am only 10 years old, I am already planning my own small goals.

2. Give children high-quality companionship

When Ann's parents are free, they often take their children out shopping and sports, so that children can often play with them and get close to nature.

An Maan said that no matter how busy she is, she will take time to accompany her children, put away her mobile phone when she is with them, and give them high-quality companionship.

Compared with other children, An An is obviously more cheerful and lively, and can also play jokes on other adults. He is natural and graceful, and his teachers and classmates like him very much.

In fact, every parent has his own parenting style and family education method, but the way Ann's parents get along with their children is worth learning.