In people's eyes, such an idea is just an extravagant hope, but in fact there are many such examples in life.

For example, Andy Lau, Alan Tam, Chyi Chin, Wang Gang and other idols of the older generation all married fans much younger than themselves.

This kind of combination, the final outcome is mostly happy, the woman washes her hands at home to make bride soup for her husband, and she is also happy to have children.

But there are exceptions For example, Geng, a military singer, is one of the "special elements".

Twenty-two years ago, Geng, who had boarded the Spring Festival Gala and became famous in one fell swoop, received a confession from a girl named.

The other party is younger than him 12 years old. He is a student of military medical university and a big fan.

At that time, considering the age gap, Geng repeatedly refused the enthusiastic confession.

But fate is doomed. Faced with his refusal, the woman never gave up. After Geng hesitated for a long time, she finally decided to be together.

Geng thought that a well-thought-out decision would make the future marriage stronger, but after 5 years of marriage/kloc-0, this relationship came to an end.

After the divorce, Geng talked about this marriage and still felt dejected.

What did the couple go through to get this far?

One,

From 65438 to 0970, Geng was born in Zibo. His parents are both cadres and he has four brothers and sisters. He is the youngest.

Rich family environment, plus being the youngest child in the family, made his childhood very happy.

Perhaps because he was loved by his family since childhood, Geng was quite naughty when he was a child.

Parents thought that with their careful education, he would take the college entrance examination step by step and work and live like other children.

But Geng just didn't take the usual path, and gave up the idea of continuing his studies in junior high school.

He looks honest on the surface, but in fact he has his own ideas. He thinks that further study is not the only way out, and developing his hobbies is more promising.

It turns out that although Geng's academic performance is average since childhood, he likes singing very much, and he likes to study the staff whenever something happens, which is almost obsessive.

Seeing that children are so "doing nothing", parents patiently educate them at first, and after a long time, they let themselves go.

After graduating from junior high school, Geng has been unemployed at home, dreaming of becoming a singer, but because he is too young, he can't find any way out, so he can only muddle along.

When parents saw his state, they felt that their children could not be wasted, so they moved the idea of letting him work early.

My father applied for his early retirement and asked Geng Huawei to take his place.

I thought that if I helped my son find an iron rice bowl, I could feel at ease in the future. Unfortunately, my father was finally disappointed.

It turned out that although Geng stayed in the factory, he had the outside world in his heart, and he didn't want to live this day-to-day life at all.

In order to break the shackles, he offered to leave without even saying hello to his family.

This decision made my father very angry. When I found out, I grabbed the guy and beat him up.

But this "beating" did not make Geng "awake". He is determined to muddle along in the outside world.

In order to realize his dream as soon as possible, Geng made a decision during his unemployment-to learn from his teacher.

At that time, a friend just introduced him to a teacher from the Conservatory of Music. With the help of friends, Geng finally met the teacher.

On hearing him, the other party exclaimed, "This child is a good prospect!" "

Second,

Despite the teacher's affirmation, tuition and living expenses are still a problem, and Geng is very confused.

Fortunately, this teacher cherishes talents, decides to accept him as an apprentice for free, and encourages him to take a walk in big cities.

With such an opportunity, Geng naturally wanted to give it a try, so he went to Shanghai with simple luggage regardless of his family's obstruction.

Although the teacher taught for free, he was not allowed to come out at home at that time and did not give much support. Being in Shanghai, he is short of money.

During his apprenticeship, in order to save money, he often made a floor in the Conservatory of Music at night, occasionally went to a friend's house to eat and live, and tried to control the expenses of the day within 3 yuan.

When he was a teenager, it was time to grow up. He was really hungry, so he went to the early stall to see if anyone else had eaten the leftover steamed bread.

Geng was given preferential treatment again after the teacher learned about "finding the law" Every time before class, the teacher will ask him to go home and have a big meal.

In this way, with the help and care of his friends and teachers, he studied in the Conservatory of Music for a year and a half.

Although life is difficult, his singing skills have been greatly improved under the guidance of professional teachers.

From 65438 to 0985, after returning from the Conservatory of Music, Geng Huawei officially joined the army and retired two years later.

After leaving the army, in order to look for opportunities, he boldly applied for a job in a military art troupe in Lianyungang and was selected with excellent voice conditions.

The days when the performance team performed everywhere gave Geng more stage experience, and his life gradually improved.

Unfortunately, the performance team did not develop very well, and it was dissolved two years later. At this time, Geng became a "tramp" again.

1990, he once again ushered in the opportunity to be a soldier and perform. At that time, the Nanjing Military Region Song and Dance Troupe was recruiting people, and he was full of enthusiasm and dreams to apply.

Fortunately, his second application was successful, and he followed the song and dance troupe to perform all over the country.

199 1 year, Geng went to Beijing to perform and saw many excellent artists and musicians in Beijing. The prosperity of the capital deeply attracted him.

Since then, he has been thinking about the opportunity to come to Beijing to develop and gain a foothold.

After setting the goal, Geng worked harder and harder, and his performance in the group became more and more brilliant. Finally, he was admitted to the Cultural and Art Troupe of the Political Department of the Second Artillery Corps as 199 1.

In the group, his outstanding voice conditions and calm typhoon were recognized by the leaders and soon became a solo in the group.

In Beijing, he had more and more opportunities to go out and sing, and since then he has been known by more people.

1997, Geng finally had a chance to become famous. He boarded the stage that all singers dream of-CCTV Spring Festival Evening.

Under the eyes of the public, he sang a song "Go Once" with Wenhua, Lv Jihong and Li Danyang, and soon became famous.

Third,

After boarding the Spring Festival Gala, Geng Huawei's career has been significantly improved, appreciated by more professional musicians, and cooperation invitations have increased.

At this time, Jia Zheng, the most unforgettable woman in his life, appeared.

At that time, Jia Zheng was still young and studying in a military medical university. She is a fan of Geng, who has taken to music.

Once, when she learned that Geng was going to perform, she made all the preparations in advance, just to see the idol style.

On the day of the performance, Jia Zheng dressed up and rushed to the concert site. She also made up her mind to take a group photo and ask for an autographed photo.

After the concert, Geng was surrounded by fans. In order to attract the attention of idols, I pushed forward desperately and finally stood in front of Geng.

When the beautiful young girl asked Geng for an autograph photo, Geng agreed without thinking.

At that time, he was white and handsome, with a gentle temperament. This first meeting moved Jia Zheng.

When she learned that the album had been delivered, she took the initiative to ask Geng for her phone number and asked the other party to contact her about the album.

Although a little surprised, Geng was puzzled by this enthusiastic girl at that time, so he really left his contact information.

From this moment on, the fate and fetters between two people began completely.

Back in Beijing, Geng quickly put this matter behind him and continued to be busy with his music career.

However, Jia Zheng began to think about it day and night. Since I met my idol, my mind is full of each other's figures.

Afraid that it would be too abrupt to call directly, she chose to write a letter as a romantic and implicit expression and began to take the initiative.

During that time, Geng received letters from fans from time to time, treating the eagerness and concern expressed in the letters as an ordinary fan.

Because of his busy singing career, he never opened the envelope. He usually puts it directly in the box after receiving it.

One day, he suddenly opened the box on a whim. When he saw that one of the letters was particularly thick, he opened it casually.

This letter is from Jia Zheng. In the thick envelope, 1 1 sealed her confession and missed her day and night. Every sentence is full of affection.

Facing the fanatical love of fans, Geng didn't show any special surprise at that time. At that time, he was nearly 30 years old, and the other party was still a little girl who went to college.

In his mind, this is a ridiculous thing, so he threw the letter aside and didn't think about it any more.

Fourth,

In fact, when she announced her love, Geng had just finished a relationship, and she didn't expect much from her feelings.

At that time, he had a girlfriend in the art troupe, and the other party was also a member of the art troupe. The two originally got along very well, but after the woman was transferred to the TV station, they gradually drifted away and slowly broke up.

The girlfriends who used to get along with each other day and night, and knew each other, were not together in the end. In the face of 12 year old fans, Geng feels even more unreliable.

Besides, it takes courage to fall in love with fans, not to mention that you are so many years older than Fang.

However, Jia Zheng didn't think so much. She still writes to her idol, and even if she doesn't get a reply, she never loses heart.

Two years after writing this letter, Geng Huawei received piles of letters, but he still didn't reply.

At this time, Jia Zheng finally couldn't help it. She tried to dial the mobile phone number she was considering.

Unexpectedly, Geng not only didn't hang up this time, but also began to exchange views and experiences on music on the phone, and found that their hobbies and views were quite consistent.

At first, Geng didn't think like that, but regarded the other person as his confidant.

Perhaps for fear of rejection, Jia Zheng also carefully maintained their relationship. Every time she calls, she only talks about her work, not her feelings.

However, the love buried in the bottom of my heart will break out one day. Jia Zheng's yearning for Geng Huawei cannot be solved by telephone.

She finally took another big step, bought a train ticket from Xi to Beijing and asked her idol out.

Meet again, the little fans are still sweet and the idols are still handsome.

Facing the fans from afar, Geng treated her to a big meal.

The meal brought them closer together. Since then, Jia Zheng has come to Beijing almost every two months.

But this relationship between friendship and love made Geng deeply uneasy. He knows that enough paper must be punctured, and he can't delay each other himself.

When Jia Zheng arrived in Beijing again, he said bluntly, "It is impossible between us. I am so many years older than you. "

With these words, he returned to his residence and refused to meet Jia Zheng.

In the face of Geng's straightforward refusal, I can't believe it. After all, through long-term contact, she believes that the two are connected.

She still went to Beijing to look for him, but Geng refused to see him every time.

Until one time, it was raining cats and dogs, and she came to Geng's residence again, he still refused to meet.

This time, she was completely cold. After returning home, she sent a short message to her beloved: "I won't bother you again."

After receiving the news, Geng, who should have been relaxed, suddenly became uneasy.

Only then did he fully understand that he really fell in love with this girl.

At that moment, he decided to let go and strive for happiness. He immediately picked up the phone and said, "Do you really like me? Then let's get married? "

Jia Zheng, such a huge anti-transfer, was at a loss: "Are you kidding?"

"I'm serious, I'm sure, I love you."

In this way, Geng went home with his little wife. At that time, my mother was still very uneasy: "Are you so old and reliable?"

In view of the dramatic love affair before, Geng confidently said to his mother, "Mom is at ease, absolutely reliable!" "

Five,

In 2000, Geng He held a wedding.

They were very happy after marriage and soon had their own daughter.

The family of three is happy, and Jia Zheng is usually busy taking care of his daughter and husband, just like a good wife and mother.

Geng continued to perform everywhere, thinking that she must bring a better life to her family.

However, the age difference and different experiences of teenagers still bring problems to their lives.

Perhaps because of the poor wandering experience, Geng developed the habit of frugality, even if his living conditions improved, he was especially frugal at ordinary times.

Jia Zheng married him after graduating from college, and he didn't suffer much. He often spends money lavishly.

Once, she took a fancy to a dress of 8000 yuan and bought it for her husband without saying anything.

However, Geng Huawei didn't understand this kindness: "Why spend money on such expensive clothes?"

This kind of thing often happens in life, occasionally quarreling and even talking about divorce.

It was just a joke at first, and both sides thought, "It's just a joke. How can we leave?"

Too many jokes can come true, and the accumulated contradictions finally let them go their separate ways.

20 15 after years of marriage, they finally chose to divorce and their daughter lived with Geng.

On the day of the divorce, Geng locked herself in her room for an afternoon, while her 10-year-old daughter stayed in another room and cried.

After he calmed down, he wanted to comfort the child, but when he saw his daughter's pitiful appearance, his father and daughter hugged each other and cried.

He has said many times in despair: I hope to remarry and give my daughter a complete home.

Talking about the future, Geng said that she has no idea of remarriage, and her daughter is still young, so she will wait until she goes to college.

I have to say that as a father, Geng is really qualified. As a husband, he also tried his best to take responsibility.

However, the management of marriage and love is not a unilateral effort, only two people work hard to have a good ending.

I hope that in the future, Geng can meet the person who will accompany him all his life!