How to choose a name? I'll give you some basic procedures-

The first step is for parents to make the first round of naming.

Free naming-both parents rank the potential names separately-exchange the ranking results and summarize the new naming inspiration and experience-collect the potential names again, sort and summarize the inspiration, and so on until you get a quality set of available names.

The so-called sorting refers to sorting the current name set from high to low according to their acceptance.

The names below the red line are "unacceptable" names, and unacceptable names should be accompanied by unacceptable reasons as taboo clauses for subsequent names.

The name ranked first should be accompanied by the reasons for its popularity, especially the inspiration for naming it.

The next round of naming depends on the inspiration and taboos accumulated in previous rounds.

In the end, you will form a large collection of names, with a large number of names that have been eliminated and favored, and there are notes behind them to deal with opinions.

The naming documents of each round should be kept well, and it is best to hand-write them in solemn small letters, because this will be an important historical document for your children and a part of your family history-it records the starting point and different possibilities of ta's life.

get this document, and then enter the second process.

Step 2, ask your respected friends or teachers to participate in the comments.

the choice of this candidate is very important-first, it is necessary to have a good character. This is not to see whether it is hypocritical, but whether it has been through the wind and rain and made achievements. This "achievement" refers to the truly admirable achievements, such as sports records, climbing several peaks, technological inventions, battlefield exploits, academic achievements, etc., and refers to those things that will not be erased even if this person "overturned" later-so official positions and property are not counted. Experienced by wind and rain, it means that this person can't only have the experience of spring breeze, but also have experienced the ups and downs of life and the vicissitudes of the world, otherwise it will be embarrassing if ta falls in an instant.

why should such people participate in the opinions?

Because TAs represent "teachers" and represent the experience and expectations of this society. At the same time, your children and TAs have the meaning of giving names, which means that their children have obtained a heavy guarantee-such people generally become the "godfather/mother" of their children. This is a strong bond.

this is even a kind of etiquette for you to conclude a relationship with ta. It is a high tribute to ask someone to participate in the naming of your children. This is a very serious relationship, and these people will not accept it easily. You can only respectfully ask for this in private, and be prepared to accept the rejection without resentment.

once you accept it, you should first explain a few points: first, your own expectations for names have been reflected in this list; Second, the final name is determined by drawing lots in a name set, not asking ta to decide directly.

there are several things that ta can ask for help: 1) help to add some names (with implications). 2) After the addition, make a ranking according to ta's judgment, and add the reasons for recommendation and elimination.

the third step is to invite your parents to participate in the comments.

similarly, give the new expanded list to four parents, and ask them to give their own names, rankings and reasons. The principle is the same as before.

the fourth step is to sort out the collected name list and finally select a short list of acceptable names.

this list must contain at least two names. Every name in it must be completely acceptable to both sides.

Step five, draw lots to decide a name.

let god make the final decision.

Step 6: Finally, save all the process documents for children to check in the future.

after this rigorous process, the name naturally condenses parents' own expectations, social norms' expectations, expectations from ancestors and God's will, so it has the strength and seriousness to carry people's destiny.

that's a good start for your children.