Xiaoman is my college roommate.
In 2008, I was admitted to a second-rate university in the province with the final score, and I was as happy as a child who got candy. Being an undergraduate in these years is a bonus for me.
This secret and subtle joy lasted until the beginning of the university. That day, when I opened the dormitory door, Xiaoman was humming a ditty and making his own quilt. Seeing me, she smiled and said hello to me. Simple words mixed with strong local accent.
But you know what? It was this girl whose Mandarin was too bad that one day dragged me to the radio station to sign up as an announcer. I looked at her suspiciously and asked, are you sure? She nodded firmly and said, give it a try.
On the day of the interview, when Xiaoman girl opened her mouth, the audience laughed into a ball. I was moved by her "overreaching". When it was my turn to go on stage, I tried my best to do one thing for the first time. Xiao Man was not on the admission list later, but I entered the radio station by mistake.
After many mornings, I can always see Xiaoman standing on the playground, watching the article like no one's watching. In the morning light, she is a little silly. It's also the first time I found that hard-working girls look really beautiful.
Xiaoman comes from a remote town. On the first day of school, she had only $50 in cash in her pocket. She has been a slut for four years.
Hurry up, study hard and try to do part-time jobs. Like wild roses that come out of the mountains, they live a hard life.
Once I couldn't help asking her, is it necessary to work so hard? She smiled at me. Haven't you heard that sentence? Children without umbrellas can only run as fast as they can. Look, only in this way can I fill my stomach.
I was shocked by this sentence. Think of a sentence in Miyazaki Hayao's cartoon: It's windy, so we should try our best to live.
Do you want to ask the later Xiaoman? I'm sorry, it may disappoint you a little. Because she works too hard, she is just an extremely ordinary girl on the streets of this city. Over the years, she has paid off her student loan and got a stable job. However, that's all, she has to work harder than us.
Because of Xiaoman, I have never said foolishly in my life after the age of 22 that it is useless to work so hard.
For some people in this world, efforts are just to live an ordinary life.
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Emily is the first female boss I have met since I came to Shanghai.
It was 20 12, and I arrived in a city because of a boy. At that time, my so-called ideal life was just to find a leisure job and go home on time every day to wash my hands and make bride soup for my beloved.
Unfortunately, Emily, my boss, is very keen on her work, and overtime is common.
Emily is five years older than me. She is very beautiful, not just beautiful, but exquisite to the bones of the atmosphere and calm. The first time I saw her, I was a little puzzled: why should this woman die with her career when she can rely on her face to eat?
Emily and I are at odds. One day, she criticized my plan that I changed overnight, and I persuaded her to get fired. But halfway through, she suddenly stopped, looked at me and said with a smile, is there probably a way out for talking back to her boss like this?
She's right. I have a way out.
My boyfriend in my senior year said that it is a man's business to earn money to support his family, and you should be responsible for beauty. Sweet talk is really good. But this fall, he cheated without warning.
My sky seems to be missing a corner and suddenly collapsed. After work, I went to hengshan road Bar to drink alone. After drinking, I couldn't tell why I called Emily, but subconsciously I felt that the city couldn't find a more suitable person to pour out her sadness.
That day was the first time I met Emily's boyfriend. I always thought that a strong woman like Emily should be lonely, but the man sitting next to her is obviously the legendary Gao Fushuai. Look at her eyes, full of love. This is also the first time I have seen Emily outside of work. She is very gentle and lovely.
That night, Emily and I chatted quietly, like old friends for many years. The next day, I received her email, and she said, do you know? Sometimes seeing you is like seeing yourself many years ago. You asked me yesterday why you worked so hard. My answer is that if you work hard, you may be able to relax in love.
I remember a long time ago in a romance novel, there was a saying: I study hard, take exams hard, and work hard for my career, so that when the person I love appears, no matter whether he has money or nothing, I can open my hand and hug him calmly.
Emily let me know that good love should be independent, and we should try our best to get together again.
Later, I became the first female boss in many little girls' lives. Occasionally, I will borrow Emily's words to remind them kindly: Girl, it is very important to work hard.
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Miss K is my high school classmate. We haven't been in touch for years. I met her again in May 20 14, and I went to Beijing on business.
Before I left, when I hung up "Who is in Beijing? I have something to ask. "On my signature, the first one jumped out. It's miss K. Her voice is bright and clear on the other end of the phone. It is difficult for me to associate her with the sad and silent little girl in my memory, and there is a fragmented unreality.
Especially the next day, when I saw her at the exit of the Capital Airport, I couldn't help but stare big eyes and sigh what time had done to her. In front of her, wearing slender jumpsuits and 8 cm high heels, she is capable and beautiful, with a calm self-confidence.
Miss k, who thought that there was no sense of existence, suddenly announced her withdrawal from school. This incident did not cause much regret. After all, with her grades, according to the normal trajectory, she may not be admitted to the university after two years.
The night Miss K left with the book, she felt very lonely. At that time, I was a young woman, and her back reminded me of a poem by lermontov: A ship sails alone on the sea/it doesn't seek happiness/it doesn't escape happiness/it just sails forward/its bottom is immersed in the blue sea/and its top is the golden sun. ...
In front of Miss K, it seems that time has turned the stone into gold.
She and her boyfriend opened a decoration design company in Beijing, and their love is happy and their career is smooth. There is no doubt that this is an inspirational story. Can you imagine, in the capital where college students rob a lot, who would believe that a little girl with no education and no experience can play design? Miss K and I are eating delicious food in Guijie Street. Talking about the past, we played down everywhere, but I still heard my blood boiling.
Miss K will find that if we work hard on this matter, sometimes we can have multiple sub-lines outside the main line. As Rilke wrote in his poem: They want to blossom, and the flowering is brilliant; But we should be mature, this is called darkness, and work hard by ourselves. Inspired by her, I spent the whole night studying my clients' personal preferences. Then I didn't touch a drop of wine and successfully signed a big order.
When some roads are impassable, you might as well turn a corner. If you are willing to work hard, any road can lead to Rome.
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Finally, I want to talk about the post-90 s girl, Judy.
On April 20 15, the team building was selected in doulaofang, Tianyaoqiao Road. Between the flowers, the sunshine outside the window is dazzling. Just last week, we were still working late into the night for a major project. Judy is also included in this group.
Judy is a native and the legendary "second generation". Her family has three demolition houses in Minhang, and 100 square meter single apartment is located in the magic capital central. Someone teased her, and we'll never catch up with you. Why do you work so hard? It's strange that Judy answered slowly, life is so long. How boring your life will be if you don't try to do something.
Some people say that she is melodramatic, but I really like this answer, which seems to answer my adolescent confusion.
In those years when I was seventeen or eighteen, everyone was rushing forward in high spirits, striving for the upper reaches without stopping. I feel very leisurely, but I don't have to work so hard. Life can't "see all the Chang 'an flowers in one day".
Many years later, I learned that some people are out of love, some are for life, and some just don't want to make life too boring. As someone in Zhihu said: If you eat Sichuan-style pork all your life, you will be satisfied. What about Chinese buns and pot-wrapped meat?
Standing on the threshold of 28 years old, looking back at the girl who said "I don't want to work hard", I can't help but sigh in my heart: it's good to be young, and all thoughts can be forgiven. Happiness is right, ambition is right, standing aloof from the world is right, and idleness is right.
But later, those girls who appeared in my life made me understand that everything is worth going all out, and hard work is always the true proposition of growth.
I have never told them that I really like the way they walk with their heads down. It looks beautiful.
I never kidnap anyone in the name of love, even in the abyss.
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