The blue-faced confidant

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The blue-faced confidant

Every girl has such a complex in her bones: I want to have a blue-faced confidant. He is not a husband or a lover, but the person who lives in your spiritual realm. He does not have to be handsome, nor does he have to be older than you, but he must be mature, wise, and considerate...

He does not have the domineering and neglectful nature of a husband, nor the greed and pain of a lover. He has the magnanimity of a man and the gentleness of a man. You discuss life and society with him, you talk freely about your ideals and emotions with him; you and he don't need to deal with each other face to face, you and him often laugh and talk on the phone. You always talk endlessly, and he always listens to your heart silently no matter what.

He is the person who knows you best besides your significant other. Sometimes there are even things you won’t say to your significant other but you will. He shares your emotional stories, and you can tell him some things that you can't tell others. Having such a close friend means you have an extra psychiatrist and a spiritual diary. He is like a trash can, which can hold all your bad moods; he is like an air conditioner, which sends out hot and cold air.

He is your most loyal listener and your truest brother and sister when you are troubled. He won't stay away from you just because of your nagging, and he won't despise you just because of your nonsense. He will tell you the best solution to the problem, and then accompany you out of your gloomy sky. And when you are happy, he will fade out of your sight and quietly enjoy your pleasure! He is the real good brother or sister in your life! !

When a person lives in this life, he will always meet a few unique people. This kind of person may be your pure spiritual sustenance, but he cannot be simply classified as a brother or sister. Just because you care about him The love you pour out goes beyond the boundaries and concepts of ordinary brothers and sisters, but you and he have never had the kind of thoughts or specific behaviors to sublimate it into love. The relationship between you is so pure that you have never even held hands.

The kind of emotion between you and him, the kind of extraordinary friendship that cannot be simply classified as the fourth type of emotion. It is between friendship and emotion, maybe. You put it above friendship and affection. Maybe in your heart it is a deeper and richer feeling than friendship and affection.

He may pat you on the back because you are sad, he may hold your hand because you are afraid of the dark, or he may cry and hold you in his arms to comfort you because you are confused, but he only stops at this. Maybe he is a romantic and affectionate boy on weekdays, but when he is in front of you, he will not do anything out of line. You two just get intimate in the joke and simulate your emotions in the joke. He is the person who doesn't care much about your words and deeds, nor your appearance. He is the person who can penetrate your appearance and get into your heart.

He will not allow himself to radiate the dazzling light of emotion, nor will he allow himself to ignite the hot flame of emotion. You miss him quietly and miss him silently. You hide him in your heart, in your spiritual home. He has always lived in your dreams. When you meet him, your loneliness and weakness will have a place to store.

For many years, he has been your emotional hotline. When you are so happy that you want to cheer for joy, you will tell him at the first moment, because you hope that he can share it even if he is not with you. Your joy and worry-free. When you are depressed and sad, you will also think of him. You just want to talk to him alone to express your emotions. You even hope that he can stay with you and give you a solid arm to lean on. Although you don't need any words or comfort from him, as long as he is willing to listen, your sorrow will slowly be released and your smile will slowly bloom.

Perhaps as time goes by, you have become dependent on his confession. You are used to missing him every day, and you are also used to contacting him every day. Sometimes you don't even dare to ensure that you and him are on the same level of friendship. You are both afraid that the heated relationship will turn sour, and you are both afraid that the content of love will exceed friendship.

At this time, the clever Lan Yan confidant will help you keep a calm mind. He will add some ice when your feelings are about to burn. He will not let himself fall into the abyss of feelings accidentally with you. Because of him, We know that "being brothers and sisters brings life, being lovers only lasts for a while." (Work review)

Such a blue-faced confidant who is open-minded and without selfish intentions should be a beautiful landscape of life, a wealth that cannot be measured by money, and a continuous relationship between each other. This friendship will become more lasting when you interact with each other innocently.

Sometimes, after you tell him, you are often afraid that your own sorrow will disturb his peaceful life. You don’t want him to bear the pain with you. You just eagerly hope for his There is only sunshine in the world. You may think of him, his tolerance, and his naughtiness because of a nostalgic old song or a scene of lovers holding hands. You may think of him, his wisdom, and his sincerity because of a familiar scenery or a similar face that touches your soul. You will think of him precisely because of the midnight starry sky and the distant moon, the joy he brought to you in the past, and the sleepless perfection he brought to you...

Perhaps, you will not be able to do it for the rest of your life. There will be a classic emotional story of "holding hands and growing old together", but because you have such a brother or sister, you will love your life more and cherish your life. It is precisely because of his existence that your life has a rainbow after the rain, and your life is full of green.

In fact, you and him are destined to be two line segments that have no intersection, two twinkling stars in the night sky that will never collide. There will be no fruitful feelings. Moreover, you feel that when you talk about feelings, it seems It blasphemes the relationship between you. This can only be a kind of pure alternative emotion that is supernatural and overrides feelings and friendship. Because of having this kind of transcendent emotion, you become more aware of a strong life and walk through that ordinary life with a smile. Even if we don’t grow old together, you are still fascinated by the endless memories and fantasies you have, recalling the past and fantasizing about the future...

You are grateful every day to have such a brother and sister. , to have such a feeling, pure and warm, sincere and long-lasting. You miss him and miss him, you leave a small space for this person deep in your heart, and quietly hold on to that indescribable emotion. Maybe you have only known each other for a few years, but it will take your life to completely forget him, and he will even stay deep in your heart for the rest of your life. However, you are very grateful to your fate and thank God for giving you this kind of life. A person, a person who makes you no longer lonely in this world, even if it is painful, is better than numbness and paleness...

Although, he will not be with you forever Although you have never asked him to do anything for you, you expect him to live a good life, have a happy family, and have a successful career. At the same time, you also know that he also hopes that you will live a good life. He hopes that you can be as happy as a jumping rabbit every day. You both regard each other's pleasure as your own pleasure.

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Forever Blue Beauty’s bosom friend

I suddenly want to use these four words as a title for you, I hope we can Can use the moments of life to appreciate. I think it is more appropriate to use it to describe the relationship between us, and it can also express my inner feelings for you. After thinking about it, I always feel that "Lan Yan Zhiji" only expresses the relationship between us, but cannot express my feelings for you. Therefore, I added three words--Eternal Lanyan confidant

You are not my relatives, nor my lover, but my brothers and sisters, which is deeper than friendship. Maybe you are just something I recall inadvertently, but you have never disappeared from my heart forever. No matter how time flies, no matter how many years pass by, you will always be my soulmate—Lan Yan’s confidant! (Complete list of guild names)

Please remember the past in our words, please remember our perfect friendship, please remember our agreement - we all want to be good! Maybe some people say at this moment that Lan Yan's bosom friend is already a fairy tale for adults.

Let time bear witness to our calmness, our upright laughter, and our peaceful state of mind. Let us continue this spotless emotion and jointly complete a fairy tale for adults in real life. In this noisy and impetuous society, even if I walk in a hurry, it is my greatest joy and satisfaction to be able to carry your smile with me through every day of my life. In this life, I only want to be your eternal confidant...

Although you will not always be by my side; although you have never asked me to do anything for you, you have I hope that I will live a good life, have a happy family, and have well-behaved children. At the same time, I also know that you expect me to live a good life, and you expect me to be as happy as a happy angel every day. You always regard my pleasure as your pleasure. To have such an open-minded and unselfish blue-faced confidant like you in life is a beautiful scenery in my life, a kind of wealth that cannot be measured by money. We can continue to communicate with each other at a distance and sincerely. I firmly believe that we must will go further. —I firmly believe that we will all be well,,

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The so-called blue-faced confidants

Blue-faced confidants refer to a woman’s intimate brothers and sisters of the opposite sex. When I first discovered this term, I felt happy and funny. Fortunately, men and women are really equal, and society is really progressing. A hundred years ago, every scholar and celebrity could confidently desire a confidante, but which ordinary girl dared to openly declare how much she longed for a male confidante? But today, if anyone wants to have a blue-faced confidant, it is not an exaggeration.

What’s funny is that when the word confidante has been used vulgarly by ordinary men, the term “confidante” suddenly pops up, which is always a bit half-truth and half-false. Yi Shu said at the beginning of a novel called "Total Eclipse of the Heart": In the past, it was men teasing women, but now it is women teasing men. She lives in Hong Kong and her views are a step ahead of ours. What she said 20 years ago is not outdated at all when applied to us now. In social situations and office environments, a little teasing or two, as long as it is moderate, can be a good way to adjust to a boring life - everyone is happy, no one is following whom!

In fact, it’s not that there were no blue-faced confidants in ancient times, but everyone didn’t see them that way at that time. It was a patriarchal society, and the majority of social voices were men. Therefore, the public voices were all from a male perspective and standpoint. From today's perspective, it may not be what they say. Talented women in ancient times were either ladies or famous prostitutes. Most ladies are generally reserved and have limited exposure to society. Their works are rarely circulated. Therefore, although there are few left, there may not be that few real talented women, but they have been forgotten and hidden by history. And famous prostitutes are openly loved by both boys from ancient times and girls today. They have many contacts and extensive experience, and have developed a romantic attitude. They are both talented and beautiful, and have excellent sex and skills. They have become the objects of men's yearning and admiration. The famous prostitutes at that time were probably similar to some of the female stars of today, and they seemed to be more affectionate, frivolous, less tasteful and connotative than the female stars of today. Therefore, many celebrities and elegant people took it as a pleasure to make friends with the famous prostitutes for a while. Su Xiaoxiao, Li Shishi, Chen Yuanyuan, Liu Rushi, Dong Xiaowan, there is a long list as soon as you open it. Literary poets, poets, children of aristocratic families, prominent officials, and even emperors are all attracted by it, isn't it beautiful? Drag it? That's what Qingcheng is called. During the Republic of China, it is not difficult for people to understand that Lu Xiaoman was willing to be a social butterfly as a young lady. These men are lucky enough to make friends with famous prostitutes, and they proudly call them confidantes. The confidante has no need for food, rice, oil and salt, and no fatigue in front of the hall. She can play chess, calligraphy and painting, sing the wind and admire the moon. She has truly fulfilled the thousand-year dream of Chinese literati to be elegant.

However, for these women, no matter whether the evening scene that has yet to come is bleak and miserable or stable and peaceful, what are those men to them in those good days? They were willing to spend huge sums of money for them, and took turns waiting in line to invite them for outings, drinking wine, singing poems to each other, and singing. There were really three or two among them who could talk to them and know their interests. They not only accompanied them away from their lonely time, but also made their lives easier Flying and joyful, judging by today's standards, this is the ideal state of a blue-faced confidant, right?

The other day, I saw a standard for a blue-faced confidant listed from a woman’s perspective on the Internet. It is to share her troubles and care for her, but at the same time, it should not burden her with love or sexually intrude on her. Basically, The equivalent of a mentor. While I was laughing, I suddenly remembered that in my school days, a group of girls were chatting and discussing what kind of male brothers and sisters they would have in the future. I remember that many girls said they wanted to find a big brother who looked like a big brother. It was such a delicate, childish and shallow wish. ! What is big brother like? It is forbidden for you to date boys alone before the age of 20. Even if you are not as smart as you, they will always worry that you will fall into a trap as soon as you enter society, or force you to wash a lot of sweaty outdoor clothes and smelly outdoor clothes for him by grabbing your pigtails. sneakers. Of course, brothers in the world are all different, but they are not exactly what you expected.

Are any boys willing to be a girl’s confidant? I haven't done any research, so I don't dare to make any conclusions, but a good boy is usually under pressure. No matter how he treats girls, they are only a part of his life. He won't spend all his energy and time like the boys in Qiong Yao's world. To think about girls, not to mention too many girls. Of course, when it comes to girls, the first thing he wants to think about is the girl he loves, and then comes the girls who only dream about his blue-faced confidant. Of course, if there is a girl who is really outstanding and a man loves her, he may be willing to be her confidant and have such a simple and perfect wish. But there are two prerequisites, one is that you are really outstanding, and the other is that he loves you. Are you outstanding enough? How many women can answer this question in the affirmative without changing their expressions? So, does he love you? Two more questions immediately came up. Ask yourself first: Why does he love you? Then ask again, if you fall in love, is that still the standard you set for Lan Yan’s confidant? For a normal man to love a girl, it would be unbelievable if it were not for physical and mental desire. (Funny signature)

If excellent boys are like this, then there are only two types of people who are willing to deal with girls. One is those who have nothing to do and only make friends with many brothers and sisters of the opposite sex to show off in front of the same sex. The boring boys in the capital are, firstly, they are just selling themselves off, they are lustful, greedy and love-struck experts who are bent on catching little girls. But what can they give you? In the end, did it make you tired or did it just leave you with a lot of pain or regret?

Or you love him and are willing to regard him as a confidant. He will take care of you a little out of a little apology out of vanity satisfaction, but this care is contrary to your original intention of being a confidant. . Precisely because as long as love is involved, attraction and ambiguity cannot be ruled out. In that case, it would be better to simply say that you want a romantic encounter than to say that you want a close friend. What's more, we haven't calculated how many men there are who can be a woman's confidant? How many women are there who are worthy of being a man’s confidant? There is always a war between the sexes. They desire each other, love each other, disdain each other, and set off each other. No one looks down on the other, and no one can live without the other.

If you accidentally stumble over a brick when you are walking one day, and when you pick it up, it turns out that it is not a brick, but a close friend. Hey, no matter how beautiful he is, just treat him with care and cherish him. But when you have nothing to do, you should learn to act like an adult and find interesting things for yourself to do. Don't just think about which day your blue-faced soulmate will fall from the sky. It is enough for one person to be polluted by his own emotional garbage, and it is no longer easy to spread it indiscriminately. If you rely too much on the opposite sex to give more and take less, it will only prove your own naivety and unforgivable selfishness. Even if someone wants to be a confidant, they would not want to be such a person.

In fact, real sufferings generally cannot be shared by others for you, but the difference between sharing the glory of a day with many people and with few people is not that big. What's more, we all living beings, how many opportunities for glory will God give us? As for ordinary and trivial things, even if we don't sell them around, the world will not be short of them. It is better for us to do more than to do less.