"You can't ask yourself when you do something" means: I love others, and others don't come near me. I have to ask myself if my kindness is enough; If I manage others but I can't manage them well, I have to ask myself whether my knowledge and ability are enough; I was polite and didn't get a response. I have to ask myself whether my attitude is respectful enough. If any behavior does not achieve the expected results, we should ask ourselves well and check ourselves.

This sentence comes from Mencius and Li Lou. ? Original text: Mencius said: "If you don't love your lover, you will be kind; There is no medicine to save people, which is contrary to wisdom; Courtesy people don't answer, but respect them-those who don't do well are self-seeking, and integrity is returned to the world. As the poem says, "Always say what you want and seek more happiness from yourself." Do one thing, don't ask for more happiness. "