If you love her, tell her face to face, don’t hide it. Even if she doesn't agree at the time, it doesn't matter. At least she knows that you are asking for her most, which is very important. I usually treat her well and do what she likes, even though it sounds ugly, but who doesn't do that? Why don't you go to her in the car and tell her that you love her and want to be with her? You should consider it.

The above is my own idea, and the following is what I just saw, and I think it makes sense. You can learn from it.

I am a girl. I am disgusted when I see some boys who want to chase the girl they like but dare not chase her, and also want others to chase her instead.

From a girl’s words From a perspective, I understand girls’ psychology better. Most girls will not take the initiative to pursue the boy they like, unless they really like him too much or are brave girls with more personality. So, if you like a girl very much and think she is also interested in you, then take the initiative and don't get into a tug-of-war with her. If you feel uncomfortable, the person you like may suffer too.

Whenever a girl is chased by someone, her psychology is very complicated. She may be happy, but she is also a little scared. She has an ambivalent attitude toward this boy who breaks into her peaceful life. She does not mean to refuse him but welcome him. Don't think that she is testing you, she is actually fighting with herself, and she is afraid of being hurt.

Don’t be afraid that your initiative will offend her. If you don’t take the initiative, she won’t take the initiative either, and she will slowly fade away. If your initial confession is rejected by her, that's normal. Don't be discouraged, who knows what this girl is thinking?

Maybe if you confess your love twice more, she will be moved by you. A good girl with a kind heart is easily moved.

If you suffer a setback, leave immediately, never talk to this girl again, protect yourself tightly, and lick your wounds silently. While you are in pain, little do you know, that girl Maybe I am feeling regretful and regretful in my heart! Maybe she will cry secretly and regret rejecting you. She will also be very sad when she sees your indifferent eyes, but she will not tell you and will definitely not ask you to come back and chase her. Your excessive self-esteem may hurt a girl's sensitive heart.

She will think that you don’t really like him, otherwise why would you just give up on her?

Some people say that it is so difficult for boys to chase girls. But my feeling is that this phenomenon is inseparable from the social role positioning of men and women. From a physiological and social perspective, women are always passive. If, on the other hand, it were the other way around, making men shy and women moving forward courageously, the world would be in chaos! A woman's shyness is always beautiful and touching~ I have always heard that a brave man overcame many difficulties and finally won the heart of a beautiful woman. There are very few examples to the contrary.

Some boys are afraid that others will say that they are stalkers and get a bad reputation. But I think that when a boy pursues a girl he likes and continues to be nice to the girl after some setbacks, it means that he really likes her and is sincere. If he doesn't succeed, he doesn't regret it. It's nothing, right? Who made people like it? I hate other people messing around the most, and I also hate boys who have no idea of ??their own and care too much about what others think of them. Such boys deserve to be unable to find a girlfriend.

If you are a man, be brave. Girls are inherently emotional and easily immersed in love. Although you have worked hard, once your sincerity touches her, you will get more and longer love. Such examples abound around us. Girls are very gentle and considerate to their boyfriends. In exchange for this sweetness, what is the hard work in the beginning? And most good girls are very devoted and dedicated in love.

Therefore, I suggest some boys to be brave and pursue the girl they like. Don’t be so timid. Firstly, it will make others think you are not manly. Secondly, it will make you feel uncomfortable. But the most important thing is: in the end you get nothing. Happiness is always earned by yourself, don't expect others to give it to you!

One more thing, I think it’s good to be proactive, because your goal is something you really like. Girls are often passive, and passive people can only choose to accept or reject, so I would rather take the initiative. , love what I love, no regrets!

------- Life is beautiful, happiness is in it, you must learn to look for it!

1. What kind of first impression should be left on MM (Time: Just started contacting MM)

·I think the most important thing is to let MM see your ambition.

The greatest charm of a man lies in his successful career. Young people do not work long hours and cannot be considered "successful". At this time, you have to make your girlfriend think that you are a motivated person.

You can talk nonsense about other things, but this question cannot be vague. You must tell MM that you are full of confidence in the future, you are not satisfied with the status quo, and you already have long-term plans. In short, your future Not a dream.

·Be confident and responsible

Don’t be like a child. Girls are lazy and want to find someone to rely on. You have to show your confidence and sense of responsibility. Come.

Having a wrong choice is much better than having no choice at all.

·Don’t be too serious, but don’t be too casual either.

Be serious where you should be serious, and laugh when you should laugh.

Girls like men who are a little cynical, so don’t appear to care about anything, as that would be too dull.

·Look more mature

Men who are calm and unhurried in situations have a fatal attraction to girls.

2. How to have further contact with MM (time: the beginning of chasing)

·The most important thing at this stage is not to be anxious and not to make things so clear that others You can tell at a glance that you are chasing someone.

Think about it, most people will not fall in love with you at first glance, but they will also not hate you at first glance. They are all ordinary people’s children (unless you look like Chow Yun-fat, Andy Lau or Kevin Coster) (Na), goodwill needs to be realized as understanding continues to increase, so the key to the problem is the opportunity for further development you want.

Let’s think about it from a girl’s perspective: If you rush over to find someone so directly, the girl must be under psychological pressure. If I find out that I don't like you after being in contact for a while, wouldn't it be like playing tricks on you? So if you come out with a determined attitude from the beginning, you will basically be put back immediately.

·Start with a low profile

First of all, you must position the relationship as a "friend". It is originally an "ordinary friend". If you want to become a "good friend", you can also ask for it if you have good taste. If the other person becomes a "confidante" or something like that, never say "chasing you".

Think about it, if you don't mention "chasing" at all, then the girl will have less chance to "reject" you - how can she reject you if you don't pursue her? !

This can reduce the psychological pressure of girls and enable you to have a smooth relationship. Don't imagine that you will agree to marry you after only three days of knowing each other. You need to fully communicate and understand each other. Feelings do not arise out of thin air.

·Don’t be too impatient in the process of dating

Be relaxed and don’t pester others all day long. You will get tired of anyone who treats you like this. A good friend of mine told me that the key to chasing a girl is eight words - "hot and cold, playing hard to get" (this is the culmination of many years of hard work by my classmate).

Of course they won’t think well of you if you keep pestering them all day long. If you cool off for a day or two, girls will remember the benefits of your presence.

Also, don’t have the ambition of “I won’t marry you unless you are the one”. It’s not good if the price is too low. Sometimes you can use some tricks.

·Create opportunities appropriately

As mentioned before, don’t make things immediately turn into “you are chasing someone else”, and you need to get the opportunity to get close to girls. At this time It depends on your creativity.

You can collect intelligence and find ways to turn waiting around into an encounter; you can also pretend to be casual and find the most sufficient reasons to invite the other person to do something with you.

In short, this is the most technical place. If it doesn’t work, you can ask your seniors for advice.

·What to avoid: It is impolite to give gifts to others casually.

Some people are eager to chase girls and like to buy things and give them to others. However, they do not know that this is the most taboo thing for chasing girls.

As the saying goes, "No reward for no reward." If you give people things like this, you are putting pressure on them. People will feel that they owe you something, so they will find a way to pay you back. If they can't pay you back, they will Find a way not to associate with you so that you don't always owe you favors.

If you want to show your sincerity, you might as well ask a girl to spend money together, such as finding a good restaurant to eat, or finding an expensive place to play together. Girls will naturally be able to see that you spend money. It's a lot of money, but after all, the money is spent by two people together rather than turned into things to take home.

3. What exactly is a "girlfriend"?

·"Girlfriend" is a fact, not a promise

When you start dating a girl, you change from "ordinary friends" to "good friends", and then to "A very, very good friend who talks about everything", you "accidentally" held her hand on a sunny afternoon; "Moon above the willows", you suddenly attacked and kissed her. At this time, she is already your girlfriend. Whether she admits it or not, she already thinks that you are her boyfriend.

I know that the smartest person never asked "Will you be my girlfriend" until we went to bed? In the end, the girl got anxious and said, "Why don't you ask me to be your girlfriend?" ”

Therefore, don’t rush to pierce the window paper. The more hazy the situation is, the better it is for you.

·What is "confession"?

As mentioned before, confession is actually just a formality. The correct sequence should be: Only when she has actually become your girlfriend can you confess your love to others, and it will be a matter of course. Many people don't understand this issue and always think that someone agrees to be their girlfriend first and then does whatever they want. I can only say that it is very, very "simple" and very, very "stupid".

·Is there ever a time when you “have no choice but to express your feelings”?

Yes, for example, a third party appears, or the relationship between you and the girl is not mature but the two of you may be separated for a period of time.

The confession at this time is an immature confession, and the risk is very high. It is similar to the serious situation when playing Go. The lagging side is forced to release the "winner's hand", and if it wins, it wins. If you lose, you can only say "Unlucky people are born".

·Don’t say the word "love" easily

I often see "bold confessions" appearing on forums. To be honest, I really think this is a very immature performance. "Love" is a sacred word, which means pursuit, commitment, and even a kind of responsibility.

Men who say "love" casually are irresponsible.

4. Civilized love cannot be forced

·Not every girl can be chased

There will always be many people chasing good girls, it is impossible When everyone's wish comes true, there will always be losers. For example, even if you study hard and master the most amazing principles of chasing girls, you still can't catch up with anyone in TWINS.

To think about the problem from another angle, a rural nanny who has not graduated from elementary school, no matter how nice she is to you, earns 600 per month and buys you 700 gifts (overdraft), and is willing to "become a horse" for you. "You won't fall in love with her either. If she cries and pesters you every day, you will definitely feel annoyed.

So love needs a material foundation, or at least a balance.

·Chasing girls is a serious social activity

Don’t annoy others and leave a way out for yourself. Why should a man worry about not having a wife? Some girls are indeed snobbish (a minority). If you are not convinced, you can work hard and use facts to prove that "she was blind at the time." Never mislead others or yourself.

Finally, I would like to add that you must not appear cynical in front of MM. Being cynical sometimes means "you are a failure".

I found something again, I don’t know if it will be useful to you. Some of the moves are pretty funny, but most of them are pretty good. Say to you again: Come on! ! ! !

100 tips to make her fall in love with you to death (a must-read for men; a must-read for women)

You don’t have to give her diamonds and agates, let alone buy her a car and a house, as long as you can Here are a few little things to ensure that she will love you forever.