In the face of crazy courtship, some netizens think that they can fabricate a beautiful lie to refuse love. "I usually tell him that I am married, don't you know?" Netizen Xiaole said that this move has been tried and tested. "You say that you have a boyfriend, and others will not give up, but when you say that you are married, others will automatically give in."
The background of the news story
On February 24th, an amazing thing was exposed on the Internet: Zhou Yan, a female middle school student in Hefei, was burned and disfigured by Tao Rukun with a lighter because she refused to be courted by her classmate Tao Rukun. On the night of September, Tao Rukun came to Zhou Yan's home to get back at Zhou Yan. He poured lighter fuel in Sprite bottle on Zhou Yan and lit it, which caused Zhou Yan to suffer multiple burns on his face and neck.
After the tragedy, in an interview with Anhui media, she said that Tao pursued him during her school days, but she never thought about it. Tao tried to stay with him for weeks by coercion and threats, but her reflection with teachers and parents had no effect.
After the incident was exposed, it became the focus of public opinion, and more people began to reflect on how to avoid such a tragedy.
It was in the flower season, but it was disfigured by crazy pursuers. Recently, Zhou Yan, an Anhui girl of 17 years old, was shocked by the disfigurement of her classmate's courtship. While feeling sad and sympathetic, people began to explore why this tragedy could not be avoided in time. This newspaper, combined with netizens' suggestions on how to face crazy courtship, invited psychologists to make a detailed analysis on how to refuse love. Women, learning to refuse love is also a science!
How should women protect themselves in the face of crazy suitors? Netizens express their opinions, express their opinions and brainstorm. Female friends must learn two tricks! Hard-line rejecter
Netizen pink said that she met a crazy suitor when she was studying. "That man is terrible. He often harassed me in the classroom, intercepted me in the corridor, and tried to be chased by him and escaped into the ladies' room. I write a love letter every day, keep calling home and follow me home on a motorcycle. "
Netizen pink's approach is to resolutely refuse and ignore him. "I never say a word to him, don't reply, don't answer the phone, and chase him on the road and ignore him. I think women sometimes get hurt because they are soft-hearted, so they must be firm. He once asked a friend to tell me that he had an accident driving a motorcycle and how he wanted to see me, but I didn't relent. Slowly, after a year, the man stopped chasing me. "
Netizen optimist works in a company. One day, a customer saw her and started a crazy pursuit. Waiting for her at the company gate with a bunch of flowers every day. When she came out, she presented flowers. The netizen optimist turned down the suitor face to face, but the suitor still didn't give up. Later, the netizen optimist found the family of the suitor and asked the parents of the suitor to forbid him to harass himself.
However, the netizen optimist did not expect that the suitor actually appeared at the door of the company again a week later. The netizen optimist was distressed and finally made up his mind to resign, so that the pursuers could never find themselves again.
It is even more "shameful" to euphemistically refuse to send the netizen Shanshan. "He and I are classmates, and it was really painful during that time. He kept hurting himself and threatening me to be with him. He scratched a lot on his hand with a knife. It's no use beating him, scolding him and begging him. I dare not tell my teachers and classmates, or even my closest family. On the surface, everyone thinks that I am with him. In fact, I often cry by myself and don't know what to do. "
Faced with the threat of self-harm from crazy pursuers, Shanshan found it useless to refuse him again. Finally, she had to choose to accept his kindness to herself and become very good friends, but she didn't promise to be boyfriend and girlfriend with him. Finally, Shanshan was admitted to a distant school and gradually moved away from the crazy pursuers.
Netizens have always had suitors around them, but she always gets along well with them. She said her secret was to be friends with suitors. "I never refuse them face to face, but I will let him know that he can only be my friend." The way netizens swim is to integrate their pursuers into their circle of friends. "They all know that it is impossible to be with me. I am the same to every friend."
Assembly liar
In the face of crazy courtship, some netizens think that they can fabricate a beautiful lie to refuse love. "I usually tell him that I am married, don't you know?" Netizen Xiaole said that this move has been tried and tested. "You say that you have a boyfriend, and others will not give up, but when you say that you are married, others will automatically give in."
expert opinion/advice
Deng Zanpeng, a national psychological counselor of Huang Shoupa Psychological Counseling Center in Foshan, believes that when refusing love, considering that direct refusal may hurt people, Deng Zanpeng suggests that women can refuse through some suggestive behaviors and language, or through a third party. But if the hint is invalid, it is necessary to make it clear, dispel the idea of heterosexual pursuit and prevent the pursuit of action.
"For example, some girls throw away the flowers of their pursuers, thinking that this is a rejection, but the other party will think that they are willing to give him a chance and should refuse." Deng Zanpeng said. When both explicit and implicit are invalid, women must try to avoid each other. "If you have to contact, you must be in public." . "Even if you make an appointment with the other party, you will also make an appointment in a public place. It is best to find a friend to accompany you and get more personal protection."