A long time ago, I changed my signature to "inflammable and explosive".

I think Chen Li's lyrics make me understand that being young is to distinguish between love and hate, and being alive is to make myself happy.

At one time, I especially liked the word "young". In the eyes of many people, youth is a derogatory term, which is often associated with exuberance, impetuousness and unreliability. But I think youth always gives people an upward tension, full of surprises everywhere, even if they are about to face mysterious and changeable fantasies, they feel infinite possibilities.

In the eyes of many people, "post-90 s" is still a derogatory term, with temper greater than skill, no perseverance, no direction and no pursuit. It seems too much to use all the less glamorous words on us.

We have become "three noes" unreliable young people, hanging around in the tripod built by our parents all day, looking very practical. In fact, paper tigers are very strong. As long as we pull out the screw in a certain part, in an instant, we will become shaky because we can't find the fulcrum.

Words such as "unreliable" and "unreliable" are always avoided, neither fish nor fowl, which is a common problem of the weak. But what they don't know is that it is because of the unreliability and vacillation in youth that more possibilities are derived in the future, which can be advanced and retreated, and can be attacked and defended.

"When you are young, you should be frivolous, profligate and unreliable. You should look back every five years and think about what you have said and done, just want to slap yourself. You can be mature for many years in the future, and you should be young when you are young. "

Gao Dui said such a thing. In fact, it means that you are still young and don't need to be so mature and reliable. Not reliable, the meaning here is not to encourage you to break your promise and deceive others, but not to be too disciplined.

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What I'm talking about here is not reliable, not encouraging you to be reckless, degenerate, negative and paralyzed. I just hope you are not too boring, too noisy and too snobbish, too kitsch and too cheap, and do what the world wants to do.

No one insists that you must live like a young man and play a mature and steady role. A blunt role will only make your growth dull. On the contrary, sometimes it is this uneasiness that makes it possible to have strong endurance.

The greatest potential of a person in this life comes from the constant struggle and accumulation when he is young, finding a career that he likes and is good at, and realizing the leisurely and quiet process when he is old through constant trial and precipitation.

You don't have to live like a pool of stagnant water in the dead sea, without waves. If you can, I hope you have your own sharp edges and sharp curves. Go ahead and wash away the potholes on the road.

Some so-called reliable young people in the mouth of adults returned to their hometowns with fixed wages, began to form families, and began a quiet life; Some get married and have children in a foreign land, and live a life of 3. 1 minute.

Young people who are unreliable have also begun to work stably in big cities and find their own world.

I was once said by my parents to be unreliable. When I was 25 or 6 years old, I lived alone in Guangdong, single and comfortable, and occasionally walked. Parents think that a person can't do well outside and spend so much time doing nothing. I also asked my acquaintances at home about the examination time of civil servants in my hometown, and even Taobao sent me a full set of civil service examination books. However, it is this "unreliable" day that has accumulated rich social experience and contacts for me.

My uncle likes playing music. People who are nearly 60 can't stop playing with their feet when they hear music. It is not reliable to be collectively vomited by family members. Later, my uncle simply opened a musical instrument store, and at the same time enrolled students part-time, doing residual music, and went to a professional music teacher to certify drum sets in China. As a result, the music store is getting bigger and bigger, and the business is getting more and more prosperous.

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The first condition to judge whether a person is reliable is the job and income that people often refer to. But there are too many things in the world that are more important than work and income.

Xiao has a lot of cats. My friends say that it is not reliable to raise so many small animals at such a low salary, but I don't know if he can't bear to watch the small animals wander and adopt stray cats around him with love.

Xiao B is single, freelance, living in a village in the city, and his card balance is less than 4 digits. My friend said that he did so badly in a big city, but he didn't know the software program he had been investing in. Turing is his spiritual idol.

A small C designer, as soon as she got off work on time, everyone in the company said it was a wonderful thing to refuse to work overtime as a designer, but she didn't know that her mother was ill in bed all the year round and needed her to go home and cook dinner every day. The design work is done by Xiao C staying up late at home and working overtime.

In my opinion, the "unreliable" stage is actually a transition to maturity. Those young and frivolous, wanton and indulgent, converge, warm and soften with the bitter taste of the world. Not to flatter the secular life, but to make the high-profile heart gradually close to the quiet years.

For example, read more useless books and take some useless roads.

For example, meet more interesting people and have no scruples about what you once wanted.

For example, despair of dreams and heartbreak of love.

For example, take a bus to travel to the south and travel to distant places.

I dare not do it when I am young, and I dare not do it when I am old. If you don't do it when you are young, you won't even have good memories when you are old. You hope that by that time, when you think about life, it will be stable, stable and calm for so many years, just like a straight line, or there have been warm fragments, lost fragments, ups and downs and passionate, just like this sentence in Kerouac's On the Road.

"Always young, always in tears."

The truth is, most people will not be young forever, nor will they be in tears forever. Most of them have become middle-aged and elderly people who have been severely defeated by life.

Those fleeting beauty, you are like a few treasures, those violent malice, you forget with the wind. It doesn't matter whether it's good or bad, but it's mixed with a little restlessness and leads a free and easy life.

The so-called unreliable, in fact, is to put all your eggs in one basket after careful consideration, not as respectful as life, with a little "crazy" air, but also have enough capital and confidence.

I hope our future is precious and gentle, unreliable but enough to hit the floor. After the tempering of life, I can proudly say:

It doesn't matter, I'm still young anyway.