Xiao Jing, a college roommate, just got divorced last month. She changed her signature in the circle of friends to: Unmarried girls, don't get married casually for any reason!

Xiao Jing and her ex-husband met through family blind date five years ago. At that time, the ex-husband's family had been engaged in coal mining business for many years, and it was also a leading wealthy family in the local area. The son was an only child, and the old couple's future business and family business were naturally inherited to the future son. Xiaojing's parents are also delighted that their daughter will soon join such a wealthy family.

For Xiao Jing, when she came from her hometown to study in the city, she longed for free love. However, she was worried about her growing age in the face of a series of desperate calls and phone calls from her parents and relatives in her hometown. In desperation, Xiao Jing had to be deeply mired in the persuasion of everyone and quickly registered her marriage with her ex-husband after graduation.

Shortly after marriage, the state supervised the private exploitation and management of rare resources. All coal mines privately operated by individuals were forced to close down, and the business of the husband's family was forced to close down. The living expenses of the whole family fell to the two newly married couples for a time.

Later, when I looked at Xiaojing's circle of friends, almost all the words were resentful. From her living conditions, I saw a woman image full of resentment and boredom, but the lively and cheerful girl who used to be on campus was gone.

However, girl, I want to tell you that getting married casually because of age and others' urging will eventually drag you into darkness.

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People's prejudice against women's age has a long history, and this superficial discrimination against older women has already penetrated into the bone marrow.

There are too many people around us, talking about falling in love, coping with falling in love, and planning falling in love. Many people can't wait to get married hastily just because they are of marriageable age. Faced with the intimidation and inducement of family members and the pressure of public opinion, I was forced to compromise and married a similar person.

Bi Shumin once wrote a sentence in the book:

In fact, it is not marriage that has changed our feelings, but that we have chosen to compromise from the beginning. Everyone knows how difficult it is to meet the boy in white in a limited youth, and it also requires some effort and luck, so everyone replaced effort with choice from the beginning.

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A happy marriage comes from your persistence.

I once read a story on the Internet: The author told me that her 45-year-old aunt, who was about to get married, was young and beautiful since her twenties, and there were countless suitors. However, when she didn't meet a suitable suitor, her aunt resolutely left her original post and started her own business while constantly improving her education.

in her thirties, she bought a house by herself, and at the same time attached great importance to her external image. She never failed in beauty, yoga and fitness dancing, and finally met her lover at the age of 4 and got married.

maybe this is the meaning of waiting. I believe that the aunt in the story, when she was young, saw others showing off her husband and sunbathing her baby, but she was also sad at the same time. She also looked forward to having a home under the lights of the Chinese New Year holiday. However, her yearning and persistence in a beautiful marriage can make her resist the temptation of the outside world and the pressure of others and wait for the really right person.

Thinking of the actor Wang Zhiwen, who was unmarried when he was on the column of Art Life, the host asked him:

"Why aren't you married? What kind of person are you looking for? "

Wang Zhiwen said, "I want to find someone who can talk at any time."

So, girls, you see, a good marriage is based on our choice. Choose the person who has the same topic and the same language as you, and choose the person who has similar views and interests with us. Never let your own compromise and make do ruin your marriage.

(Day 4 of the Fourth 9-day Training Camp)