This is how it happened

A female classmate asked me the morning before yesterday

What does 5M mean?

At that time In order not to teach bad students

I glanced at her and said calmly

It doesn’t have any special meaning, it just means insomnia

I saw it the next day

That classmate’s signature became:

It took me 5M all day yesterday

My legs are weak at night now

Needless to say, she was catching up with a knife!

Actually, it’s not just this girl.

Many classmates said backstage

This kind of behavior really makes me sad. It’s hard for people to understand

What is 5M?

Is this person a bit perverted? A masochist?

Is there any childhood shadow

Far beyond the ones in the movie

Painless massage techniques

What is BD5M?

These two letters that make you ashamed to speak

Why do they shake?

It seems that you can read them aloud

Used to describe some people Shy behavior

SystolicMurmur

(Heart) systolic murmur

I feel very happy when I skin it~

S=sadi5M

(The abuser of the domineering CEO)

M=masochi5M

(The abuser of the innocent little lamb)

In fact, it is accurate to say It refers to the name BD5M

Actually, this is just a normal shyness preference. First of all, the biggest difference between it and mental control and physical abuse that everyone is easily confused with is:

It takes place at a specific time and in a private location, with informed consent from both parties, respect for each other's personality, and is enjoyable for both the abuser and the abused.

Just like in the classic movie "Fifty Shades of Grey", the male protagonist abuses the female protagonist with toys. Have you seen the slightest pain on her face? On the contrary, her eyes are full of expectation and anticipation for the unknown. Enjoy being whipped. The male protagonist in "Fifty Shades of Grey" has a classic line "Idon;tmakelove,If**khard" (I'm not shy, I'm fierce)

But the fact is not just that, the male protagonist makes love every time Whenever he makes an exceptional request, he will ask for the consent of the heroine, and even set up a safe word for her. As long as the heroine says the safe word, the hero will immediately stop. In addition, he will also explain and consider carefully for the heroine, so that she can be in a humiliating situation. Get the greatest pleasure from shame. It can be seen from the behavior of the male protagonist that it is not equivalent to coercion, nor is it rape. It is done with mutual consent.

Is 5M a pervert?

When some people hear the letter circle, their first reaction is, what a pervert, man, it’s 2020, don’t compare it to Abnormality is equated with the same sign. If the matter is very niche and the pathological behavior deviates from the normal track, it can be called abnormality. But if many people are thinking about it and doing it, then it obviously does not count. , he is a sexy game between adults.

So, let’s look at the data. The 1960 Kinsey Report on Shame Studies in the United States showed that 29% of men and 24% of women would respond to stories with letter plots. 60 years ago In the United States, it was found that 1 in 5 men and women are interested in letters.

A Finnish study on BD5M people found that more than 40% of people were aware of their shyness as early as the age of 18. Another recent survey found even more radical results. This survey Involving 2,000 women around the world, the results showed that: 70% of women expressed the urge to try it, and 21.5% of women were aroused by such scenes.

With so many people feeling this way, it is untenable to say that it is a niche behavior, let alone that it is a perversion. It also shows that the cause of BD5M may not have much to do with the influence of social culture on people. Evolutionary biologists tend to interpret BD5M as an extension of the instinct of primates to seek mates like advanced humans.

To put it simply, S is equivalent to the party with many advantageous resources in the social class. Evolution believes that mating with high-ranking people will be more beneficial to future generations. Therefore, in the long process of natural evolution, primates naturally They have developed a strong instinct to be ashamed of high-ranking people. This may be the psychological motivation of the one who is firmly M. Although this statement sounds reasonable, it may also have the self-exciting mood of an evolutionary biologist

Let us still say what the medical community says, letters do not have names from the beginning. More than one country maintains a conservative attitude towards shame. In fact, it is also regarded as abnormal or pathological.

But when doctors discovered that compared to ordinary people, BD5M people are more emotionally stable and outgoing, more receptive to new things, and more responsible and enterprising. Not only did it not become a Abnormal behavior, but also has many benefits. They just slapped themselves in the face and said that alphabet is actually just an entertainment activity for some people in their spare time.

Why do some people like 5M?

How can someone like something that looks so violent and painful? Can it really make people feel happy?

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It’s true that people don’t do meaningless things, which may be related to the three hormones produced in the body.

Adrenaline: This is the product of stimulation that makes people feel excited and happy, and this stimulation also contains fear. This is why horror film lovers like to be scared. M enjoys what S brings to him. The principle of shame and tension

Aminopolyphenols: It is a hormone secreted by the body to create feelings of pain and pleasure, such as the feeling of pleasure after eating chili peppers. This is also what M gets by accepting pigtails. To achieve the principle of satisfaction.

Dopamine: It is the product of shame, desire and happiness, and the source of various addictive behaviors. When you do something that makes you excited and happy, your body will secrete the hormone dopamine. This The mechanism will encourage you to continue doing this and gain more happiness.

Take KB as an example. The perpetrator will get the pleasure of conquest and control, while the kidnapped person will feel relaxed and relieved. , during that special time, he does not need to pay attention to his appearance, his identity or other worldly things, and the anxiety of reality will be effectively relieved.

This explains why 5M is very popular in highly regulated countries such as the United Kingdom and Japan. The upper classes in these countries often hold great power and usually pay great attention to etiquette and norms. But this is a rather depressing and anxious state.

If he becomes a slave, tied up and whipped, his character anxiety may disappear temporarily. He no longer needs to pay attention to his identity and maintain dignity like he does in public situations, and can be slightly separated from the pressure of reality.

So, to a certain extent, this is a kind of psychological adjustment and massage, and the pursuit of a psychological balance. Modern people are so stressed and anxious that it is not surprising that some people like this way of reducing stress. How is it different from some people who like to go to massage parlors for health care?

This can also explain why S or M will always maintain their respective attributes. Since it is not a disease, they can do whatever they want. It's not that simple, and there are risks involved in joining this kind of Play.

You must know how to immediately loosen the limbs when they feel numb. Otherwise, if you are amputating your limbs, no matter how hot the night is, you must choose low-temperature candles. Burns will not be good, and it is not something that can be easily stirred into the body. Damn it, golf is really just for playing.

The specific cause of 5M

This is an extremely complicated issue. Homosexuality can be born, so what about 5M? Although, Xiao Qin doesn't particularly believe it. Personally, I think it's all caused by certain inducing factors. It may be subconscious, a little inadvertent things, and over time, you have such a hobby. I also asked many people in the industry why they like it? Some said that they just like it but don’t know why. It should be innate.

Natural aside, I don’t know if the gene really exists, so let’s leave it to scientists to explore. Let’s talk about some possible acquired factors.

1. Spanking in childhood

Spanking in childhood will make you cry, but spanking in adulthood will make you wet. Many parents like to take off their children's pants and spank them when they make mistakes. , some will even do this in public, and add a certain degree of verbal humiliation. This kind of behavior may have an impact on individual children, causing them to unknowingly like this feeling, and may develop into a slave.

2. The King of Children

The early childhood period is an important period for a child’s mental development. Some events at this time will have a great impact on a person’s thoughts and mind. Some people are used to bullying others, and over time they gradually develop a sense of dominance. Some people may also particularly want to command and control others, but no one listens to them. This situation only intensifies their need to control. The psychology of others.

3. There are many torture plots

I have also encountered such a small group of people. When they were young, the torture plots in TV movies may have caused great harm to them because they were too exciting. Influence. But it is actually difficult for this group of people to gain a foothold in the alphabet circle, because the current owners are generally self-righteous. When they meet a good M, they have to enslave others and turn them into dogs for the sake of personal gain. If these groups are not firm enough, they may enslaved.

4. Overly obedient

Some children are particularly well-behaved, shy, and often praised by their parents and elders. With this kind of psychological suggestion, over time, they become special Being obedient may lead to becoming a slave.

5. Novels and movies

This is a very important channel nowadays. Many people actually happened to see novels in this area and found them very exciting and wanted to try them. Slowly, I got stuck in it and couldn't extricate myself.

6. Malicious guidance

It is not an exaggeration to say that human nature is greedy. People are not saints. How many people can really have no desires or desires? See, it is good. Things always produce the desire to possess and maintain them.

Some owners, when they see a high-quality man, no matter whether he is in the circle or not, or whether he has such needs, will try their best to possess him. In the process, regardless of the consequences, they just want to have him. selfish desires.

7. Impact of culture

Nowadays, there are so many channels, such as Weibo and APP, there are so many stupid fans praising and flattering them, it seems that those so-called leaders are really praised to the sky. Everyone has the herd mentality, and everyone must know the story of three people becoming a tiger. What I dislike the most is when someone posts a photo of their feet and you say you are foot-controller, I can understand it. If he posts a pair of underwear and a pair of smelly socks, you would like to eat them. Personally, I think it’s too much. It’s pathological. .

8. Various types of control

In this era, there are so many types of underwear control, foot control, leg control, white socks control, etc. In fact, many people just like these things. This is inherent. Some inferior masters have to be related to masters and slaves, which is inevitably disgusting.

9. Love as low as dust

Actually, some slaves are not that kind of slaves. They do not enjoy the fun of the training process, but just want to see the master’s love. His smile, his love for his master, is just a love as low as dust. He is willing to do anything for him/her. His smile is like a sunny day.

10. Lack of security

I have met many people (gay) and asked him why he likes this? The answer he got was because his boyfriend cheated and no longer believed in love, so he followed her Master, if you find a reliable master, you will feel more secure than a male supporter. Some people think that the master-slave relationship is more solid than the boyfriend relationship (I personally don’t agree with this view. If you don’t like this, there is no need to force it. Please believe in love, you just haven’t met your lover yet).

How can we play happily?

First of all, BD5M must be consensual, otherwise it is a crime. Letters are not ashamed to take the blame for violence. In a real BD5M relationship, comfort and peace Trust is the rule of the game. Remember your safe word and don’t let it malfunction. The props must be upgraded. Your kitten needs a high-quality and safe collar

Of course, some people are worried. Look Will being so violent lead to some harmful behaviors, such as domestic violence? This is a huge misunderstanding. It is two different things from domestic violence and humiliation. The premise of 5M is that both parties are willing, and the purpose is to make each other happy. Its focus In love, not in abuse

In order to ensure safety, when M can't stand it, you can use a safe word and stop in time. Of course, the safe word is not the kind of don't, don't, or the like, because S won't be able to tell you apart. In the end, you are too excited to not want it, or you really don’t want it. Don’t choose words that are long and difficult to remember, such as eight hundred pacesetters rushing to the north slope, 3.1415926, so these words must be recognizable, such as: That’s it, you haven’t had enough to eat. Ah, can you crack down on pornography?

The number of S is more than M?

Many people will think that the abuser benefits more and the abused party suffers more, so S is more than M More, but I tell you, the fact is just the opposite. There are far more M's than S's. There are far more people who like to be abused than those who like to torture. Why is this?

Because in sadomasochism activities, the perpetrators The abusive side is more strenuous. He needs to remain calm and sober at all times, needs to control the situation and advance the development of the plot, and at the same time ensure not to hurt the abused party. Therefore, in the alphabet circle, a good S is rare and highly sought after.

Friday, a British sexologist, once investigated the fantasies of 3,000 men and found that the ratio of male sexual fantasies of abuse and sadism is 4:1. The proportion of men who want to be abused is much higher. The proportion of people who want to abuse.

Experiences of people who have been there

At this point you may be eager to give it a try. Based on the experience of people who have been there, we have some suggestions for novice players who are new to 5M:

Beforehand:

Communicate the rough script and plot with your partner, confirm the doanddon;t, and specify safe words

During the incident:

Pay attention to the comfort of the binding to avoid strangulation to the neck, compressing the wrist or ankle; pay attention to and ask about his or her expression and feelings, and pause and adjust at any time if there is any discomfort.

Dedicate yourself to the performance. You may be a little confused the first few times. Just try a few more times and it will be fine. If your performance is not natural enough, you are not allowed to laugh.

Afterwards:

Discuss the entire process that just happened, and tell him or her his feelings and expectations for the next training game. The abuser should fully comfort the abused party.

Passengers and stewardesses, policemen and prisoners, handsome boys and nurses who come for physical examinations, domineering CEOs and innocent secretaries, delivery boys and hostesses are all roles suitable for 5M.

It is easier to get the essence of 5M by choosing a character with unequal power and power.

Indeed at the very beginning

Alphabets were regarded as pathological behavior by researchers

After all, human instinct is to seek happiness and avoid suffering

Why seek pain?

As long as both parties agree and are happy with each other

There is no right or wrong in being shy

Everyone has his or her own preferences< /p>

10 people may have 10 different preferences

As long as we don’t hurt others

We can go as far as we want while respecting others

Please yourself

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