This reflects the different communication methods of children, teachers, and parents. In fact, as far as the matter itself is concerned, the child is not at fault. Although he scolded the teacher in the book, there is a reason for it and he did not do it on his own initiative. Therefore, the main fault lies with the teachers and parents, while the children are the victims.
Specifically:
1. There must be a reason why the child is not wearing school uniform. And when the teacher discovers that he is not wearing a school uniform, he may criticize the student without asking clearly why. For students, it may be very aggrieved. Therefore, when something happens to a student that is inconsistent with school rules, we must first understand the reason why the student did so, and then guide the student so that the student can identify with it and make the right decision on his or her own. Adult opinions cannot be imposed on the child.
2. After the child scolded the teacher, the teacher still did not guide him correctly. Instead, he used corporal punishment. This increases the child's dissatisfaction with this matter, and he may be brooding about it for a long time. Therefore, when students engage in extreme behaviors such as scolding teachers, they must not use corporal punishment. Instead, we should understand the development process of the matter, analyze with the students how it happened, what the consequences will be, how outstanding students will deal with such things, etc., reflect on the matter with the students, and let them He should understand the right and wrong of this matter by himself, and then let him try to find a solution and what responsibility he should bear. and asking students to make a related commitment.
3. How should parents deal with this incident after it has happened? You didn't say how you communicated with your children. Here are some suggestions: After a similar situation occurs, parents cannot criticize their children directly, which will only increase the child's dissatisfaction; parents cannot criticize the teacher in front of the child and say that the teacher is wrong, which will make the child hate the teacher even more. Therefore, after parents learn about this incident, they should calmly review the reasons and events of the incident with their children, and analyze the reasons for such unpleasant things with their children. Let's imagine what a wonderful outcome it would have been if this had not happened. During the entire process of analysis, it is best for parents not to give any affirmation or negation. Let the children grasp all affirmations and negations on their own. What parents have to do during this process is to provide timely guidance and move their children's conclusions in a positive direction. to guide. Until the child's conclusion is what your heart desires.
4. Neither teachers nor parents can measure children by their own thinking, let alone demand children by their own standards. All we have to do is guide the child's thinking in the direction of our requirements, and let the child make his own decision according to our thinking or standards.
The above is just my opinion. For relevant professional aspects, I suggest you check the official website or related books.