An American friend of mine is called Georgeson. He is black. On one occasion, george johnson flew from California to Washington. There is a white woman sitting next to him, dressed in luxury. Hardly had Georgeson sat down when she heard the lady mutter, "What a nuisance, nigger." George johnson didn't mind and smiled humbly at her.
The lady was even more unhappy and shouted to the stewardess, "What bad luck! I really can't stand sitting with a nigger. Please find me another seat! "
A few minutes later, the stewardess came back and said to her politely, "Sorry, there are no seats left in economy class, but there is only one seat left in first class." . We have got the captain's permission. Considering such a special situation, we will make an exception in order not to let passengers sit with an annoying person. Then, the stewardess turned to Georgeson and said, "Sir, if you don't mind, please go to first class." "At this time, the passengers around stood up and clapped hard, and some people cheered loudly.
While respecting others, people also maintain their own dignity; If you trample on the dignity of others, you will also suffer humiliation. Make room for others.
Help humble people-praise them, help proud people-encourage them, help strugglers-push them forward, help desperate people-help them ... In life, work and career, if we are good at helping others with kind and friendly behavior, we will often get the same kind and friendly return.
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The Colosseum in ancient Rome once staged thousands of bloody scenes of fighting between man and beast, but there was a miracle that a hungry lion saved slaves. At that time, in the Colosseum, lions that had been hungry for several days were released. Rodriguez, the prisoner who was huddled in the corner at that time, trembled and picked up a spear to pray silently. He thought he was going to die soon, and hoped that the lion would leave a complete body for himself. The hungry lion saw the man in the corner at a glance. After a loud roar, he couldn't wait to jump up. As soon as Robles closed his eyes, he thrust the spear forward, but the lion deftly dodged. At this critical moment, the lion suddenly stopped attacking and began to revolve around Luo Zhile. Then it suddenly stopped, slowly lay beside Robles, and meekly licked his hands and feet. The audience suddenly fell silent. After a while, warm cheers broke out suddenly. The Roman emperor was also surprised and made an exception and called Luo Zhilie to the stands to ask why. It turned out that a year ago, Robles found a seriously injured lion on the side of the road. He carefully bandaged the lion's wound and took care of it until it recovered before sending it back to the forest. It was this lion that I met at the Colosseum today. After hearing Robles' story, the Roman emperor was greatly moved and immediately pardoned him.
People say that it was Robles himself who really saved him, not just the righteous lion. He planted good causes, so he reaped good results.
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The famous Russian writer Dostoevsky wrote a novella "The Poor Man" in his twenties. As an engineering student, he timidly contributed to the chronicle of the motherland. Editors Glilovich and Necrasov started reading this manuscript in the evening. After reading more than 10 pages, they continued to read. One person is tired of reading, and the other person keeps reading, and so on until the morning light is slightly exposed. Unable to restrain their excitement any longer, they went straight to Dostoevsky's residence, rushed up to hug him tightly and shed tears. Klassov is withdrawn and introverted, so he can't hide his feelings at the moment. They told the young people that this work was excellent and that he should not give up his literary creation. Then they showed the poor man to belinsky, a famous literary critic, and shouted, "A new Nikolai Gogol has appeared!" Belinsky began to disagree: "Do you think Nikolai Gogol will grow as fast as a mushroom?" But after reading it, he was also incoherent with excitement and said to the strange young man, "You will become a great writer."
Dostoevsky responded: "What a nice person! I want to be diligent and try to be as noble and talented as them. " Later, Dostoevsky wrote a lot of excellent novels, became a Russian classic writer in the19th century, and was regarded as the originator of western modernism.
Glilovich, Necrasov and belinsky have long won people's respect for their achievements, but at the beginning, they predicted that young people's light would overshadow their own, but they did not hesitate to "free up a hand" to lift a stranger's noble behavior, which made them more respected in the history of literature. At the same time, Dostoevsky's praise for them after he became famous also made their image more brilliant. Raise your hand if you love youth.
The film "Dear Galileo" is a youth film that combines affection, friendship and humanity. Woody Sakura and Xiaomian are two ordinary Thai girls. Woody Sakura failed the list because she signed the teacher's name. Xiao mian has just experienced the pain of breaking up. In order to get rid of the depressing reality, the two decided to travel to Europe. Language barrier and economic tension can't stop the two girls from moving forward. Because young, there is nothing wrong.
Big Ben, Eiffel Tower, Leaning Tower of Pisa ... In the imagination of woody cherry blossoms and small noodles, Europe is like a picture with mild colors and infinite beauty. However, reality is not poetic. As soon as they got off the plane, they got lost in the crowded airport. This is just the beginning of a series of troubles for them. After the joy of entering Europe dissipated, the problem of survival was placed in front of them.
KINOMOTO SAKURA got a job in a Thai restaurant. The boss is a woman with a bad temper. Fortunately, there is a Tom brother in the restaurant. He is a simple and kind man with a gray beard. People call him brother, not uncle. Tom's brother said to Woody Sakura: Working here can really earn a lot of money, but it's different from home. Simple words remind the woody Sakura family of its preciousness. This stubborn girl began to re-recognize the family relationship that had surrounded her for a long time and was ignored by her intentionally or unintentionally.
After leaving England, Woody Sakura and Noodles came to Paris. The difference is the beauty of change, and the same is the reality of chicken feathers in one place. Xiaomian fell ill because of too much pressure. When Woody Sakura was at a loss, the eccentric old lady next door sent a bottle of aspirin, showing a rare gentleness. Perhaps, everyone lives in his own predicament and is unhappy because of such trifles, but there is a kind of feeling that is interlinked, spanning nationality and language, and that is goodwill and friendship between people.
In Paris, they also met a Thai named Pi Xi. Percy is a very special young man, living in a dilapidated factory building, playing music and holding art exhibitions with a group of like-minded young people, and living a city life. In Percy's view, life does not need too much design and excessive pursuit, and the greatest happiness is to enjoy every moment seriously. Pissy's indifferent attitude towards life hides a keen heart. He found that Woody Sakura was very talented in design, but he gave up on himself because he was found to sign the teacher's autograph. He said to Woody Sakura: Admit your mistake, start over, and don't waste your talent.
The relationship between Xiao Mian and Pi is more romantic. Two people stroll in the streets of Paris. On the crowded street, Xiao Mian held a sign: Whoever is homesick, please clap your hands. People in a hurry saw the sign, smiled, stood and clapped their hands. Pissy also held up a sign: If you need a hug, please raise your hand. Small hand, put it on. Strangers know each other and love each other at this moment.
After experiencing troubles and embarrassment, as well as warmth and emotion, the gorgeous adventure of the two girls finally ended. They returned to the warmest and safest place, that is home.
The younger brother Tom, who is always young, let them learn to cherish family ties. The eccentric old lady who owns cats gives them care and love. The artist's temperament keeps them moving forward. Accompanying each other along the way gave them the most precious friendship support. Friendship as clear as lemonade only exists between girls.
Friendship, affection, gorgeous youth, after watching the movie, we can certainly understand the metaphor of the title. 1500 years ago, Galileo proved that the earth is not the center of the universe; Today, two Thai girls found that they are not the center of the earth, and many setbacks are just trivial troubles in life. Learn tolerance and understanding, and youth can be better. Why learn from fools?
There is a little girl in the neighbor's house who often asks some questions that are difficult for her mother to answer. For example: Mom, don't you want me to be a smart child? Why do I always have to learn from stupid people?
In the eyes of this little girl, "Gong Yu" in "Gong Yu Moves Mountains" is a fool-why did he move mountains? Can't you dig a tunnel?
"Mom, why do you want to tell me the story of' head hanging beam, awl stabbing stock'?" -why do you have to read books day and night to learn? Looking at Newton, I slept under the apple tree and found the law of gravity. Well done!
"Mom,' jingwei reclamation' means jingwei stupid? How can such a small bird fill the sea by itself? " This story tells us that one should have perseverance and perseverance, and not be afraid of difficulties. -However, Jingwei did not reclaim the sea!
What makes people laugh and cry most is that the little girl wrote a composition. After reading it, her mother felt that she really couldn't hand in her homework and asked me to tutor her. I read it once, to the effect: "I read a story about' as long as you work hard, the iron pestle is ground into a needle', but I think if the old woman wants a needle, why can't she choose a wire mill?" Isn't that faster? How can anyone be so stupid? How long does it take to grind a pestle into a needle? "
Fortunately, I have studied child psychology, and I know very well how to deal with such a "self-righteous" child-I asked the little girl, even you know that it takes too much time to grind the needle with a pestle, why didn't the old lady know? There are many needles in this world, but how many people can grind an iron pestle into a needle? You think others are stupid, but in front of people smarter than you, are you also a stupid person? For example, Watt watched the water boil and opened the lid to invent the steam engine. Why not invent it? For example, Mozart could play the piano and write piano music when he was your age. Why didn't you? Let you learn from stupid people, not from their stupidity, but let you not be discouraged when you meet someone smarter than you, sharpen your "diligence" and "perseverance" with an iron pestle and fight against your fate.
The little girl's mother thanked me. What is there to be grateful for? I just told the story of "the tortoise and the rabbit race" again. By the way, I have seen too many clever rabbits. As soon as they saw the faster "species", they even lost the courage to run. That's the sense of inferiority when smart people meet their opponents, because they only have one trump card in their hands-intelligence. If they lose this card unfortunately, they will regard themselves as "iron pestle" and have no confidence at all. At this point, they are really not as good as stupid turtles and go their own way step by step. The human heart is a container.
Not long ago, I watched a talk show with the famous collector Ma Weidou. When talking about ceramics, Mr. Ma said that every development of containers means the progress of human civilization, and containers cannot be narrowly understood as cups and bowls, such as bathtubs, cars, houses and hard disks. When I heard that, I thought, isn't the human heart also a container? So, what does the human heart contain?
Be tolerant of others. Everyone has his own strengths, some people can sing and dance, some people write first-class, some people are smart and discerning, and some people are bold and cautious ... Anyway, "Since God has given talents, let them find jobs!" . Tolerance is knowing how to appreciate and accept, not envy and hatred. In this way, the heart can be calm and the qi can be calm. It is said that "man is better than man, better than the dead". In fact, you deserve better than death. Who told you to compare with others? If you don't allow it, the length of others will become shorter. If you don't allow it, it will make some sense, but no matter how you don't allow it, the length will remain the same, and it will be useless whether it is short or short. Instead of wasting time and energy on boring games, it is better to cultivate your mind and improve yourself.
Allow the advantages of others. Narrow-minded people often resent the success of others and even gnash their teeth. In fact, this is caused by the mentality of being jealous of talents and fame and fortune. Such people are either jealous of the benefits of others or afraid of being threatened by their achievements, so they can't face others' success calmly. In fact, think calmly, if others, like themselves, overcome themselves, and succeed by hard work, strength and opportunity. What is intolerable? If others are not as good as themselves and win by speculation, fraud and connections, isn't it more tolerable? The former is worthy of the name, while the latter exists in name only. Any kind can be tolerated. Capacity, then the heart is wide and the body is fat; If you can't, you will be exhausted.
Allow people to get it. Everyone has desires, and it is self-deception to say that there is no desire. Of course, desires are big and small, and they are different at different times and under different circumstances. To accommodate others, most people should know how to control their own desires. After all, you can't have food and clothing, and there are delicacies. Others can eat them, but you can't. Are you comfortable? There is no shortage of houses, including manors and villas. Others can live there, but you can't. Can you believe it? Wages have gone up, and there are still tens of millions. Others can earn, but you can't. Are you happy? Therefore, if you don't allow it, you always feel that heaven is unfair and complain that life is hard, then it will really get more and more sad. On the contrary, there is nothing unpleasant about living wholeheartedly.
Forgive the hostility of others. This is the ultimate tolerance, and Laozi's "returning evil with good" is the highest realm of tolerance. Instead of provoking Chu people to scrape melons, Liang and Song helped them grow watermelons, so Liang and Chu became friends. Qi Huangong, regardless of the revenge of an arrow, appointed Guan Zhong as the country's adviser; Instead of accusing the murder plan, Emperor Taizong mentioned Wei Zhi, thus establishing a mirror for himself. As the saying goes, friends should make up but not get married. When you disagree with others, take the initiative to be patient and put yourself in another's shoes to avoid the intensification of contradictions. If contradictions have been formed, they can often be transformed into friendship with sincerity and tolerance. "Caigen Tan" also said: "Don't blame others for being small, don't send others private, and don't miss people's old evils. The three can be self-cultivation or far-reaching. " It can be seen that it is necessary and more valuable to tolerate people's hatred!
In a word, the container of human heart can be big or small, big enough to hold the whole world and small enough to hold a grain of sand. How big your capacity is depends on how big your heart is. Where do you put the stone?
A pair of Danish brothers, unfortunately, their mother died of illness at an early age, and they had to live alone with their father. But their father is a gambler and a drug addict, regardless of whether the two little brothers live or die. He either hides in the casino for a few days and nights, or spends all his money on drugs. He lay at home smoking day and night, and even got drunk. He stumbled home and smashed tables and bowls, scaring the two children into the corner. Everything valuable in the family was sold by my father and replaced with my own gambling money and drug money. Later, everything at home was sold out. In order to take drugs, my father stole and robbed at night, and soon fell into the French Open and was sent to a prison near Copenhagen. After the only relative went to prison, the two little brothers became helpless social orphans. First, they begged. When they were older, they began to collect waste products and pick up rubbish between towns. They wandered around, hungry, begging for something to fill their stomachs, sleepy, and curled up in the corner of the village or town to sleep.
Collecting waste products and picking up garbage can bring them some meager income. Every time I sell the waste into money, my brother will find a restaurant to eat and drink beautifully, or go to the underground casino on the street to gamble. My brother, on the other hand, cherishes every hard-won crown. He wrapped them in wax paper layer by layer and hid them. Later, when I saved more money, I gave it to a poor school as tuition, so that he could study three days a week, listen to the teacher's lectures with many children and learn to sing some songs with the teacher.
Brother 12 years old, because of long-term contact with street casinos, learned to drink, take drugs, swear and fight, and soon became the leader of a gang of gangsters on the street. They got together to talk about stealing and went to fight together, which made a mess. On the other hand, my brother likes reading more. He works in restaurants, hotels and ports for two days and nights every week, and spends the rest of his time in schools or libraries. He began to write poems and send some short articles to newspapers or magazines. He dreams of becoming a poet or writer that people admire one day.
10 years have passed, and the two younger brothers who have already parted ways have become young people in their twenties. The difference is that my brother was put in a high-security prison because he was stabbed to death in a street fight, while my brother graduated from university and became a famous poet and writer in Denmark because he published a lot of excellent poems and novels.
Before Christmas in 2004, a reporter from a newspaper went to the prison to interview his notorious brother who was serving his sentence according to the interview clues provided by others. The reporter asked him with a depressed face, "We all know your father's misdeeds. Is it related to the bad influence left by your father? " My brother said positively, "Yes. My father's bad behavior is like a heavy stone that weighs heavily on my heart, so that I repeat his mistakes. "
After interviewing my brother, the reporter immediately went to interview his brother who has become a famous writer. The reporter asked, "As for your father, your brother thinks he is a heavy stone, and he sent your brother to prison. Is your achievement today influenced by your father? "
The younger brother also said with certainty, "Yes, I must have been influenced by my father." The reporter asked him inexplicably: "It is also deeply influenced by the same father, so why did your brother become a notorious criminal and you became an admirable poet and writer?"
The younger brother said, "For my brother and me, my father is also a heavy stone on our hearts, but the difference is that my brother always puts this stone on the back of his life, and I put it under my feet, which has become a step in my life." Yes, putting a stone on your back becomes a burden, but if you can put it under your feet, it will become your upward step. In the unpredictable life, each of us will certainly encounter many big stones. Whether to make it your burden or your step depends on where you put it in your life. Seize the hand of opportunity
He is from Taipei. Under the guidance and influence of my grandfather, I have been obsessed with classical poetry since I was a child. I have memorized 300 Tang Poems and other books. My grandfather asked him what he would do when he grew up, and he would say "be a poet", but he smiled. When he was a little older, he became addicted to movies. When grandpa asks him his ideal again, he will answer loudly: "Be a big director!" " Grandpa smiled and nodded, then shook his head.
As his family is average, his parents have no money to invest to help him realize his ideal. Therefore, he had to work hard through his own efforts. A salesman who has worked as an anti-theft equipment has also delivered takeout to others. The hardships of life made him more aware of the importance of opportunities. He always pays attention to some news in the film industry and specializes in the works of world famous directors, such as James Cameron's True Lies, Steven Allan Spielberg's Saving Private Ryan and george lucas's Star Wars. Every time he goes to the movies, he will ponder the plot and dialogue of the characters, even the melody and lyrics of the theme song at night. Sometimes I write some scripts, but I have never had the courage to show them to others, so no one has ever appreciated them.
At that time, the movies in Taiwan Province Province showed a general downward trend, and his parents also advised him to give up the idea of movies. He had to settle for the second best, write lyrics, distribute his works to record companies and musicians of all sizes, and send out hundreds of such "application letters" every time, but he always sank into the sea.
A disappointed and lonely night, he drank a lot of wine and fell asleep groggy. At midnight 12 o'clock, he was awakened by a phone call, which turned out to be from Wu Zongxian, a famous TV mouthpiece in Taiwan Province at that time. Hearing the words "Wu Zongxian", his wine suddenly woke up. It turned out that Wu Zongxian was very excited after reading the letter he sent, and urgently invited him to work in his newly established music studio.
The sudden surprise made him too excited to sleep that night, so he began to write two more lyrics. I went to visit Wu Zongxian early the next morning, and they hit it off immediately, which made me feel that I had met each other for a long time.
Since then, he has become a full-time lyricist.
Soon, another great opportunity came to him. Wu Zongxian Studio welcomes a new talent who is good at composing music: Jay Chou. He asked more than a dozen poets under him to write lyrics and Zhou to compose music. Of all the lyricists, Jay Chou appreciates his ci most. Therefore, they soon became recognized as golden partners.
Needless to say, everyone knows that he is Fang Gang.
The tacit cooperation between the two people has reached an amazing level. Jay Chou wanted to make the music feel a little bit like Bruce Lee, so Fang Gang sent nunchakus. Jay Chou wanted to add some Japanese flavor, and Vincent Fang immediately wrote Ninja. Similarly, only Jay Chou's flying style, which is unconventional, gives full play to imaginative words such as "love in BC" and "Indian turtledove", and as a result of complementary advantages, creates a pair of musical geniuses.
Soon, both Jay Chou and Fang Zhouzi were "acquired" by Alpha Records Company of Taiwan Province Province, and the development space was infinitely expanded. Jay Chou also rose rapidly as a new creative king in Asia, and vincent fang has since been named as a "royal poet".
Vincent Fang's lyrics have different styles. He brought pop music back from decadent music to the fusion of classical and historical music, which was nostalgic and sincere and had a unique charm. Vincent Fang's lyrics to Jay Chou are like clouds: Dragon Boxing, Nunchaku, Love in BC, Shanghai 1943, Direct Answer, Qilixiang, Hair as Snow, Chrysanthemum Terrace, Blue and White Porcelain and so on. Some experts praised Fang Zhouzi as a cultural phenomenon worth studying.
After becoming famous, Fang Zhouzi kept a low profile. He just did a good job of "writing lyrics" with his heart and explained the beauty of this job to the fullest. In his inspirational book "Play Your Idol Drama Well", he concluded: Opportunity is more important than strength. However, then he added: when the strength is not enough, the opportunity will definitely be lost. The so-called "opportunity" in life is actually based on strength. Without strength, you don't have enough strength to seize the hand of opportunity.