I burst into tears in front of the screen, and my love is beyond words. He Jie is just a distant star to me. It's not my turn to feel bad or sigh. I was thinking of my good friend Qiu Nan, who was scarred and went to New Zealand to be reborn.
Happy women almost all look the same. The husband is docile, the children are lovely and the family is happy. The woman smiled gently, and the years passed quietly on her face. Hyaluronic acid blocked a lot of malice in life, let them walk leisurely in the small wind and waves, and the years were quiet.
Unfortunately, women are all kinds. He Jie suffered a disappointing marriage and said she never wanted to get married again. More and more women have met stories that are ten thousand times more sad and incredible than He Jie's, but because they are ordinary and mediocre, they have no beauty, no money or even the capital to tell stories.
Sometimes they have no audience or assistants.
0 1
Three years ago, I didn't get married or meet the right person. In my life, besides my colleagues and classmates, I am a group of friends. I can eat together and brag, but I can't talk to my heart. My only concern is my college sister Qiu Nan.
Qiu Nan is a senior in my university. Because of her congenial personality, she likes me and helps me with everything. In the year of graduation, she even helped me to enter her company through layer-by-layer selection. I keep this kind of sincere help and dedication in mind, and regard her as a real best friend who can have a heart-to-heart conversation.
I have always admired her life, but I don't hate her life. My work and family are extremely stable. No accidents. I should wait for my children to grow up, get married and have children, just like many people with high quality of life around me.
However, in the words of the old people, "the good days were ruined by Qiu Nan and her best friend me".
For three years, I have been living with a heavy shackle, and she has left sadly and stopped contacting me. It may be my fault, or it may be that seeing me will remind me of that farce, and remembering my fragmented past will only increase my sadness. When she left, she left a message: Thank you, you are my best friend, but ...
But what? She didn't say.
02
It was from March 5 to 35, and I got together with my friends in a bar. After three rounds of drinking, everyone began to talk nonsense and go insane. When I was in the bathroom, I saw Qiu Nan's short message: "I know which hotel my husband is in and who is checking in. What should I do? "
I was awake in an instant. Qiu Nan's quiet life seems to be undercurrent. No wonder she was thin during that time. I also listened to her weight loss declaration, and didn't notice that she was hurting her bones for the backyard fire.
I called back: "Send me the address, I killed that bastard!" " "Qiu Nan on the other end of the phone has been crying to death. One minute, he said yes, he had to expose them so that dogs and people would die of natural causes. Then he said, I'll think about it, and I haven't decided how to end it.
At that time, I was not married. Hearing such a thing, my mind kept playing the scene of the elegant man I knew with another woman, which aroused a burst of nausea and rage. Qiu Nan is usually weak. Text me now. You definitely need my support.
Later, when we arrived at the address, three or five friends and I knocked at the door outside the room. All kinds of malicious words were released, and the room was silent. We don't know whether the news is wrong or whether the people inside are too scared to come down. In short, we didn't finish the real rape until we were driven away by the security guards.
I rushed from the hotel to Qiu Nan's house non-stop, and Qiu Nan's husband stayed out all night for the first time, which was a real affair.
Qiu Nan was silent all night, refused to say anything, and did not curse her husband. She just silently shed tears, as if to shed all the sadness of these years, and the child fell asleep, as if nothing had anything to do with her.
That night, my heart ached too. Apart from my relatives, my most important friend, family and married life in this world are uncertain, and I seem powerless. By that time, she had resigned and went home to take care of the baby. I can't bravely say that I will raise her like Tang Jing in the future, and I can't take the time to go back and stop her husband from cheating.
When I woke up the next day, I began to regret it desperately. Why should I be so impulsive? If I hadn't brought those friends there, Qiu Nan's husband would have pretended that nothing had happened and gone home before midnight to accompany his wife and children, playing a good husband and father.
How many times have I asked myself? Why did you catch the rape? Who gave you the right? Who gave you courage? Can you bear the consequences of all this?
I heard that "my girlfriend asked me to tear up my mistress, which is a must." Because I don't care about the consequences, I don't think about it. I just do what my best friend needs me to do. "At that time, only that thought rushed out to comfort me and told me that you didn't do anything wrong.
03
Half a year later, Qiu Nan's marriage went through struggle, reconciliation, negotiation and litigation, and finally ended in divorce and Qiu Nan's rapid aging.
During this period, Qiu Nan and the women in her husband's family treated me badly and coldly for countless times. They blame me for impulsively interfering with my dog and mouse, and for ruining the peaceful marriage of others through a rape. They say that the husbands and children of Qiu Nan and Qiu Nan are all losers.
During that time, I was going to be depressed.
I always have two voices in my head. One of them came out and slapped me and accused me of crossing the line. One ran out and rightfully scolded a few words, comforting me to take it out on my best friend.
I never dared to ask Qiu Nan to sit down and talk to her. I'd like to ask her if she blames me, but I can't. I didn't defend myself in front of her relatives.
I thought to myself, "Why do cheating men still keep them?" "It's not my fault, it's something wrong with their marriage" is pale and powerless in Qiu Nan's broken marriage.
I dare not fool around with my friends anymore. The Qiu Nan incident has given me too much shock and pressure. I'm afraid I'll do something wrong again, which is counterproductive.
Qiu Nan didn't contact me again, and their friendship quickly broke off with the breakdown of her marriage. I just heard that Qiu Nan has become more introverted and hasn't been out of the divorce for a long time. Later, with the help of relatives, she left her children to work abroad alone, and no one told me how often she came back.
I sent her several long messages, but there was no reply. I know she should blame me.
I stared at her QQ signature: "You are my best friend, but …" For three years, I have been asking myself if I did something wrong. One moment I feel that I am doing well and confident, and the next moment I feel that it is ridiculous to interfere in my good friend's family affairs.
04
Today, three years later, I am married, have children, have a chicken feather with my husband, and occasionally I am distracted, let alone a man. I began to have a deeper understanding of the relationship between men and women, and also had a more tolerant tolerance.
It suddenly occurred to me that in the years after Qiu Nan's divorce, I never doubted whether I had done anything wrong. I just don't want to admit it I just comforted myself that I was right.
In the first half of my life, Tang Jing learned that her best friend's husband was cheating on her, so she chose to pretend not to know and let nature take its course. However, the TV version was changed to Tang Jing rushing into her best friend's office to warn him. This change has received a lot of bad reviews.
They are all people in dire straits in marriage. Although not everyone is preaching that they can forgive their husbands for cheating, everyone has figured out the relationship with other families.
Even if this family is a best friend, a best friend, or even a sister, it is the best policy to rush up and tear other people's men.
In fact, every couple's marriage is full of holes, and they all have their own ways of getting along and solving problems, which others can't understand.
Although the breakdown of Qiu Nan's family was not entirely due to me, the scene of my rape was not successful. It tore down Qiu Nan's husband's last retreat and directly pushed him to the front desk for a showdown to solve the problem. In other words, I did something to speed up their divorce.
If I go back in time and go back to three years ago, when I received that short message from Qiu Nan, I would still jump up and scold, but I wouldn't make any suggestions. I will still accompany her, but I will never make any suggestions. If I did, I would also persuade her not to leave.
I want to say sorry to Qiu Nan.
Ps: Although the story is written in the first person, the protagonist is not Fan Fan, so don't rush to judge. I am actually very sad and depressed, and I have my own views on this matter, but I still won't say it. Now, it's in vain to say anything.
Readers leave much more messages in the background than above, so I won't list the details one by one. I write more about her psychological process, because marriage is a shoe worn by two people, and others can't understand it. My suggestion is that you'd better stay with your best friend. Some things, don't touch, some things, don't participate.
Companionship is the best way for you to love her.