There is a trend in society today that all children’s problems are caused by their family of origin. It's all a matter of parental education.

In particular, the guidance of some famous psychologists, educational institutions, media, and self-media have all contributed to the flames. And a bunch of book recommendations on what makes a good mother better than a good teacher. Mothers all over the world have been pushed to the point where they are responsible for the survival of the country.

According to this, all children, please lie down, your family of origin determines everything for you anyway.

You have a bad personality because your father is violent. You can't study well because your mother only knows how to play mahjong. You don't respect your parents because your mother has a conflict with your grandmother. You cheated because your mother ran away from home. You drink because your dad drinks too.

All your problems are problems of your family of origin and have nothing to do with you. So where did the books you read in the past ten years go?

In Li Xueqin’s words, it’s all a problem of the family of origin. So what did you do when you grew up?

The reason why the family of origin theory is so respected. Personally, I think there are too many people with problems in society. There are various emotional problems, various unsuccessful careers, and various unhappy marriages.

No matter what kind of dissatisfaction you are, you can blame it on your parents and your family of origin.

Because it is much easier to blame your parents and your family of origin than to admit your own problems.

You see, I am not successful because of my parents, my unhappy marriage is because of my parents, I am not good at studies because of my parents, and I have a bad personality because of my parents. How simple!

Do you think the family of origin has any impact on a person’s life? Of course there is, and it must have an influence, but it is not the only reason.

Parental education has a great impact on children, but we cannot blame all unsatisfactory, dissatisfactory and unsuccessful children on their parents and their family of origin. Parents have an influence, and the family of origin certainly has an influence, but it cannot be attributed as the only cause.

I remember there was a serial murderer in the United States, Jeffery Dahmer.

Jeffery Dahmer was an introverted boy with outstanding appearance when he was a child. He was the second among six children, but he received special care from his parents.

When Jeffery Dahmer was 10 years old, he liked to conduct "experiments" on small animals.

It cannot be said that Dahmer’s father does not love his son. But he found that his son had no conscience, was cold and selfish, and had no feelings for other people.

This kind of child who is born like a cold-blooded animal is bloodthirsty and a serial killer. Is it also the parents’ responsibility?

Parents are their children’s first teachers, and their role in their children’s growth cannot be replaced by anyone else. However, not all parents’ efforts are equally rewarded.

Raising a child is not equivalent to producing a product on an assembly line. If it can be quantified, it can be mass produced. Then we give all the children to those successful parents and let them train them. Their job in this life is to raise children. Are the children given to them all excellent and successful?

Now, no matter what problems a child has, they are all problems of the family of origin.

Wu Xieyu’s murder of his mother was also his mother’s problem. There was something wrong with her mother's education. Anyway, they are all problems of the family of origin. I don’t have any problems. All my problems are problems of my parents’ education.

This kind of argument is poisonous to both children and parents!

I just like to listen to Professor Li Meijin’s words, some things have not been studied, please don’t talk nonsense!