Everyone, all the time, everything, and everywhere has something worthy of praise, and all you need is to say these words of praise. For example, when you meet a beautiful girl, praise her dress, when you see a mother holding a child, praise the child's beauty and cuteness, and when you see a person who is crazy about work, praise his performance and work efficiency. In addition, you should not only praise big people and big achievements, but also praise small people and small details. If we can carefully observe others, we will definitely find many things worthy of praise. Only in this way can we sincerely praise.

Dale Carnegie, the world-famous success master, is an example of applying the Fangyuan philosophy of life. He had a wonderful way of promoting his books.

One day, Carnegie came back from his friends. He was thinking about the problem while walking. At this time, a relatively plainly dressed young man walked up to him and asked excitedly: "Are you Mr. Carnegie?" Carnegie replied: "Yes!"

Later he found out who this person was. The young man bought a copy of his book "Human Weakness", but he always wanted to sign the book Carnegie bought for him. Carnegie took out his pen and signed his book, and he suddenly felt that this was also the case. A great way to promote your event.

So, after discussing with the students for a while, he started to hold a Carnegie autograph signing event in New York City. This event was the icing on the already best-selling situation, and it actually set a weekly sales of 5,000 copies. Records, several of Carnegie's books have been best-sellers since then.

Another time, Carnegie was invited by Lowell Thomas to his home. In the evening, they were sitting by the fire talking, and Mrs. Thomas suddenly suggested playing bridge.

"I'm sorry, madam, I don't know. I don't know anything about bridge." Carnegie said, "That game requires brain power, which is simply too difficult for me."

" It doesn't matter. I can teach you." Mrs. Thomas said.

"I'd better watch you fight." Carnegie said.

"Dell, believe in yourself. It is actually not difficult at all. It is just a piece of cake for you to learn it. It is just like writing an article. You can learn it as soon as you learn it. Bridge only requires memory and judgment. That's what's best for you," Mr. Thomas said.

Before Carnegie came to his senses, he was already sitting at the bridge table unknowingly. It was his first time playing bridge. He was not prepared at all, but it was Mr. Thomas's words that gave him confidence and courage.

Although Carnegie was not very proficient when he learned to play bridge, he later said that Mr. Thomas taught him the most important lesson in his life.

Carnegie said: "This reminds me of Iscabotes, a super bridge master. His books on bridge have been translated into several languages ??and are very popular. Best-selling. However, it is unbelievable that without that young woman, he may never have embarked on the path of bridge.

When he was in the United States in late 1923, he was alone. All the money was spent. He wanted to find a job in the United States to support himself, but he couldn't find a suitable one. Finally, through a friend's introduction, he found a job that could barely make a living.

Cabotes can play bridge, but his skills are too poor. He can't remember the cards at all and often looks over the cards he plays, so no one wants to play with him. However, the next thing happened. Things changed his fate.

One time he met a beautiful female bridge teacher named Josephine Dis. This female teacher taught Cabotes how to play bridge. It was discovered that although his card skills were not very good, he had very strong analytical skills, and he could always make a relatively accurate analysis of the cards in his hand.

Dis thought this quality was rare. So Dis tried to persuade him, she said: "Cabotes, let me tell you, you are a rare genius in the bridge world." Cabotes didn't believe anything: "Are you kidding?" Disi then told Carbotes what she had discovered.

In the following time, Disi always tried her best to motivate him, and she praised him for any little progress he made. After a while. Later, Carbotes gradually believed that he was a genius, so he got better and better at playing cards, and later he became a master in the bridge world. After a long period of contact, Carbotes finally fell in love with Di. Silk and married her."

This incident greatly inspired Carnegie, so he added another section at the end of "Human Weaknesses" called " "The Wonderful Use of 'Top Hat'", which makes a psychological analysis of the word "encouragement". The book says:

Encouragement is not only a way of getting along with others, but also a psychological way of getting along with others. means of suggestion. People have a lot of confusions at the subconscious and conscious levels. Since they have not been solved for a long time, they have accumulated them, which will lead to questions about themselves, such as "Can I do it?" or "Should I do it?" or " "Are the objective conditions allowed?" and other things that I can't answer myself or are waiting for a choice.

This choice will make you hesitate. At this time, it is precisely external factors that play a more crucial role. A hint or a suggestion may allow you to find yourself and do what others tell you. This is the power of encouragement.

An American psychologist found a class in a middle school and wanted to conduct an experiment. He assured his class teacher that this experiment would allow him to see a miracle, because he had done such experiments with many people in many schools, and they had all been successful.

He observed in secret for a long time, and found out that there was an ordinary-looking, inconspicuous girl in the class, so he found an opportunity to bring all the students in the class except that girl All gathered together. He told the students his plans.

The psychologist told the students. From today on, all students will treat the girl who was not present as the most beautiful, charming and beautiful girl in the class. After three months, people will see unexpected effects, and by then, the experiment will be over.

So, from that day on, the students' attitude towards the girl changed greatly, and it was no longer the cold attitude before.

The girl was simply flattered. She was surprised to see the boys ignore other good-looking girls and move closer to her, while the other girls could only look at her with envy. The teachers' attitude towards her has also changed a lot during class. Every time she asks a question, the teacher always calls her by name. When she answers correctly, she will be praised and praised by the teacher, and her classmates will also give her warm applause. .

This girl seemed to be in a dream. She didn’t understand how she had suddenly transformed from a Cinderella into Snow White in everyone’s minds in the past few days.

A week later, people still treat her like a treasure. So she also began to pay attention to her own image, her brows began to relax, and her chest gradually straightened out. Because laughter often accompanied her, her mood gradually became cheerful and happy, and she often talked with her classmates. Have fun together.

Two months later, the whole class was surprised to find that she was very different from before. Although her appearance could not be regarded as exquisitely beautiful, she was still charming, and she often had a smile on her face. My classmates even joked that it was the Mona Lisa’s smile.

Later, when the class chose the class beauty, everyone unanimously voted for that girl. Maybe when the experiment started, everyone was just acting for fun, but later on, everyone gave sincerely.

This shows how important it is to affirm a person. So, encourage others more and let people understand that things are actually easy to do. Let someone know that you have confidence in him or her to handle something, that you know he has potential, and that you know he will do a great job at the task. If you understand this principle of doing things, before asking others for help, put a high hat on them first, encourage them, and let them know that you have confidence in him to handle the matter and know his potential, he will definitely lend a hand. His helping hand.