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It is said that both the eastern Nu Wa and the western gods did not have any preference when creating human beings, but gave every "thing" human life equally. In the future journey, some people are outstanding, some people are mediocre, and some people commit crimes. The reason is that a person's moral cultivation has a decisive influence on his life track.
When it comes to the characteristics of virtue, Professor Ren Baoju of Beijing Youth University for Politics believes that the concept of virtue is not vague. The culture of our country has experienced thousands of years of vicissitudes. The daily ethics advocated by it is gradually solidified in people's daily life behaviors with the same value orientation, such as paying attention to etiquette, respecting norms and attaching importance to interpersonal relationships, which can best reflect people's universality, fundamentality and homosexuality and has the appropriateness of regulating people's daily life style.
As early as 2,500 years ago, Xiu De and his life were described by the sages as "self-cultivation, keeping the family in order, governing the country and leveling the world". Morality plays an important role in Chinese traditional culture. Moral education is considered as the most important educational content. Take giving birth to a child as an example. First of all, having children is inseparable from virtue. A person who has virtue and speaks "benevolence, righteousness, courtesy and faith" can always maintain the five internal organs, and only when the five internal organs are reconciled can he have children. If you can't have children, it depends on whether you are behaving improperly. If you lack virtue and don't correct your wrong behavior, childlessness is doomed to be a kind of retribution. In addition to having children, godchildren can't live without virtue. As the saying goes, it is the father's fault that his son doesn't teach. Educating children themselves is much more difficult than simply having children. If both children and parents talk about "benevolence, righteousness, courtesy and faith", children will be virtuous and become pillars of talent in the future. If children are virtuous, then the whole country and even the whole world can preserve morality and kindness and present an image of peace.
The ancients also believed that Xiu De and being a man were a process of spring breeze and rain, which accumulated over time. In the golden age of children's growth, in the critical period of personality cultivation, when their hearts are purest and their memories are purest, they can receive the most valuable moral education, develop good behavior habits, and remember the eternal truth, which will surely benefit them for life.
What about Xiu De? According to the ancients, first of all, we should always care for our hearts and constantly improve our quality. Good and evil in an instant, thinking about good in the heart, behavior will be good; If you think evil, even if you help others do good things, you don't really mean it. Therefore, we must always take care of our inner thoughts. For everything, we should examine our intentions and ask ourselves why we say and do this. what do you think? If you find bad ideas, you must correct them in time. Secondly, we should always repent and be cautious everywhere. The so-called "don't use small goodness, don't use small evils." Whether it is good or not, you can't think that you won't do it just because you are young. For bad things and evil things, we can't think that things can be trivial. Therefore, a virtuous person can be strict with himself when he is alone, so that a gentleman can be alone; The villain is most afraid of exposing himself when he is with others, and doing bad things when he is alone because he is not supervised by others.
Filial piety to teachers is fundamental.
At present, Shao Shuai Jr., who is called "earth-shattering dutiful son" by the media, is becoming an example for contemporary children to learn to be a man. Shao Shuai's parents divorced at the age of/kloc-0. 12 years old, my mother who works in Beijing suffers from leukemia. In order to stay with her mother and cure her illness, Shao Shuai, who is excellent in academic performance, chose to give up his hobby and even the opportunity to study in a middle school in Xuzhou, begging her grandfather to apply for a year's suspension from the local education bureau and come to Beijing to take care of her sick mother. He gets up at 6: 30 every morning, goes to the hospital to cook for his mother, and then makes lunch when he gets home. When he learned that he needed a bone marrow transplant to cure his mother's disease, he struggled to find a doctor to match him with his mother. In order to save money, he never eats out, does not buy soda, and is reluctant to buy anything. Now, what he is most worried about is where does the money for treating his mother come from? Faced with these, Shao Shuai's explanation is simple: I love my mother, and she gave me life. How can I live without my mother? What child won't save his mother in this situation?
Shao Shuai's deeds have explained to us the words "teaching relatives and respecting teachers". In the education of how to be a man, the content of filial piety to teachers has always been regarded as fundamental. In our country, there is no dynasty that does not attach importance to filial piety. Confucius put "filial piety" at the top of all morality, and regarded it as "the foundation of standing" and "the source of self-improvement". Historical experience tells us that all outstanding people who are loyal to the country and have a successful career can't do without listening to their parents, respecting and caring for their parents, and never forgetting their parents' kindness in raising them. Anyone who is not filial to his parents and teachers since childhood will be dishonest, enterprising, lazy, selfish and evil when he grows up, and will naturally become the rebellious son and the black sheep of his unfilial parents by doing everything that harms others and does not benefit himself. In today's society, in many places, when selecting party and government leaders and advanced figures, filial piety and family harmony are regarded as the important contents of assessment, which is regarded as the first step to correctly handle interpersonal relationships.
Since ancient times, filial piety has been called filial piety in China, and respecting teachers and stressing morality has been called teachers' morality. Teachers' morality is based on filial piety. Without filial piety, there is no teachers' morality. Respecting teachers is an extension of filial piety. If you don't respect your teacher, listen to your teacher and study hard, you are not filial to your parents. Why do you say that? Parents trust teachers the most, and always want their children to listen to their teachers and do things according to their instructions, because the kindness of teachers to care for, love and educate students is the same as that of parents to their children. In the process of teaching and educating people, teachers' efforts and costs for students are incalculable. Wei Shusheng, a contemporary educator, put it well: "In the world, apart from biological parents, the one who wants a person to do one thing most and wants him to surpass himself most is his teacher." He also said: "Teachers, even teachers with low level, sincerely hope that their students will develop morally, intellectually and physically in an all-round way, and dream that their students will improve, their grades will improve, and they will win the competition and become talents. There is no doubt that the teacher wants every child to have a good mood. "
The richest man with high expectations for "virtue"
Buffett is the richest man in the world. Perhaps, everyone wants children to be like him.
Who is Buffett? Regarding Buffett, Liu Jianwei, a researcher and disseminator of Buffett's value investment concept in China, wrote that Buffett's life is too good to be true. In May 2009, he went to the United States to interview Buffett and felt that Buffett was very modest. At the press conference, everyone kept asking questions, and many people also asked for signatures. The 79-year-old man always smiles for hours. People are surprised to find that the world's richest man will personally drive to the airport to meet his guests. Even if he gets a little help from others, he will solemnly express his gratitude. Buffett's headquarters has only 16 people. Although he is the only one who makes decisions, he can manage 2 trillion yuan of assets. Buffett is very decentralized to the managers of dozens of companies he controls, and he rarely asks questions at ordinary times. He just looks at the statements at the end of the year, but these people work for Buffett, even harder than before selling the company to Buffett. Liu Jianwei said with emotion that among all the investment masters, there is no doubt that Buffett earns the most money. His career is not only because he is smart and capable, but also because he treats people sincerely and frankly, so others trust him and are loyal to him.
Speaking of "virtue", Liu Jianwei also mentioned Li Ka-shing. In April 2006, more than 30 Chinese mainland entrepreneurs visited Li Ka-shing, the richest man in China. As soon as the elevator door opened, I didn't expect Li Ka-shing, who was over 70 years old, to personally stand at the elevator door to meet them, humbly shake hands with each visitor and hand over business cards one by one. After eating for an hour, he went to four tables to communicate separately 15 minutes. After the visit, Li Ka-shing personally went to the elevator and shook hands to say goodbye. Before the elevator door closed, Li Ka-shing did not leave immediately, but bowed respectfully.
This move reminds Liu Jianwei of the opening remarks of Li Ka-shing's speech: "When we dream of greater success, do we prepare harder?"? When we dream of becoming leaders, do we have the humility to serve others? We often just want to change others. Do we know when to change ourselves? Do we know how to reflect on ourselves when we criticize others every day? "
Teach children what to be.
No one in the world is the same, let alone perfect. Naturally, the answer to teaching children what to be is also very broad. In addition to the above-mentioned people who bear the brunt of filial piety, they should also set educational goals and focus on training according to their children's "weaknesses". The following are the basic requirements for a person.
First, be an honest person. Honesty is the foundation of people and has been an important content of moral education since ancient times. Don't make promises to children at will, think twice before making promises to children, and make promises to children; Sincerely praise and encourage children; If you find your child lying, be patient and enlighten him to realize his mistakes and correct them.
Second, be an ambitious person. Ambition is the driving force to achieve life goals. Set an ambition, set a goal, and the child will have the direction to walk. For ambition, children have pursuits.
Third, be a kind person. Kindness is the warmest and most beautiful light in human nature. Kindness is the road to harmony and beauty. Only when the heart is full of goodwill can we warm the world.
Fourth, be a real person. Start with small things, start with small things. Only by being honest, telling the truth and doing honest things can we win the trust and help of others.
Fifth, be an upright person. Honest people treat others equally, do things fairly, behave well, do not seek personal gain, steal, play tricks or flatter others, so they are popular.
Sixth, be an educated person. The so-called education should know the depth, respect, level, weight, discipline and morality. Educated people often do things by virtue instead of skill, by Tao instead of seeking, and by courtesy instead of power.
Seventh, be a diligent person. You can't give a child something to play with just because he wants to play, but give him whatever he wants to eat to meet all material requirements. From frugality to luxury, from luxury to frugality.
Eighth, be a knowledgeable person. It is necessary to guide children to keep learning and exploring and lay a solid foundation for the future.
Ninth, be a wise man. Wisdom includes insight and judgment. With wisdom, people will know how to apply knowledge to practice and quickly turn it into ability. Without wisdom, knowledge will lose its value, and people with knowledge will become bookworms.
Tenth, be a healthy person. Not only physical health, but also mental health. Happiness is not sought outside the heart, but only inside. If you are sad and depressed all day, such a child will have no fun and it will be difficult to be happy in the future.
Educational methods are not difficult.
In the lecture entitled "How to Learn to Educate as a Person", Ye Bo once told him that a child's mother told him that after learning the Disciple Rules at school, the child would respond to the teacher's "call" and start washing his mother's feet as soon as he got home. Mom doesn't agree. What should I do if the child knocks over the footbath so young? Ye Bo told her she'd better knock it over. She wants to know why. Ye Bo told her that because you let him wash his feet, you fulfilled his filial piety. In addition, you can also take this opportunity to tell him on the spot: son, mother is very moved, so she can be filial at such a young age. But you have to think about it, why did you spill the water? You must have lost it. You won't knock it over next time. Come on, let's clean the floor together. So you can take the opportunity to teach children how to take things and how to clean up the ground.
Ye Bo told everyone that in view of this situation, don't worry too much and don't give up, because the more children do, the more they can learn and experience. If the mother hears that the child is going to wash his feet, she touches the child's head and says, silly child, do you have a fever today? Why are you so filial? Doing so will definitely kill the child's filial piety.
So, how to teach children to be human? Educating children should pay attention to the following points:
First of all, parents should know how to cooperate with their children's school teachers and how to fulfill their filial piety and good manners. Whenever this happens, it should be regarded as an opportunity for children to learn to be human.
Second, be a good role model for children. Because relatives have a great influence on children, parents should pay attention to setting a good example for their children: they are determined to be good parents at home, good colleagues at work and good citizens in society. When your actions are good, the children will be moved in a subtle way.
Third, encourage children to read more books. Reading can make children understand. There is a set of books called moral education stories, which take the eight virtues of "filial piety, brother, loyalty, faithfulness, propriety, righteousness, honesty and shame" as the main line and tell the stories of more than 700 sages, which is of great educational significance. It can also guide the reading of Disciples Rules. When a child makes a mistake, he knows where it is without waiting for the teacher to tell him. For example, running around in the classroom and bumping into chairs, what will the children say? "Wide turn, not touching"; When children have bad behavior, they will think of "unintentional, improper name, intentional, improper name."
Fourth, it is early to educate children to be human beings. When did education begin? From small to large, the smaller the better. "Don't teach, be sexually active." If he grows up and becomes crooked, it will be difficult to pull him back. So be sure to teach from an early age. There is an important saying in the Book of Changes: "Enlightenment is also a sacred work". This "enlightenment" means that the world is opening up and everything is still fragile. At this time, we should protect him and train him well. Therefore, this divination extends to children's education, that is, children should cultivate their integrity and correct attitude towards others from an early age. Raising him well is the most sacred merit.