It is not unusual to be lucky enough to attend the funeral.
However, from the group of young people who look up at the sky at a 45-degree angle and feel sad, to the main force of "small mourning" who are competing to attend the "sad meeting" now, mourning has never been as popular as it is today.
More than half of this year has passed, and the word "mourning" has been popular for half a year, becoming an era syndrome. It is not difficult to find that the early arrival of the "middle-aged crisis", the sudden popularity of the "Lycium barbarum thermos cup", the rampant "middle-class contempt chain" and the "class solidification" on the lips make people feel trapped in the loneliness and pain that they can't extricate themselves, and they are trapped in the state of "no matter how fast they run, they can't get rid of this fate".
There is a kind of mourning called false mourning.
Japanese animation "I'm not popular, it's your fault what you think!" 》。
Funeral culture is rampant.
In all fairness, being in a country where success is prevalent and "hardworking and brave", it is not only nothing wrong but also quite commendable to have a little "small mistake" occasionally.
After all, "Little Mourning" is said to be a gentle counterattack against cruel reality by venting emotions, relieving pressure; In a big way, it is a personalized expression of freedom consciousness. A little emotion is better than everyone's mouth going up too much.
However, when the "mourning" culture is really overwhelming and everyone is talking about it, I wonder if you have the same disgust as me, whether physically or psychologically.
Social networks are full of all kinds of "misery", "Ge You paralysis" has been turned crazy, and "feeling that the body has been hollowed out" has been screened; There are few screenshots of Jack Ma Nanbo and the Hilly family's happy life or expression packs of sad frogs, so I am embarrassed to chat with my colleagues!
There is a kind of mourning called false mourning.
Bojack Centaur is a great bereaved person, so he is highly sought after on the Internet in China.
Film and television works, as long as they are related to "mourning", like lights, are immediately welcomed by people from all walks of life, and the speed has reached a new high.
Known as the "annual funeral film", "Manchester by the Sea", the protagonist who can't reconcile with the past, hopelessly projects the shadow of you and me who are not smooth in every life; In the widely acclaimed quartet, Issei Takahashi, who is still firmly dreaming at the age of 30, is caught in the dilemma of chicken soup failure; The movie Seto Inland Sea is even more empathetic. Two ordinary boys have their own philosophy of life-"Why must youth run and sweat?" Why not waste it by the river? " ; However, British and American dramas such as Life in London, Centennial Pub, and Louis Not Easy all tell life stories full of "mourning".
"Mourning" has almost become a kind of "realism".
There is a kind of mourning called false mourning.
Manchester by the Sea is the saddest movie of the year.
At the end of April this year, a flash tea shop-"Funeral Tea" opened, making "Funeral Culture" become a reality from a carnival on the Internet. For a time, it seemed that there was nothing to say to everyone, and it seemed that it was out of place with this society.
When mourning becomes the norm in life or a kind of "political correctness", everyone is seriously "mourning". Will our life really get better because of mourning?
In the face of such overwhelming "mourning", I can't help but think of the bridge in the movie "Animal Year":
Tian Liang: "Why is it so boring to live, so boring to go to work, and so boring not to go to work?" Eating is boring, and not eating is boring; It's boring to have sex, and it's boring not to have sex. Why so boring! "
Jiang Wen: "I'll hit you!" "
There is a kind of mourning called false mourning.
Stills of the movie "Animal Year".
Whoever really lost his life was unlucky and paid IQ tax.
In fact, in the current context, "mourning" has long been divorced from its original intention and has become a social weapon, a defensive tactic and a competitive strategy.
The prevalence of "small losses" is largely due to self-mockery.
The concepts of "three good students", "Mr. Nice guy" and "mom's friend" have long been out of date, which is really lame. Many people simply give up-instead, they dare to accept their imperfections and take the initiative to laugh at their shortcomings.
Instead of giving others a chance to laugh at my failure, I might as well take it as a warning-"I am a basket case", which makes people unable to refute. From this perspective, "mourning" is a tactic.
The self-mockery of "small loss" is also worth pondering. Most words vaguely reveal that "I know everything, but I'm just lazy", and the implication is that "I only have one chance to succeed", which makes this self-mockery rise to a certain extent. I have to say that this kind of "small loss" self-mockery is quite advanced.
There is a kind of mourning called false mourning.
The self-mockery of "mourning" has the nature of showing off. The picture shows the mourning culture of Brother Yolk.
What may be even more irritating is that those "mourning" that are on their lips all the time are actually working hard in secret. For example, those students who say that they don't read all day but study hard secretly pretend to be scum, but they are actually tyrants. Mourning is a smoke bomb they use to confuse their opponents and make them "underestimate their enemies."
In this era of "hidden success", even if anyone has a long-planned ambition in his heart, he will basically not make a big splash before he operates or succeeds; Only when you do, will you make the good news public and enjoy the admiration from all directions.
On the road to success, most people show their grief, set an ambush or deal with an ambush. After all, in the case of fixed thinking, who will guard against a "mourning"?
There is a kind of mourning called false mourning.
Mourning is sometimes a disguise. Figure /wezeit
Therefore, the following dialogue is quite realistic:
"What have you been doing recently?"
"I don't want to do anything, so sad."
"What happened?"
"I'm in mourning. I'll lie down as soon as I get home. "
You snickered sincerely: I was not alone, so I continued to lose my life contentedly and frankly.
On an ordinary day after half a year, you brush your circle of friends-friends who are "bereaved", or you start your own business, or you successfully jump to the top 500 in the world, or you quietly board a plane to continue your studies on the other side of the ocean. ...
Only you, brushing a circle of friends that has nothing to do with you, continue to mourn, or silently pinch your thighs.
There is a kind of mourning called false mourning.
Pretending to make progress is sometimes a satire. Figure/"I feel my body is hollowed out"
Poisonous chicken soup is not chicken soup?
Young people are more interested in "poisoned chicken soup" than "mourning" itself.
On June 5438+ 10 last year, the Japanese coffee brand UCC released a series of posters with black quotes, which exploded the circle of friends. What attracts young people most in Weibo is often the sharp V of poisoned chicken soup.
As the main force of "mourning culture", most of the post-90s people live in families with high hopes for success-they have been compared to "other people's children" since childhood without consent, and they have to be "the first in exams" and "stable and reliable in work", but the house price can only make people sigh ... From birth to growth, the post-90s people seem to have been burdened with unbearable weight.
Therefore, when chicken soup doesn't work in reality, it needs poisonous chicken soup to prick the heart; There are many "little true joys" that whitewash peace, so you should wash your eyes with "little true losses"; I have eaten too much light Cantonese food, and I also want to try the spicy stimulation of Sichuan and Hunan cuisine. Insist on encouraging truth, goodness and beauty, sharp and cruel, and commendable ... Many times, the pursuit of funeral culture is just out of fun and freshness that runs counter to mainstream expression.
There is a kind of mourning called false mourning.
It's good to lose once in a while. Don't take it seriously
However, chicken soup is difficult to cure the complex problems in real life, and neither is poisoned chicken soup. Talking about "mourning" every day is at best a kind of rest in life. The funeral is over. Oh, it should be said that whether you have finished the funeral or not, you still have to do what you don't want to do, you still have to go to work, and you still have to face the "dad" you don't want to face. ...
What? How dare you say "I'm sorry, I'm sorry" to your boss? Sorry, too many younger and more capable schoolmasters are chasing each other under the guise of "mourning".
Perhaps, what is really sad is that whether you are lucky or sad, you can't get rid of "small". Is a person's earth-shattering, will never be the theme of the times.
Well, since what we can control is always "small" and since life is "fortunately lost". What's the loss? Get up. Hey!