Whatever you do, don't act before you act.

1. Respect opinions

To put it simply, at least listen to your parents' objections patiently and understand what is the core reason against you, so that you can find an opportunity to persuade your parents to accept it, and in the process of persuasion, you can further understand the reasons for your decision.

After all, this is equivalent to negotiation. If you can't state the other side's point of view and satisfy the other side, then don't try to convince the other side, solve the problem and reach a consensus.

Therefore, it is necessary for you to carefully repeat the main opinions and concerns of your parents and confirm them. This is the best respect for parents' opinions. Even if no agreement can be reached in the end, the relationship will generally not be very stiff.

2. Effective evaluation

After fully understanding your parents' thoughts, you can make an effective evaluation and ask yourself these questions:

1. What is the starting point of parents' opinions? Are you really thinking about your future life, or are you just thinking about your face? If you follow your parents' advice, will it obviously harm your own interests?

2. Do parents know their actual situation? Parents don't know their own values, whether they have tracked their own changes, whether they can accurately evaluate their own advantages and disadvantages, and so on.

3. What is the reference value of parents' experience in this respect? Whether parents have enough experience and judgment in this respect, after comprehensive evaluation, it is also a valuable part to refer to.

Make an independent choice

Some people want their parents to make decisions for them, especially on some key issues, which is to authorize their parents to interfere in your decisions. Many adult friends who are interfered by their parents may not admit that they actually authorized their parents, but will argue that they really have no choice and they have no choice.

To some extent, this is a manifestation of fear of taking the consequences alone. I've always wanted an authoritative voice to tell me how to choose. In case I make the wrong choice, I can find someone to blame.

But marriage is your experience, and the final choice is to come by yourself.

Divorce needs a process. If you can finally get the support of your parents, I believe you will gain inner certainty.