Teach you a chat with high emotional intelligence. In our daily social activities, we often feel anxious about the low emotional intelligence of others. So how to ensure that your speech can be recognized by others and your emotional intelligence is high? Let's take a look at the chat with high emotional intelligence.

Teach you to reply with high emotional intelligence. Chat 1 If someone asks you what you are doing? What would you say? This seems to be a simple question, but there are many reasons. I think that's what you usually say. You are eating or watching TV, or you are doing nothing ... some smart people will reply to girls like this.

Guess what I'm doing? I'm thinking about you, baby. This way of chatting seems clever, but do you know how to chat next and what the other person thinks of you? The other person may think that you are too greasy and don't want to talk to you all day.

There are two reasons why people usually chat with you and ask what you are doing.

The first one is that I have something to ask you for help. The second is that I want to chat with you now, just because I have time.

Besides the first one, the second one needs you to seize the opportunity. Let me introduce some people with high IQ. How do they answer such questions? Humorous reply-who doesn't like people with a little humor? If you give the other person a little humor when he asks you what you are doing, then he will definitely add a lot of points to your impression.

Come on, let's see how the humorous person answers.

What are you doing? I'm thinking about a problem. What are you thinking about? I wonder why a beautiful woman asked me what I was doing. It was humorous and showed high emotional intelligence.

Rhetorical answer-

The answer to the rhetorical question is simple. You ask the other person, what are you doing? Therefore, we can grasp the right to speak.

For example, the other party asks: What are you doing? You with high IQ should answer like this: I am thinking about you, and you?

Ridiculous reply-

Many people like cold people, but not many people really like cold.

Do you want him to be coquettish when chatting with you?

Of course, this kind of coquetry can only be for you, not for others. If someone asks you, what are you doing? You can say I'm thinking, thinking about what?

Think about the difference between you and other women. At this time, the other party must have thought of something.

At this time, if the IQ is high, you can reply to him like this. Other women usually like someone and say they love you, but you just say what are you doing?

Simple answer-

Maybe you think the above methods are a little difficult for you, so now I will introduce you to a particularly simple reply method, which is to reply according to your daily life.

She asked what you were doing. Without knowing how to reply interestingly, you can say that you have just eaten, are ready to read, or are running. Although this answer is simple, it can lead to new topics, such as whether we can take a walk together so that two people can communicate without embarrassment.

Teach you to chat 2 1 with high EQ reaction to avoid imperative tone.

Misexpression: You can't do this.

Everyone yearns for independence and freedom, and no one likes to listen to imperative spoken English. If you replace "you" with "I", the effect will be different: I hope you don't do this (smile).

2. It is more meaningful to speak without negative meaning.

Misexpression: I like you, but I don't like you smoking.

However, the table turning point has a negative meaning. To get rid of negative meaning, on the one hand, it is to give the other party a respect, on the other hand, it is to praise the other party before restraint. Psychologically, the other person is more receptive.

In the above example, I like you, which is an affirmation of your personal value, but I don't like boys smoking, so I can express this way: I like you, but I prefer you who don't smoke.

3. Expressing negative emotions will affect the other person's entry into negative emotions.

Misexpression: I will never trust you again.

If girls don't really want to break up, they just want to express their unhappiness because they were cheated or praised by the man through similar words, and then let the man admit and correct his mistakes. In fact, this will not only fail to achieve the effect, but also make her look angry and convey strong negative emotions, and the other party will also enter negative emotions. Both sides' emotions are negative, and quarrels are more likely to occur.

Then it can be expressed as follows: Dear, I am looking forward to this gift. If you have any difficulties, you can tell me. I want to go with you. I hope you don't do this, okay?

4. Learn to listen

Listening is an art, and a person who can listen is empathetic first, and his emotional intelligence is not bad.

Psychology believes that as long as you are willing to show sincere listening attitude, you will be hard to be influenced by the troubles of interpersonal communication and you will become an expert.

Dale Carnegie, a famous inspirational master, once said, "Listening attentively to other people's attitudes is the greatest compliment we can give others and the best way to win others' welcome. "

(1) Listening can make others feel respected and appreciated.

Listening carefully when others are talking is the best concern for ta. In this way, he will feel respected and appreciated, and the positive feedback of listening is that others will repay your sincerity with enthusiasm and gratitude.

(2) Listening: Listening more and talking less can protect your secret.

In business negotiations, experienced people usually hide their cards, pay attention to each other's conversation, and then show their cards after fully understanding each other's situation, which often leads to favorable negotiation results.

But in intimate relationships, it doesn't have to be like this. In intimate relationships, listening allows you to catch each other's thoughts and wishes, and catch the points of mutual interest to chat. The other party will find that ta still understands this, and ta is willing to appreciate me as she did when she was in love. Isn't this novel?

So how do you listen?

(1) Grasp the key words and key points, repeat them in your own words, and confirm with the other party whether it is what ta wants to express;

(2) Calm down for three seconds, restrain yourself from expressing opinions and interrupt each other's impulses and thoughts;

(3) find * * * to sing and push emotions;

(4) After the other person finishes speaking, wait for three seconds to make sure that the other person has finished speaking and is talking about his own thoughts.

5, the four principles of speaking

(1) Don't pretend to talk to your friends. Everyone is equal. There is no need to show how strong you are.

(2) Don't be crazy when talking to your relatives. Give birth to you and support you. You know the root cause.

(3) Talk to the leader and listen more, use the listening method in point 4, and don't grab words. Wait for the leader to finish, and then say that the leader is wrong, don't be repetitive;

(4) Don't choke when talking to customers. Business can't be meaningless. There are many ways to make friends.

Teach you how to chat with people with high emotional intelligence 3 1, and how to chat with people with high emotional intelligence.

People with high emotional intelligence should be more open-minded and involve a wider range. Don't just stare at one point, start with common problems and hot topics, so that communication will be more in place, and don't be stubborn.

Don't use words like "Hehe", "Haha" and "Are you there" when chatting. If you send such a message to the other party or under the stage, people will think that you are mocking Ta. When these two words come out, it seems that you can think of the disdainful eyes of the other party, even if the other party didn't mean it.

People with high emotional intelligence will find similarities between you by looking at each other's head, friends circle, personal signature, attention and hobbies of Ta when chatting. If you find your hobbies, you will become friends in a few minutes, which will not only make Ta happy to chat with you, but also make you enjoy it.

2. Common expressions used by people with high emotional intelligence to chat.

People with high EQ like to add "OK" at the end of a sentence when asking for help from others.

Never speak in a commanding tone. If you add the word "ok", it will become the tone of discussion, and the other party will feel more respected. A friend is the president of a listed company. Every time he asks me to do something, he will add "OK", "Is it convenient for you" and "OK"-especially when dealing with people who are lower than themselves in the secular sense, you will be more educated by consulting.

People with high emotional intelligence like to use "we" and "we" more in chatting, which can quickly close the relationship.

For example, dating someone you just met is more intimate than asking "where to meet tomorrow" instead of "where to meet tomorrow". It's just a change in details, right?

People with high emotional intelligence like to change all "mistakes" into "right".

I have a friend who likes to say "no" best. No matter what others say, he says "no", "wrong" and "no" first, but what he says next is not to overthrow others, but to supplement them. He is just used to saying "no" and everyone hates him. Who likes to be denied?

Sentences to improve emotional intelligence

1, find a vivid example in life, exercise yourself and improve your emotional intelligence.

2. Sweep away everything that wastes energy.

Try another completely different way from time to time, you will broaden your horizons and improve your emotional intelligence.

4. Being a parent can improve emotional intelligence.

5, learn to draw a proper psychological boundary, which is good for everyone.

6. Learn from difficult people.

7. Find a method that suits you, calm yourself down when you feel that you are about to lose your mind, keep your blood in your brain, and make rational actions.

8. When you want to complain, stop and ask yourself, "Should I continue to endure this seemingly unchangeable situation or change it?"