Text | I am Tian Miaomiao

In the past two weeks, after returning from the hospital, I felt very depressed because some problems were found during the examination in the hospital, and I searched online to find out. They were even more worried, so they chatted with their best friends on WeChat.

After I chatted a lot, I found that my mood did not get better, and after my best friend simply comforted me with a few words, she turned around and continued busy with her own things. At that moment, I actually felt like I wasn't understood.

Yes, human beings' joys and sorrows are not the same. Who has the obligation to understand your inner anxiety and pain? Just like actor Yang Mi said: "No one is obligated to understand your hard work, because everyone is very hardworking."

People, no matter how bitter and troubled you are, you don't actually have to deal with it. People tell. Because most of the time it is useless to talk. Xianglin's sister-in-law chattering will not only affect the mood and state of the people around you, but also convey your negative energy. It will also make people stay away from you and even dare not get close to you anymore.

I remember that for a while, a junior sister had a relationship problem and kept coming to me to talk to her. At the beginning, I answered him patiently and comforted him every time.

But then I gradually discovered that he had a very stubborn character. No matter how you comforted her, you could not resolve her prejudices, and no matter how much you persuaded her, she could not change her mind from within. Free yourself from confinement.

I spent a lot of time persuading her, and at the same time I felt that my time was being occupied, but it did not have the slightest effect. Later, when the junior sister came to see me again, I began not to do anything. Respond to her messages enthusiastically and spend your time focusing on the task at hand.

This is the truth of life. Everyone is busy and tired. They have their own life, work, family and other trivial matters to deal with. No one has so much energy to take care of your emotions. Soothe your uneasiness.

No matter what time you are, you still have to rely on yourself. You have to slowly mediate bad emotions by yourself, slowly resolve negative energy by yourself, and slowly figure out things you don't understand over time.

Not passing too many negative things and emotions to the people around you is actually a kind of kindness.

If you say too many annoying and bitter things, people who care about you will worry about you and be anxious for you. People who don’t care about you will look down on you, or even laugh at you behind your back.

It's like a scar that has become abscessed and festering. Time will always heal it, but if you lift up your clothes in a hurry and expose the festering wound in front of others, then others will only feel disgusted and disgusted. It's uncomfortable, and you won't get much sympathy from others.

In fact, not many people in this world really want you to live well. Never expect others to fully understand you. Others will never be able to understand how miserable and tired you are.

Even the people closest to you may sometimes misunderstand you. What is a big setback or difficulty to you is just a light word in the ears of others. So it is better not to say anything, keep your mouth shut, silence is golden.

You must know that people who can truly live a good life must not complain, but be strong. Your attitude determines your future. The more difficult the time, the more you must correct your mentality. Be positive, and your future will be bright, and the people around you will be affected by you and become positive and optimistic, full of hope for the future.

Everyone has unsatisfactory things in life. If you show the worst side of yourself to others every day and tell your misfortune and pity like Mrs. Xianglin, then your life will be Even breathing is painful.

Many times, mentality determines a person's state. Smart people should know that no matter what life gives you, you should continue and work hard, play the bad cards well, and keep playing the good cards. Better.

No matter what kind of gift fate gives you, if it is a setback, you should regard it as an opportunity for growth; if it is a difficulty, you will overcome it; if it is a good thing, then you will enjoy it happily.

If you are so calm and calm, then you will not be swayed by the gossip around you, and you will not let your worries and pains arise.

On the contrary, you can exercise, temporarily divert your attention, or you can stop things, have a good sleep, travel, and have a good rest. Difficulties will eventually pass, life It will be wonderful in the end.

Of course, life is short. Every day we live, we have to constantly give ourselves chicken blood and drink chicken soup. Fortunately, chicken soup is also very nutritious. It can not only make our bodies healthier, It can also make our minds healthier. It's like mindfulness meditation in yoga.

If you hint to yourself that you can do something, then there is a high probability that you can do it. If you decide that it is bad, then the result will most likely be what you think. Go that way.

So no matter what stage you are at or what you are facing, first of all, we cannot give up hope for life. Secondly, we do not need to talk about our inner troubles and anguish with others, or even with others.

Those who keep a low profile, do things seriously, make a fortune in silence, know how to be silent, know how to be alone, know how to accumulate their own strength in difficulties, and know how to settle and hibernate, will most likely be the real winner in the end.

After all, no matter how life goes, he has his own unfazed state of mind and a calm and firm pace.

I hope you will also be a smart person, never tell anyone about your sufferings and troubles, never leave your weaknesses in the hands of others, retain a little sense of mystery, and retain your own dignity and dignity.

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