But my friend, you have read many books, and you should know that it takes a process for people to change. I don't read many books, but I know at least one truth. A rough jade is a waste. No one is born to succeed. Let alone the rich second generation and the official second generation. Maybe they are outstanding in material aspects today, but they are not honed and not as smooth as you think. Therefore, for you, the current confusion is inevitable. I have experienced it, and now I am in another confused period, but I always believe that after this period, we will all become stronger!
First of all, quality is not innate, it is always linked with people's growth. I don't know if you will give your seat to the elderly and children on the bus, say thank you when you buy something, or say it doesn't matter when others apologize. What I learned in this kind of primary school textbook is actually very philosophical and has a great influence on shaping a person. Send you a famous saying from a signed netizen: "Say the right nonsense and do the right stupid thing". I once offered my seat to others on the bus three times in a row. The whole car looked at me like a fool, but the three old people all said thank you when they got off the bus. I insist on saying thank you to others at any time, greeting my neighbors, taking pains to explain clearly when others ask for help, and saying sorry when I can't help; Don't talk too loudly, don't be late easily, keep your solemn promise and give a hand when the old man is talking nonsense, going upstairs and downstairs or going in and out. . .
I don't know how to describe that feeling. Some people will call you hypocritical, and some people will sincerely thank you. In fact, these are trivial things. I used to be vain, thinking that it would make others look down on me. But then I found that no matter what you did today, no one you met today will remember you for a lifetime, and no one will remember you for this. But what you get is the sublimation of your mind again and again. This kind of kindness may not be very helpful to your career, but it is indispensable to your quality. Do what you think is right, not what others think!
Besides, I don't think swearing in the game is a bad thing. Mainly depends on the starting point. You scolded your teammate for his big mistake. I think this just shows your serious attitude. I won't be angry because others accuse me of my mistakes, but when others provoke you for no reason, I will scold you back. I think the game is not a simple game, and taking the game seriously will make you take everything seriously. Never treat anything with an entertaining attitude, including games!
These are just some small feelings. Let's answer your questions.
A responsible person will take responsibility all his life, give happiness to his family and lover, help his friends, repay the society and so on. However, when we don't have this ability, all we have to do is work hard. I know how you feel. When we should study or work hard, we often indulge in games or other things, which leads to losing our way.
Games, entertainment and women are addicts. People who don't understand laugh at our depravity People who have been exposed to drugs and are addicted to drugs struggle every day but can't get rid of them, or fly in a new guise, or sink every day and can't get rid of them all day. You said you should have perseverance, and I agree. However, perseverance is not as simple as talking about it. It often takes some major changes and experiences before you reluctantly choose to let go. When I gave up wow, it was because my girlfriend and I broke up because of the game; I tried to pass the department exam because I wanted to prove that I could give her happiness. I study hard and want to be admitted to the civil service for my family. . . Therefore, perseverance is not "God said, there is perseverance", but you need factors to stimulate it, and then change your life. There is no doubt that your present state is not terrible. Seize the opportunity, make up your mind, and you will definitely change.
Friend, I wonder if you have a chance to read my words. Maybe you were lucky to see them, but it didn't help. But I still want to say some correct nonsense:
First, for us, failure is not terrible. If I am not mistaken, you must be a boy in the 1980s. Then you must have heard of "Broad Sky" by Shin band. Getting used to pain is a kind of gain! This thing is not right, not suitable. Most people have no choice. Most choices in life are out of helplessness. Moreover, people's potential is really unlimited. As long as an ordinary person does one thing seriously, he will achieve something. So, don't worry about what to choose. All you have to do is change your attitude towards study and life now, and then go on and lose!
Second, if you make up your mind, don't leave room for yourself. I have always been addicted to games myself, and I will dota from time to time, so I know how difficult it is to get out of this trap. I've tried countless changes, but in the end, I give up halfway. Most of them are three-minute fever. Therefore, your current state is either sinking or determined to make a big change. While I was working hard, I went to Shanghai alone, and I am still glad of my original decision. I don't have anyone familiar with me. In these two months, my father came to see me twice, my girlfriend came once, I went to an Internet cafe, and I was studying at other times. I have really changed a lot since I came back. Now, except for going to the internet bar on a whim, I basically won't waste time, and work and rest are combined-! So, no matter how you want to change, make up your mind and don't leave room for yourself (you can tell me your decision and I can give you advice)
Third, man is a thinking animal. Every time you think, your life will become heavy. People who can think are always more attractive than those who are numb, and people who are often successful are also people who often think. Maybe our IQ is lower than others and our luck is worse than others, but if we think more, fools will get what they want! So, don't be afraid to think too much, don't be afraid to think wrong, and exchange your thoughts with your parents and friends. Since I think I may be going in the wrong direction, my parents are the most trustworthy teachers. Maybe they are not knowledgeable, but their experience is your best learning object.
Having said that, I want to give you more help, but I don't know where to start. Finally, I'll give you a suggestion. My former friends were all of the same age, because it was easier to communicate with each other, but I learned nothing in those years. Now my friends are big brothers and sisters who are five or six years older than me, but I have also learned a lot. You must know what I mean, keep company with the supreme ~
Of course, not everyone's life is a goal. For us at present, my answer is: people live all their lives, work hard and have a clear conscience!