I have encountered problems in my relationship. I hope everyone can help me. I am in a long-distance relationship~

I can write wherever I want. Don't think I'm nagging

First of all, I'm very afraid of northern men. Their domineering energy immediately made me stay away from him without any hesitation. It's also because he is very suspicious of me when I go out with friends all the time. I feel that being distrusted by others hurts my self-esteem. I feel that a person who says he loves me can actually think of himself as unreliable. Originally, I was happily going out to play, but I was in a good mood, but someone put the lid on me. People can't be so selfish. You should really reflect on this serious mistake. You should learn from my current husband. When you go out to play with your classmates, he will say: Have fun. Remember to call me when you get home to say you are safe. If you need me to pick you up, call me directly (the last two sentences actually also show that I felt worried about him but he changed it in a way that would not hurt me)

Secondly, it seems that you have just graduated from college. I think you were so confused at this time, with so many uncertain factors. . My job prospects, how far away I am from a life with a house, a car, and a wealthy life, and my parents’ expectations of being a good person. After graduating from college, my boyfriend and I lived in two different places. My boyfriend was unwilling to marry me because he felt he was not successful enough, saying he was afraid that he and I would suffer. Fast forward 8 years. Your friends are afraid of life in a small house, but I believe you have also seen Struggle and Milai. I don’t know if I still remember what she said: Sometimes I think how great it would be if I were Charlene. Do you know what I would do? I will never let you go to a promising company or do any career. I want you to find a job that pays less but is leisurely, and hang out with her every day, watching movies, going to discotheques, going to exhibitions, and continuing your school life. We can extend this life as long as we can. We can also save money to buy a Chery QQ, the installment payment type. On weekends, Hua Zi and I can go south to have a big meal at a small AA restaurant, and play billiards in the evening. , or go home and watch DVDs, I will lean on your shoulder, spend the money you earn every month until the last dollar is left, and then go home separately to eat. There is no company, nothing to solve, no entertainment, no others, just live for yourself, I for you, you for me. Did you know? Sometimes I hear Yang Xiaoyun complaining to me about what happened between him and Xiang Nan, and I feel envious. No matter what grudges or grudges they have, they can be together every day, every day.

In fact, it is really simple. It is normal to quarrel. When two people are together, you and I live a fairy-like life, and we are happy even if we repay the loan. If we break up over this matter, it's either that we have no determination or that we are too greedy and think too much about material things. We will regret it later. If you feel separated is painful, you should stay together. But the distance was indeed a problem, and someone had to sacrifice. Because I was relatively useless, I eventually gave up my job and came to my husband’s hometown (my husband cherished the 1080 kilometers I traveled). Now I am a stay-at-home wife. Yesterday, I quietly ate my food for my husband. I cried like a duck, my mother has no words at all, haha~ It’s funny

No one can give you advice. Emotional matters come from the sincerity and cannot be copied. When two people are together, they must trust each other. Warm the other person. Communicate more, understand each other's feelings and respect others. Apologize when it's time to apologize, let the other person tell you what she doesn't like about you, and then evaluate how you get along with her. Anyway, my style is to make things clear and then the two of us can discuss how to get along peacefully. What’s even more terrible is that I also told my husband what to do if I got angry. Because I love him, I really can’t bear to quarrel and if the anger cannot be suppressed, I don’t know what hurtful words will be said to him, so I always tell my husband how to calm my anger. I want to ask for advice and contact you later, but after a lot of nagging I withdrew.

One more thing: You can’t ask her to go to Shanghai, that’s setting a trap for yourself. Unless the nature of your job is stable. I know very well how difficult it is for a person to live in a foreign land. If she can't find a suitable job, it will hurt her self-confidence, and you are her only relative at that time, so many things will become sensitive. If you don't pay attention to her, she will feel that you have ignored her. . It is also possible that when facing a quarrel, she will say: It was you who asked me to be with you in the first place. I gave up XXXX and came here and you did this to me? From what you said, it seems that you will need to take out a loan to buy a house in the future, so this girl must be very perseverant and not afraid of hardship. A home is run by both parties. If she doesn't have the ability to endure hardship and trusts your ability, let her go. It is common for love to collapse if the will is slightly shaken. What can easily cause you to waver is money, status, and trust. A man cannot be without a career, and a woman cannot be without a husband who loves her. Three years after I graduated from college, I gave up the idea of ??being a strong woman. Socializing disgusted me, so I’d better leave the suffering to men.

Seeing that it’s not easy for you to be in a long-distance relationship, just Just like what you wrote in your post: Things Long Distance Lovers Must Know. I really want you to work hard, but it’s actually very difficult. At your age, I think it’s cruel to continue. Let me tell you something you don’t want to hear. You are in Shanghai, which to me is a good place to make money in a big city. It would be great to have a boyfriend there and even live there. It's very vain. Maybe Shanghai has paid a lot of money for you. Even though you are not with them, it is so proud to say that your boyfriend is in Shanghai. Men are afraid of getting into the wrong profession, and women are afraid of marrying the wrong man.

I still don’t know how you get along with her family. In the end, your relationship will have to go through your parents. The girl’s parents may only look at the nature of your job and the size of your house. The pain comes and goes. In fact, the most painful thing has not yet happened. Work hard and settle down in your career. Be a promising man and don't care about your children. Time is the test of life. Don't give up easily but don't be too obsessed. When the time is right, it will happen. If you want to be together, make a plan and tell your girlfriend to listen. Don't be like a child and dwell on issues that are not the focus. Sometimes you need to put aside the problem at hand and face the reality. She is angry and the second key is that she is insecure. She may not know what your future plans are, and she may think that you can’t tell when you will dump her because you haven’t given her direction or hope. You may have said, “We will definitely be together in the future,” but how long will it take? You may have said that I won’t marry you unless you do it, but when will it be? Don't you know that no matter how good the conditions are, a woman who can make money will be labeled as a "psychopath" if she is over 30 and has not been married. In short, how much can you bear and how much can she bear? I could wait from the age of 21 to the age of 29, and I experienced the rejection and obstruction of my parents when we were living in different places. My husband dared to say to me, "I will support you from now on. Will you do it if I only have two steamed buns every day?" I laughed happily after hearing this. Something more cruel than love is yet to come. Do you and her dare to face it? I have a relationship problem, I hope everyone can help me

It's similar to the situation I encountered...a girl says she doesn't have feelings for you, she just doesn't want to feel sorry for you, because she has her ex-boyfriend in her heart, girl It is easy to be nostalgic and have random thoughts, so many of what she says cannot be taken seriously. Girls always mean what they say. She may not be sure about how long she can be with you. You should give her more sense of security and let her If she feels that you are always around her and cares about her, she will slowly understand that girls are easily moved...Don't ask her how she is with her ex-boyfriend in front of her. This is a big taboo, and give her some time to let it go. She slowly let go of that relationship, and during this period she had to treat her well and not get angry with her, otherwise she would easily miss her ex-boyfriend, and there were a few days in a month when girls would suddenly have a bad temper. , you should also know that the one for her is coming... Spend more time with her, let her spend more time with you, and leave a deep impression on her... Most girls say that they break up with anger. I want to see if I have done anything wrong recently. Even if she is wrong, I still have to say that I am wrong... Don't miss your true love... I wish you happiness... I have relationship problems, I hope everyone can help me!

Most boys will be like this! I can’t say that I like the new and dislike the old, but I don’t have the same enthusiasm as in the beginning! I think you should know this! There are two small suggestions: 1: Play games with him! It not only allows you to talk about some topics with him, but also uses it to spy on information; you also learn from him, how he treats you, how you treat him. Then when he notices it, tell him that this is how you did to me. Then cry loudly, it is best not to make a fuss. Of course, the specific situation will be analyzed in detail! Two: Change yourself! Learn to dress up and learn to be confident. You must have been together for some time, and you may know what type of person he likes, so try to change it. Act coquettishly and so on. I think anyone would be annoyed if they face the same person every day. I think if you are still nice to him and he becomes colder and colder to you, you can give up. Because he takes your kindness to him for granted. I'd say that's all. It’s better to decide your own affairs, at least you won’t regret it. I hope everyone can help me, hey... I have emotional problems

There is no need to be together. Although the man who loves you is under great pressure, he cannot hurt you. Your problems are not unique to you. Basically Of course you should respect each other, be free and easy, maybe you will meet a better man than him. What man doesn't have pressure? Having pressure doesn't mean he has the right to be so angry with you or even be indifferent to your departure. It's unforgivable. Maybe he doesn't love you deeply or enough. Your house matters can be placed between the two cities, and you don't necessarily have to rush to buy a house because of the price. It is better to choose a quiet and cost-effective location. Why are house prices soaring now and even more so? In fact, there is no need to buy a really good house. People nowadays just can’t think about it and worry about the house.

My relationship has hit a bottleneck. I hope everyone can help!

This is not a problem. It requires more experience. Many children from single-parent families have difficulty integrating into this society. They always feel as if others are against them. In fact, many times it is their own problem. For this problem, whether it is You are not a single parent. As long as you feel that society has problems, you should first find answers to yourself. It is your own problem and society's problem. Society can't adapt to some of them. Then most people will not survive. Because most of them People can survive, which proves that they have adapted to society, and those who complain still need to be tempered

An emotional problem... I hope everyone can help me

First love?

Let me send you a message! The online world is wonderful, but very helpless!

Trick 1: Delete all resources related to him! Cut off all contact·You can’t find him even if you want to look for him! Then study hard

Trick 2: Share with him and see what he thinks of you! Then study hard and take the exam together!

Tip 3: If you can’t separate, don’t force it. In fact, people have to suffer a little before they know how to give up, but I still hope you are happy!

You talk too much. . . (Dot, dot, dot, dot, dot, dot) I’m aware of the pain that lasted for a long time! Regarding the emotional issues of long-distance relationships, I hope you can help me...

Since it is because you are too curious, then give her a little more space. Even if you are a husband and wife, they should keep a little private space for each other, maybe not It's not a secret, but you just don't want to tell others. Tell her you will change and see if she agrees not to break up.

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First of all, I want to say that a man like you is really good, and he is really a practitioner of love. I really admire you.

Now when it comes to this woman’s problems, everything is her fault and has nothing to do with you. You don’t need to bear any responsibility. Now she needs to settle the relationship with her ex-boyfriend first. Only when the child problem is solved can you be reunited.

But you deceived your family and your friends for a woman. This is just a woman you love very much. This woman is better than you. Your family is more important. So I still look down on you. A manly man, you can pick it up and put it down.

You'd better ask her to resolve the matter with her ex-boyfriend by herself, or you can go with her. Okay, remember, this is the last time.

There are many good women in the world, and a good man like you should have a better woman.