-feeling after reading Fu Lei's letter
Everyone has biological parents, and most of them have experienced their love and teaching. When I read this letter from home, I felt a different kind of teaching, not the teacher's teaching, not the elder's persuasion, but the parents' concern for their children, which is different from my parents' concern, but it does not lose the feeling of being carefully cared for. I seem to have found another kind of parental love, which most children can't understand. This may be the reason why I loved her for ten years. It's a letter from home, like a precious heart-to-heart, which brings us closer. I feel, listen and remember with my heart like a good boy.
Father Fu Lei is a wise, knowledgeable and upright scholar. When I was young, I was even a little violent and full of personality. Mother Zhu Meifu is an oriental woman with oriental cultural accomplishment and has been baptized by western culture. She is dignified, virtuous and kind.
His father, Fu Lei, dabbled in a wide range, made profound research on literature, music, painting and both at home and abroad, and his personal cultural accomplishment was extremely high. The object of his training is to receive a good family education from an early age and finally grow into Fu Cong, the son of an international master. He deeply understands that art, even like piano playing, needs strict technical factors, but it is by no means a "craft", but a manifestation of wholehearted and complete personality. He educated his son and said, "I always think that the most important thing is' people', and we should cultivate a' person' as much as possible. Before becoming an artist, we must learn to be human, otherwise that kind of family will not make much contribution to mankind. " A person who is purely devoted to art has nothing but art and personal personality.
The so-called "person" is concrete and subtle in Fu Lei's mind, not just a wish, but a slogan. From loyalty and dedication to the world, to strictness in one's own career, to filial piety to parents, to understanding of his wife, to tolerance to friends, even the handling of a piece of music, communication with friends, and even the words and manners of his son, all warn readers that "hands should be upright and people should stand up straight".
In that sinister era, when personal safety was not guaranteed, the mother took care of her distant son and grandson. She restrained her inner fears and pains and gave her strong, peaceful and meticulous care to her relatives who were wandering in foreign countries. A sweater knitted for her grandson is as heavy as a mountain, but she is uneasy about the "gift book". In order to let her son feel the warmth of family in a foreign country, she meticulously wrote down the cooking program for fear of missing a detail. She loved her husband and son and devoted her life to this family. However, the trampling and insult to her personal dignity made her unbearable any longer. The husband and wife merged their lives and moved towards eternity, perhaps more favoritism, which was also an ending. However, this end has never been separated from the couple.
As role models of China people, the couple spent their whole lives cultivating their two sons. The eldest son Fu Cong became the famous piano master, and the youngest son Fu Min became a special English teacher. They taught their son to be a "person" first and then a "home". At the end of their lives, it ends with the word "people". All good memories don't want to humiliate themselves, and I don't want to let so many unpleasant things in my life make me unbearable. They would rather abandon themselves and get a kind of relief to complete the interpretation of people. Their death shocked me. I no longer feel pain for them as I did when I was young. I just want them to rest in peace for half a century.
It is their strict family education that has cultivated world-class masters of art, just as a pair of Fu Lei, friends of Lou Shi, "disapprove" of their son Fu Cong's strict and meticulous family education. However, it is this strict family education that has created a beautiful life for him and left a mirror for thousands of parents in Qian Qian. Let's see what we gave the children. How should we express ourselves for children?
In the book, we not only see a strict and caring father, but also see the growth of father and son. His music translator communicates with his son. He also showed his concern and love for the development of the motherland to the students. Fu Lei is doing his duty to the society, the motherland and the human world with a highly responsible spirit and heart. His son Fu Cong learned a lot from his wandering career in a foreign country, but his father made him feel like an orphan overseas, as if his parents were still around, giving him guidance, encouragement and encouragement from time to time, giving him the courage and strength to overcome all kinds of evil influences and obstacles and set foot on the road of his proper growth. Through these letters, he not only established a strong bond between his son and his relatives, but also Fu Cong was firmly separated from the motherland through this bond. Later, it was proved that regardless of the cruel experience of his family and the notoriety he bore, he never turned his back on his motherland, was threatened and lured by his enemies in many ways, and never said or did anything detrimental to the dignity of his motherland. This is a father's influence on a son, which is inseparable from his ardent patriotic education for his son who is thousands of miles away. Time and distance are not a problem. Caring parents, your sleepless beloved son, are irreplaceable textbooks and gas stations of life.
This concern is not a conscious stage, but accompanied by fatherly love. The serious father never shirked his responsibility. Even when Shanghai was surrounded by Japan, he kept his children at home, which appeared in his young body and mind very early. He has the qualities of a musician. Just as he treats himself as carefully and meticulously as he treats young children. He personally compiles teaching materials, gives classes to children every day, and is strict with children. He did it and asked his son to do it together. It's really a real father and son. I am surprised at this father-son relationship in the world. Yes, I am a friend and a comrade.
In addition to feeling that Fu Lei has a wealth of translated works and impressive achievements, he is also such a near-perfect person, integrating art and life into his life beautifully. His life is regular, life is a beautiful arc, and the bits and pieces left to us warm the hearts of every teenager, youth and parents.
When treating his son, he said, "I'm glad that I have another friend and my son has become a friend. What in the world can grow with this happiness? " Moreover, he said modestly and sincerely: "In getting along with my son, I learned patience, speaking skills and emotional sublimation." Teach us how to get along with children and what attitude to associate with. "When the child is suffering, he said," Bitter tears are the wine that cultivates your soul. People who have not experienced severe pain will not have deep and extensive sympathy. "He didn't do everything for his children, but he was happy with the process of their transformation and encouraged him to have a more sincere heart in art." Don't worry about success or failure, just do your best and live up to your heart.
In order to guide his son to devote all his energy to research and study, use more reason and less emotion, and restrain all troubles with strong confidence, he said: "Art is the purpose, and skill is the means. People who always pay attention to means will inevitably forget his purpose. "
Facing the money order sent by college students to their parents, there is no other greeting. The father warned his son that writing letters is forcing you to sort out your thoughts, which is also an excellent training. How much we need it now.
In daily life, he warned his son that "people always have to push themselves." If they don't force themselves, they can't solve the problem. The most basic thing is to seize the time "; "Doing things scientifically and thoroughly"; "Don't be embarrassed in the outside world and be casually stayed by others, so as not to disturb the scheduled schedule"; "Modifying small habits is tantamount to modifying one's own consciousness and temperament". I think it is an urgent problem in our life.
However, such a person who is strict with himself and teaches his children, he said: "The name outside the body is only pursued and amazed by ordinary people in society; It has nothing to do with the smallness and greatness of the individual. Confucius said' let wealth and fame be like clouds', and modern' fame and fortune' also belongs to spiritual' wealth'. Wise people are indifferent and don't be bound by greed. Don't forget the life guide for your famous and married son.
When he became an adult, his son was faced with emotional choices, but he also took the opportunity to help him: "It is very important to find a partner who can recognize each other's shortcomings, admit each other, be willing to change gradually, and tolerate each other at the same time." To find a permanent partner, we should also consider it rationally, don't be blinded by feelings, and be convinced that marriage will change, and don't believe it in advance. " When they got married, he told them not to have money on hand, but to spend money. The more they despised material things, the more they needed control.
Reading everywhere, there are repeated exhortations, warm reminders, like a friend's heart-to-heart, and some even point to play again, pitying the wind of passing on the family line. Are these gentle words like a trickle just the nagging of ordinary parents? This is a Millennium belief. Opening every page is refreshing, and my heart can always be dyed golden.
Letters written by sons Fu Cong and Fu Min to their father are also attached to the book. These letters don't seem to disappear forever. They are lucky to be read by our readers as such a good book, which adds a little democracy and equality to the rest of the commandments. Unfortunately, such a happy family was split up prematurely by the times. As an educator and a parent, I am pushing this book. Maybe you can learn more from it. You might as well read it yourself.
Reflections on Water Margin
The Water Margin is a huge and complicated novel, which vividly describes and reflects the whole process of Liangshan uprising from development to failure. It clearly described the social roots and causes of the uprising at that time, and successfully shaped the vivid images of those uprising heroes, launched the uprising process through their different resistance roads, and specifically revealed the internal reasons for the failure of the uprising.
In fact, I think the plot can be roughly divided into two parts: the first 70 episodes are led by Song Jiang and Chao Gai, gradually attracting heroes from all corners of the rivers and lakes to Liangshan. Among these brave people, some volunteered to go up the mountain, some were cornered by corrupt officials, and some were encouraged to go up the mountain. But in any case, the purpose of these people gathered in Liangshan was to do justice for heaven and resist the corrupt politics at that time. At this time, the heroes in Liangshan were just like what they said: eating meat in large pieces and drinking in large bowls made corrupt officials tremble with fear and made people cry with joy. The author also intends to vent his dissatisfaction with the corrupt regime in society at that time. The last 50 chapters describe the process of Liangshan hero accepting the court's appeal and serving the country. They conquered the Liao kingdom in the north, wiped out Hutian and Wang Qing, and all the leaders were unscathed. The battle of South Expedition to Fang La made Liangshan heroes lose their troops and hurt the survivors, but they didn't get a reasonable and deserved return. Instead, he was persecuted by traitors. Almost all Liangshan heroes have no good end, showing the helplessness of loyalty to the country.
Therefore, The Water Margin also reflects the corruption and chaos in the political society of the Northern Song Dynasty. Therefore, in the book, we can often see the fact that officials paid bribes and oppressed the people, showing that the suffering of the people at that time was nowhere to stretch. Song Jiang and others fought against the government officials of the dynasty to express grievances for the people, which showed another central idea of this book: officials forced the people to rebel-water can carry a boat and also overturn it.
In addition, there are more than 100 main tasks in the book, and their temperament is also different. Everyone has different characteristics, and their language and manners are closely related to their identity and status. Readers can deeply feel their unique personality from the words and deeds and every move of the characters in the book.
Although most of the characters in Water Margin are rude, the author's rudeness is even more surprising: for example, Lu Da's rudeness is impatient and can't be ignored, Shi Jin's rudeness is willful, Li Kui jy's rudeness is outrageous, Ruan Xiaoer's rudeness is indescribable, and Jiao Ting's rudeness is his own bad temper ... There are at least eleven distinct images in this book, which are vivid and lifelike.
This novel takes the society in the late Northern Song Dynasty as the background and exposes the darkness of the society at that time. The characters in the book are under the banner of "doing justice for heaven", as if the author also affirmed and praised the resistance and revenge of the oppressed people. For example, Song Wu avenged his brother, so he took revenge, and was finally framed by Zhang Dujian, and later he was in the blood building; Lin Chong kept forbearing in his predicament and was forced to despair. He finally got revenge in the mountain temple and went to Liangshan on a snowy night. Jie Zhen and Gerber were sent to death row by squire in order to get back a tiger that they shot dead, which triggered people in Gu Dasao to escape from Dengzhou ... It can be said that the people's rights of resistance and revenge have been strongly extended in Water Margin.
Liangshan heroes are all legendary idealized figures. They are brave, resourceful, or powerful, do things aboveboard and dare to be the first. Because these legendary heroes in the Water Margin are attractive to readers, the Water Margin is so popular with readers.