"Like the first article in my circle of friends", "I posted it in my circle of friends" and "He disclosed his girlfriend in his circle of friends" ...
There will be many such things in life. With the rapid development of mobile phones, the circle of friends has become popular in the whole society, and even through a person's circle of friends, one can almost know his life.
And now it seems that falling in love is inseparable from the WeChat circle of friends. When a boy meets a girl he likes, he will get a micro-signal, hoping to get to know this girl through chatting and friends circle, so that he can do what he likes.
However, what makes many boys have a headache is that they finally got the micro-signal, but there is no information in the circle of friends. I have heard many boys' helplessness, similar to "there is nothing in her circle of friends." How can I understand? "
There are many girls who are really like this. Their circle of friends is just a circle of friends, and there is almost no life dynamics in it.
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Now everyone shares a circle of friends. What is the reason why they are so different? I can't escape these five kinds of psychology.
Number one: protect your privacy.
See such a news: a girl who lives alone was robbed.
The perpetrator was an air-conditioner worker. Because he accidentally got the girl's contact information, he found out through the girl's circle of friends that she lived alone and was a WeChat business that didn't go to work. After planning to ambush for half a month, he began to commit crimes.
In today's society, too many girls struggle alone in a foreign land. They don't have relatives or friends around them, so the information is easy to leak now.
Many girls don't want to make their lives public because they want to protect their privacy. Many times, information that is inadvertently leaked will be regarded by malicious people as an opportunity to protect their privacy.
They hardly share their lives. You never know how evil the outside world is. Many girls are injured. In order to protect themselves, strangers should know less about themselves.
Second: peace of mind and strong self-digestion ability.
Friends circle is not only a place to share life, but also a place to share feelings. It's better to vent than to share.
For everyone, life is not satisfactory, so many people will express their dissatisfaction in the circle of friends. On the one hand, they are venting, on the other hand, they may be looking for comfort.
Such people give others the feeling that they are very sentimental and feel that they have to give everything. To tell the truth, there is indeed a melodramatic factor.
People who don't make friends generally don't have this mentality. They also have bad places, but they just don't want to make their bad places public. More often, they are doing self-help.
This kind of person has a relatively peaceful mind and does not need to seek comfort from others in this way.
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Third: I don't like to show myself.
Some people who love to make friends are really people who love to share their lives, but they can't lack showing off.
Some people always take selfies because they think they are beautiful enough. Some people have to make friends wherever they go, even by plane, just to show everyone that their life is beautiful enough.
But some people have a good life, and when they have had enough, they disdain to show themselves in the circle of friends. To be honest, they really despise it.
When you are plump and beautiful, you are not in the mood to show off. Of course, these people are really low-key
Fourth: No one you like.
If you find that a girl suddenly starts to send friends frequently, and the content is mostly sweet selfies or sweet quotations, then there is no doubt that there are people she likes on her WeChat list.
A girl is really simple, facing the person she doesn't like is like an iceberg, but when she meets the person she likes, she can't wait to write everything for him to understand.
Similarly, if a girl's space is basically not dynamic and she doesn't send a circle of friends for 10,000 years, then she must have no favorite person, at least not in her WeChat list.
It may also be a good thing for boys who want to pursue her. After all, there will be more people who don't like her, otherwise it is impossible to catch up with her.
However, in the worst case, such girls are hard to get close to.
Fifth: I want to send it, but I have scruples.
I think there are more people in the latter psychology than the first four combined. Many people want to share their lives and express their emotions. They also think this photo is very good.
However, when they want to publish these contents, they will have such thoughts in their hearts: Is this photo not very beautiful, is it that I am too melodramatic and how embarrassing it is that no one likes it? ...
In the end, it is entangled, and the result is that it will not be sent or even deleted.
This is a concern, and there is another concern, the people in the friends list. There are more people in contact. In addition to relatives and friends, there are bosses, colleagues or partners on the list. Many times, the content of your circle of friends is not suitable for everyone.
It seems too much trouble to establish a visible circle of friends every time, so many people simply stop posting, which can also be called laziness.
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Friends circle has advantages and disadvantages. People who love to share seem easy to understand, but they have to admit the danger. People who don't like making friends have many reasons, but it's really hard to understand.
But I don't think it matters whether you love sharing or not. Similarly, don't judge a girl's life because of her circle of friends. It's just a part of her, and the truth remains to be verified.
If you really want to get to know a girl through her circle of friends, be careful. After all, everyone lives in real life, not in a circle of friends.