The famous Russian writer Tolstoy has long said: There is no real friendship between men and women, only love.

The so-called confidant is the best friend besides the husband or boyfriend. This friend is commonly known as: "Lan Yan's confidant," or also called: "boyfriend." Say anything to this man or your confidant. Discuss life, society, life, society, human nature, and marriage with this man. When you are in a bad mood, talk to this man first. When you are in a good mood, report anything happy to this man as soon as possible, no matter how big or small it is. I think about chatting with this man every day and have endless things to say with this man. Let me ask you weakly, after you have finished talking outside, what else do you have to say to your husband or boyfriend when you get home?

I very much agree with Tuo Lao's point of view. There is no real friendship between men and women, there is only love. Let me add another point of view, or adultery. When she didn't find a husband she was very satisfied with in her marriage, she went out of her body, told herself a big lie, and made up a beautiful legend that was deceived and deceived. Just to find reasons for betraying the marriage, those literati also used long and lengthy words to endorse the "blue beauty's confidant". The "blue-faced bosom friend" is depicted in an extravagant manner, in an attempt to subvert people's normal understanding of marriage. In case they cheat in the future, they can give themselves reasons and answers.

Since "Lan Yan Zhiji" is so wonderful, can you find a few great examples? Tolstoy is absolutely right, there is no friendship between men and women, only love.

1. My best friend’s boyfriend;

During college, Wang Qian and Li Tong lived in bunk beds. Wang Qian lived in the upper bunk bed and Li Tong lived in the lower bunk bed. Both girls were quite beautiful. of. Wang Qian is lively, cheerful, carefree, loves snacks, and comes from a big city; Li Tong is gentle and elegant, and comes from a small place.

Wang Qian in the upper bunk likes to eat snacks, and Li Tong in the lower bunk becomes a trash can. A biscuit falls from the upper bunk, a piece of potato chips, and ham sausages and so on. There are all kinds of things. , as long as it is food, it will fall down. Everyone can see that Wang Qian's family background is superior. Not only Li Tong in the lower bunk, but Wang Qian in the upper bunk was also embarrassed and would give Li Tong some food from time to time, and the two of them would share it together.

The two of them became good friends as soon as they went back and forth. Since the beginning of their sophomore year, in order to make it easier to talk, the two of them would sleep on the same bed, either on the upper bunk or on the bottom bunk. Sometimes I can't finish talking until dawn. Later, the two of them became as good as one person: they went to class together, ate together, walked together, chatted together, went shopping together, watched movies together, and were inseparable.

Wang Qian fell in love first. She fell in love with Haoting, a handsome guy who was one step older than her. Li Tong, who was on the lower bunk, naturally became Wang Qian's boyfriend's confidant. So Wang Qian's boyfriend shuttled between the two beautiful women. Sometimes Haoting couldn't bear Wang Qian's domineering and bad temper, so he confided in Li Tong. Li Tong is very gentle, elegant in behavior and polite to others. Whenever Haoting confided in Li Tong, Li Tong would always listen carefully and patiently and give his own reasonable suggestions. They got along so sweetly like this, and they were in their senior year in a flash.

Soon his college career will be over. On the eve of graduation, Haoting confessed to Li Tong, saying that he loved Li Tong and hoped to accept him.

Look, there is no friendship or confidant between men and women. There is only love between men and women. Friendship turns into love just because of an opportunity. Once things are done and the time is right, friendship will either turn into love, or the friendship will turn into a sexual partnership.

2. The child’s godfather;

Shuying was assigned to a military industrial enterprise after graduating from technical school. Her master happened to be her senior brother from the same technical school, which inexplicably increased the number of people. The sense of intimacy between master and apprentice. The master is a little older than her, married, and has a lovely and well-behaved daughter. Shuying is quite pretty, but she is relatively slender and is not very good at working on military products. There were many tasks that she couldn't do, so her master helped her do them. She was very grateful to her master. Sometimes Shuying also brings more food for the master to eat. They became good friends.

Later, Shuying got married and had a fat boy, so she recognized her master as the child's godfather. They stayed friends for ten years.

Shuying’s husband is a construction engineer. He has a project that requires him to work out of town for several years, but he comes back during the New Year and holidays.

Once, when I was celebrating the birthday of a co-worker in the workshop, we all had a dinner together. Shuying drank too much, so the master sent her home. After arriving home, the master arranged for his apprentice and when he was about to go out, Shuying suddenly held the master's hand and wouldn't let go. That's how they had their first time.

Both confidants and confidants have no chance. Once the opportunity is ripe, none of them will say that they are just confidants.

3. Uncle Wang and Aunt Li;

Uncle Wang and Aunt Li met during square dancing. Uncle Wang is 60 years old. His wife passed away the year before last. In order to exercise and get rid of loneliness, he goes to square dance every night.

Aunt Li is 55 years old, and her husband died of illness 10 years ago. He is the leader of the square dance team. He is very good at square dancing. Uncle Wang’s square dance was taught by Aunt Li step by step.

The children of the two old people are married and have careers. Uncle Wang and Aunt Li live alone in the community. In order to save trouble, Uncle Wang sometimes goes to Aunt Li's house to make meals. Sometimes Uncle Wang makes delicious food and invites Aunt Li to his house to drink some red wine. The two old people live a very comfortable life.

As time went by, the children of both parties knew about it and felt that it was inappropriate for a man and a woman to be together every day, so they wanted to separate them. Aunt Li's daughter took Aunt Li to live in her home and sold the house.

The two old people had nothing to do. They just danced, ate, and chatted. After they separated, the two old people agreed to be good friends for life. We talked to each other heart-to-heart about whatever was on our mind, and sometimes the phone calls lasted for hours, chatting about all sorts of things without even wanting to put down the phone, and the phone bill soared. A year passed like this.

On Uncle Wang’s birthday, he asked Aunt Li to have a casual meal together, and Aunt Li happily went to the appointment. They discussed that being friends was better than being wives, and they couldn't listen to the children because they would still have the rest of their lives. The next day, Aunt Li moved to Uncle Wang's house.

Master Tolstoy really said it well. He saw through everything in the world and said: There is no friendship between men and women, only love.

The so-called "Lanyan confidant" is deceiving oneself and others.