1. Say this person's name first, and then his identity may be better. In addition, when introducing others, introducing his favorite topic with his career, hobbies and one or two bright things will make others more impressed, regardless of his own return.

2, the best opening remarks: For a man, the best way is to let another man tell her your love, in other words, let another man help you say' opening remarks' will have a higher success rate than yourself.

Don't express yourself in a hurry during communication, think twice before you speak. Listen carefully when others are talking, give some encouragement, and finally express your views. I don't know how to answer or express. I should look at the questioner and tell him with a smile. I need to spend some time thinking about how to answer. , and then change the subject.

4. Find opportunities to deal with important people: No matter what activities you participate in, try to get to the scene as soon as possible and stand by and observe others. When you find the target, you should rush to the other side like a seat.

5. Learn to say goodbye: When you end a phone call or conversation, you can describe your happy feeling, and it is best to say the other person's name. For example:

Thank you for your advice on XX, Li XX. It was nice talking to you.

XXX, nice talking to you. I hope you have a pleasant trip and everything goes well.

6. The key to a smooth conversation with strangers: observe each other carefully and learn some trivial matters and details in each other's life. For example, the distance you live, the experience of the past few hours. Dress, accessories, through these topics, it is easy to start a dialogue.

7. Prepare a list of topics: usually try to make a list, write down some topics that everyone likes to discuss, do some homework and preparation, and determine what you want to express, especially pay attention to everyone's discussion, and be more passionate when expressing. For example, remember a few jokes, jokes and interesting topics.

8. Don't understand how to hide when others are talking: You can pull the audience around you aside and ask for help in a low voice, asking him to tell you the answer. Don't be shy when asking others for help. They won't think you are ignorant, but are willing to help you. (Note: You can also search on your mobile phone immediately. )

9. How to invite others to an appointment? When you invite a big shot, if you say: Are you free to have lunch with me on Wednesday? Usually it will be rejected, but in another way, if you are free in the next two weeks, let's have lunch together. Or: I want to have lunch with you sometime. Look at the timetable and tell me your convenient time. Dating girls can be done in a similar way. For example, I heard that there is a new Spanish restaurant nearby and I want to try it. When are you free to go with me? When inviting others, don't say yes, say when. . .

10, how to impress others when eating. When you treat someone to dinner in a restaurant, you often meet two people scrambling to pay the bill. Another way is to give the credit card or some cash to the waiter in advance, so as to avoid disputes afterwards and leave a good impression. (Note: Several friends around me have similar habits. They should check out before or during meals, and then set aside some expenses. )

1 1. Don't apologize for being late on important occasions, just a word? Excuse me, everyone? That's enough. After a meeting or activity has been going on for a while, find an opportunity to tell the reason calmly and sincerely, and make others wonder if they can make excuses.

12. When you make a mistake and are questioned on the spot, you can use the following four steps:

(1) Listen to the other person's question quietly, and then tell him: I'm glad you asked this question?

(2) Follow each other's words, and then repeat each other's questions word for word. Don't say anything What if? And then what? But? Don't change what the other person questioned you.

(3) pause for a few seconds

(4) Then tell the other person why you did it without reservation. If there is no reasonable explanation, tell him what lessons you have learned from it.

13, if it leaves a reliable impression? This technique was written in the previous article, that is, write notes in a notebook in front of the other person, even if you don't need to do so.

14, how to talk about others behind their backs? Don't speak ill of each other at any time, but let each other? Accident? Hear your praise. For example, when talking, do you want to? Just right? Let the other party hear you and control the volume.

15, how to make the other person comfortable when communicating? Make sure the other person is comfortable, and give full consideration to the other person's age/ability/status and gender. If you must let the man's seat face the door, because the man will go crazy with his back to the door, but the woman will not.

16, how to attract everyone's attention?

(1) To attend meetings, dinners and other occasions, choose? Boss? Sit on the right seat

(2) Sit in the highest chair. The higher you do, the more people will respect you subconsciously.

17. How to make the signature more attractive? A study in the Journal of Social Psychology shows that the effectiveness of handwritten signature with blue ink pen is 2 1% higher than that with black ink pen.

18, understand each other's thoughts when communicating? Researchers have found that there is a close relationship between facial expressions and brain activity. As long as you pay attention to the habits of other people's facial expressions, especially the corners of the mouth, your ability to predict emotions will be greatly enhanced.

19, how to express it to show that your life is more positive? Be careful not to classify yourself as a vulnerable group. You can subtly imply that you are not controlled by anyone. Don't use the first sentence? They? . For example, they forbid us to surf the internet during lunch break, which sounds like a vulnerable group. It would be much better if the management department banned employees from surfing the internet during lunch break.

20. Many professionals will use the automatic reply function in the mailbox. You can modify the reply language to make your email reply more humane, concise and relaxed.

2 1. When writing email titles, it will make people happy to write more happy titles, but write them according to the actual situation. If the title has been determined, you can put parentheses after the title and write some enlightening comments in it. Well done, guys.

22. Be confident in your email. Never use the past tense, it will show uncertainty. When/maybe/if/maybe/maybe. Change it to certainty: words like want and affirmation.

23. when writing an email, try to put? Me? Change to? What about you? . It is said that the frequency of mental patients using I is 12 times that of ordinary people. Once I am replaced by you in the mail, people will feel very comfortable and friendly.

24. Write the conclusion of the email: it can be signed by the other party. For example:

I really appreciate your help. XXX looks forward to communicating with you. Nicholas Lauren, it was great to have dinner with you that day.

25. Improve your relationship with your lover. Be sure to learn to praise your partner publicly, such as the next time you chat with others. Usually, when communicating with each other, we should mention the advantages that the other side is proud of and understand each other's interests.

This book shares 96 communication skills. Because of the relationship between the country and the environment, I only compiled some suggestions that suit me. Which of these suggestions do you think are also useful to you? Try to write them down separately and leave yourself a period of time, for example, if you use this skill more than 10 times a week or a month, you will know whether this skill is suitable for you. The more times you use it, the better the effect.