Old Lin once had a friend who was one or two years older than him. He got married and had children. He bought two apartments. There is definitely pressure, but Lao Lin suddenly discovered that it seems that different time periods need a center, a goal that pulls your heart to work hard to achieve it. High school entrance examination, employment after graduation, and even bigger is marriage and family. It allows people to focus more quickly and strive to accumulate towards their goals. Without this center, people seem to live a somewhat vague and wasted life, and their efficiency will be lower.

Lao Lin seemed to have some insights, but he was not so firm in his heart, and over time he stopped thinking about it.

When Lao Lin returned home for the Chinese New Year, she was faced with her mother’s urging to get married. No matter what her mother said or gave examples to make sense, Lao Lin would always refute. In her heart, Lao Lin even wondered if her mother was too selfish. I want to have a grandson to put my energy on, or to tie up Lao Lin. Later, Lao Lin's mother also proposed to buy a house in her hometown. This deepened Lao Lin's feeling that everyone is actually selfish. But thinking about it on the other hand, Lao Lin seems to be very selfish.

In the evening, Lao Lin watched this week's Guoping's "Settle Your Heart", which started with the words: Generations change and life reproduces; he said that only when he has been a parent and tasted the joy of family life in raising a school life, can he know not to be a parent. What a loss it is to return to my parents.

But Lao Lin still seemed to be confused. He tried to imagine getting married and having children, but he didn't seem to have an answer. It seems that the deepest reason for the unmarried DINK's determination in her heart has not been found. Is it fear of responsibility or unwillingness to accept reality? He seemed to be blocked, and he didn't know whether he was trying to find excuses for his original point of view or whether he was really an unmarried DINK in his heart.

He tried to talk to himself, trying to let himself imagine different scenes. Do you want to make a comparison between those who are married and have children and those who are not married before making a choice? Or dig deep into your inner voice? Is it timidity or inferiority complex? Do you not have the courage to change and achieve your ideals? It seems unknown.