Text/Qingshi Liu Quan accompanied her sister Shi Fen to the maternity hospital for surgery a few days ago, and she felt a lot during the whole journey. Although it has been many years since I gave birth, I still feel weak when I see those knives and scissors in the operating room. No married woman can escape the disaster of obstetric surgery. At least she will come to the hospital when she gives birth, and more than 95% will have a "lateral incision" or a "caesarean section". Secondly, almost all women have to experience three or five abortions, leaving some sequelae (such as inflammation, polyps, uterine fibroids, etc. ) to stop worrying about the pain of childbirth-enter menopause. But menopausal women are labeled as "old yellow", and men's love is as dry as a squeezed lemon. This is a reality that women have to face all their lives. She is a radiant beauty in Chongqing, but no matter how beautiful, women suffer as much. After giving birth to a child, I had two consecutive miscarriages and had to be uneasy. Since then, I have often felt unwell. When I saw her recently, her face was horribly pale and there was no trace of blood. I didn't know I had been dripping ideas for twenty days until I asked. She looked haggard, picked up the child, was busy with housework, rushed to work, and tossed and turned at night. Where's the husband? I don't care, I eat and drink as usual, and nothing happens. My wife is pale and blue, and people who eat and live with her can't see it? Friends care about asking questions. She went to the hospital once, and the doctor was very busy. It took two or three minutes to make a list, and she didn't ask why. I took medicine for a week and didn't get well before calling me. I accompanied her to another maternity hospital. I know the director of the hospital very well. She is an expert in obstetrics and gynecology and has rich experience. It's good to have a doctor friend. She asked in detail for 20 minutes and looked at the blood and B-ultrasound sheets of other hospitals (she was not asked to check again). I think it's caused by the intrauterine device. Let her have curettage. I quickly asked Shifen's husband's phone number to let him know about it and get ready. After the phone call, the man said lazily and impatiently that something would happen soon. What kind of attitude is this? Under the gaze of ShiFen wry smile. I haven't called him yet. My original intention is to send her home and have someone at home to prepare something to eat and drink for the patient. The same trauma as abortion requires a few days' rest. Besides, Shifen dragged on for a long time and was very weak. I chose "painless" very much. When she signed the anesthesia list, I saw the word "relative" in the next column and sighed secretly. It was 40 degrees outside, so I drank a bottle of iced juice and waited outside for Shifen to come out. I just looked at the operating room, operating table and equipment. . . I feel inexplicable panic in my heart, my back is cold, and my heart says that women are in pain. Gynecological surgery is no joke. You have to experience the enlargement of the uterus. You are so tired that you have to take a sample, put a ring on it, have an abortion and put a knife in it. . . There's a crunch. . . It was all bloody scenes. That smell, I tremble with fear when I think of it, and I will never forget it! A man once saw a woman give birth to a baby, collapsed on the spot and fell to the ground with a crash. Fortunately, she is from the A Qing court, and the process is much shorter. After a while, it was called "the family came in". I hurried in, and Shifen lay flat on the operating table with a bucket dripping with blood. The doctor untied her arm and asked me to help her put on her pants. I managed to get her leg off the shelf. Coma is too heavy. The doctor showed me the clear flesh and blood spread out on my hand, all pieces of pink meat residue. Afraid! Poor Shifen is still awake and motionless. Paler, eyes half open, eyes fixed, empty, like a dead man, quite scary. I kept calling her name, and the doctor slapped her in the face and called "wake up" several times. After a few seconds, her eyes had a little light. After another two seconds, the light increased and gathered into a beam. With her eyes, her eyes blinked, her body began to move, and she finally woke up. At that moment, I had a feeling of breaking through the gate of hell. A woman finally survived! Help Shifen to lie down and rest in the outer hospital bed. She kept moaning, complaining about pain and stomachache. Doctors are used to it and say it's normal pain. Just after anesthesia, the uterus is contracting and will continue to bleed. Shifen's tears kept flowing downwards, and I kept changing wet tissues for her. I saw a scene a few years ago: a young woman was lying in the lounge moaning after an abortion operation. Her husband said disapprovingly: There is nothing wrong with anesthetic and abortion! The female doctor immediately scolded with a black face: nonsense! What kind of abortion is nothing? Painless abortion without trauma? You think it's bark? Why not try shaving next? The man's face turned red and white, and the women stared at him for a while. When I helped Shifen out of the taxi, it was getting late. Shifen insisted on walking into the community gate. Find a stool for her to sit on and I'll call her husband. Fortunately, he came, so I'm relieved. As soon as the man arrived, he really complained: I told you not to wear a ring, but you must. Are you relieved now? I was startled. He tried to recite two steps or put down the stone powder and dragged him upstairs, chattering all the way without any gentle tone. I watched their backs disappear, held my breath for a long time and spit them out. I scolded 1: Shit! Shifen once expressed her husband's words that made her sad. I have always advised her to cherish her family and say something like "the seven-year itch". I figured it out today. Why did Shi fen go to the ring? Because my husband is determined not to use condoms for contraception. Results Individual differences lead to various physical diseases. This kind of bullying in private space is actually common, because women can't say it, and men do whatever they want. I don't know how many men forced their demands during their wives' illness and surgery breaks, but women didn't get the rest they deserved, which buried the root of the disease. If men don't cooperate, women's gynecological diseases can't be cured easily. This is a major reason why many girls have frequent gynecological diseases. Can only explain: men are selfish! Abortion surgery is very harmful to women's health, which is easy to cause accidents and difficult to make up. If a person is heartless, he will still hurt his own heart. It is often heard that the young mistress was abandoned by her lover after many miscarriages. Some girls lost their fertility because of abortion, which ruined their life's happiness. The wife has not been taken care of by her husband for a long time and has become a dissatisfied wife. There is a dark ant nest in the castle of love. Who can guarantee that the dam will not break? Who is to blame? Marriage needs to be maintained, and the husband's indifference when his wife is ill may be the last straw to crush marriage. Women after abortion are the most vulnerable. I hope my husband will accompany her and take care of her. Are women demanding? No, she just wants someone to share joys and sorrows with her. Taking care of the sick and wounded, this is a good person. Husband is a lover and should be a good person. Is there any reason not to be nice to her? Men always sigh that there are fewer women nowadays, but men ask themselves: you enjoy the care of women every day. How many people really feel sorry for their women? Did you take good care of her when she was sick from the operation? Have you ever done anything considerate? A day, a year, or a lifetime? In 1980s, Thaung Myint, a female writer, wrote a famous reportage, Induced Abortion. The physical and mental suffering of women caused widespread discussion among women. Today, with the progress of the times, induced abortion has introduced "painless", but the things that men hurt women's body and mind are endless. Women, like flowers, are beautiful and fragile and need sunshine and rain. Anesthesia only hurts for a while, but my husband's concern is to nourish his life!