? Two days ago, I taught my son hard that "humility makes people progress, and pride makes people fall behind." Because he proudly raised his tail in the math unit test, he got the lowest score of 87 in math this semester. Sir Wan's article completely reverses the cause and effect of this well-known truth.
In this article, he introduced the Dunning-Kruger effect discovered by two American psychologists in 1996. This effect illustrates a social phenomenon. The more ignorant a person is, the more confident he is. Their research found that the degree of bias in self-assessment is closely related to ability: the less capable a person is, the more he overestimates his ability. And those who are really high-level people underestimate their abilities.
? I think I used to be such a "mysteriously confident" person. I used to be like many people I meet now. The less I knew, the less I knew I didn’t know. Let me talk about myself first. I used to be very confident in the food I cooked. My husband could not say that the food I cooked was not delicious. If he said that at the dinner table, I would immediately fall out and the meal would inevitably end on bad terms. Later, I ate in more restaurants and ate more delicacies from various places when traveling. Thanks to the food video tutorials from major media, I discovered that my cooking skills were very low. Two days ago, my colleague and I prepared a winter solstice celebration dinner at a foreign teacher's home. She kept praising me for being a good cook and the dishes would be delicious. I told her that I was a POOR COOKER. First, I didn't cook. I have a talent for cooking, and I don’t usually practice cooking, so how can I say that I cook delicious food? It's just generally edible. ''After I recognized this fact, I felt a lot happier about cooking. I no longer took it seriously at the dinner table, and I also paid attention to delicious and simple recipes and followed them.
? In fact, the worst result of the mismatch between cooking confidence and ability is that your family will not be happy. But when it comes to educating children, if you still have "enigmatic self-confidence", you will mislead your children. Last winter, I met a mother who took care of her baby full-time because of the development market. When I first met her, I felt that this mother was well-spoken and knowledgeable, and she was willing to listen and learn. But the more in-depth the contact became, the more she felt that it was a bit sensational. She became the leader of a community group buying. In order to attract customers, the first sentence of her WeChat signature turned out to be, "Parenting expert." She is good at raising children, but she is definitely not an expert. Her two children, a 5-year-old daughter and a 1-year-old son, can be judged on the quality of their education, but the education methods she uses to guide other mothers in group buying groups really show her low-level cognitive side. A mother asked her in her group a question about arranging numbers and calculating sums in first grade. She actually asked this mother to place peanuts for her children. Regarding the learning methods of mathematics, we all know that we need to train children's logical thinking and abstraction. thinking. Of course, for primary school mathematics, it’s okay to lay out peanuts. But what about senior year? Moreover, the reason why mathematics is not good is that the extension of concepts is not grasped every time. Just like the emergence of negative numbers in junior high school, this phenomenon cannot be explained by daily life. Next, the parenting expert continued to guide. She concluded that this method of arranging peanuts to solve math problems can also be used in junior high schools.
To become an expert in common sense, at least you need to accumulate a lot of experience and study a lot of cases. According to her summary, now that our country has allowed the second child, mothers who have raised two children are all "parents" My lord".
? But faced with such a "mysterious self-confidence" person, I chose to remain silent instead of dissing her. Sir Wan's article indeed gives a good way to match your own abilities and confidence, such as building an "anti-library" and writing an "anti-summary". But there is no specific advice given to me. When I meet such an ignorant person, how should I change him? Silence or advice?