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Recently, the variety show "Chinese Restaurant 4" was launched as scheduled, and the manager Huang Xiaoming joined hands with the new financial director Zhao Qiang to return. As soon as the restaurant on the ship opened, Zhao was scolded for hot search. This is a bad start.

In the picture, Huang Xiaoming, Zhao and Sean are having dinner together. But one of Zhao's actions was caught by a nosy person: pulling chopsticks in a bowl. As a result, the overwhelming comments hit Zhao.

Some said, "The chopsticks are stained with saliva ..." Others said, "I just have no quality. I searched for a long time, but I didn't know what I was looking for. I want to smoke this kind of person when I eat. " ……

Really speechless. Everyone eats together, and a normal action of picking vegetables can be scolded, which should not happen. Maybe it's the leftover bottom of the bowl. I just fished it out in order not to waste it. It may also be that the food is too small and needs to be dragged. In short, there is nothing wrong with it.

However, this incident was infinitely magnified by netizens, and the group ridiculed her for being rude, uneducated and from the countryside. This makes Sean, the chef who eats at the same table, very unbearable. Then he made a sound in his own Weibo, which just blocked some people's mouths.

Sean wrote: "These 265,438+0 days are very hard and stressful. We help each other and have fun in hardships. Of course, there is no shortage of delicious food. Some dishes were cut too small by our kitchen, and the slightly larger ingredients were eaten by our grandfather first, and the container was very deep. Plus the food is really delicious, and everyone is not willing to waste it! But our staff dining ladies are really much more elegant than us strong men. "

I didn't want to waste it, so I pulled it. Only the people present know the truth, and with only a few fragments, they simply and rudely jump to conclusions and attack people. In fact, such people are just picky, jealous and happy for a while.

Just like there is a line in the movie "Love for Liberal Arts": "You think criticizing things makes you look cool, but it's not. You're bored."

They don't care what the truth is, so they take it out of context. Perhaps it is because verbal violence is too cost-free, so open your mouth and come. But have you ever thought that your thoughtless and angry words will cause great mental harm to the parties concerned? Whether in real life or in film and television dramas, this phenomenon can be found everywhere.

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In the hit drama "Thirty without Nothing", Zhong, a marketing manager working in a large shopping mall property company, encountered cyber violence.

It turned out that Zhong was doing routine inspection in the shopping mall. At the counter of a shoe store, she saw a female customer yelling at the clerk, pointing to a pair of worn shoes and asking if it was fake. Anger is like a wild animal trying to eat people.

Zhong hurried forward to mediate. I didn't expect the female customer not to buy this set, so she reached out and pushed the salesperson. In the chaos, Zhong pulled a stunt, which happened to be recorded by the onlookers and posted on the Internet, claiming that large shopping malls sold fake goods and attracted people to beat people.

The video of Zhong hitting people went on a hot search like this. Affected by it, not only was the property leader persuaded to go home, but he was also trapped on the bus.

What is even more frightening is that it has risen to intimidation, human flesh collection and mailing dead bird packages. Zhong was anxious all day, and even his parents were implicated, so he had to take refuge in relatives.

Worried about the chaos in the world, they began to denounce it online before the situation was fully understood. Under the banner of speaking for the victims, it seems to be fighting for justice, but in fact it is malicious speculation.

There are also two days ago, at the big party of "Youth Mango Night", Wan Qian was the host and He Jiong, the gold medal host, was on the same stage. For the first time, Wan Qian was a little nervous.

But many good people began to find fault. It is said that Wan Qian not only stuttered, but also "grabbed words" with He Jiong: it was an honor to host the party with Wan Qian. Wan Qian smiled and replied: Yes.

In order to verify the truth, I read it again carefully, but I didn't find Wan Qian stuttering, and I didn't find anything wrong when I answered He Jiong's sentence, which belonged to a natural sequence.

If she insists on saying the wrong thing, Wan Qian is really a little nervous. When she answers the phone, she is a little eager for quick success and instant benefit, and she is mistaken for not being modest. Strictly speaking, it is an over-interpretation of Keyboard Man.

Papi sauce once said in Weibo: "There will always be a group of crazy people picking holes on the Internet and around them. They can find fault with everything others say, and they think there is something wrong with everything others do. I really don't know if there are too many points that can offend them, or if finding fault with others can make them feel superior. "

To put it bluntly, such people are malicious. They never put themselves in others' shoes. How would he feel if the customer was himself? Be born good. Forgiving others is actually letting yourself go.

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Similarly, in Thirty, Kobayashi was reviled by opera fans. Finally, it rose to attack Zhang Yue, the actor who played Lin Youyou, which added infinite distress to her. At one time, Weibo's comments were blocked for seven days, but after seven days, people still "came here to scold".

Although Zhang Yue made the same condemnation of "Lin Youyou" in Weibo, hoping to arouse empathy and make himself less harassed and abused, he still couldn't calm down and completely became the "scapegoat" of his role.

It's not just a matter of getting too involved. As an adult, if you can't tell drama from reality and can't control your emotions, are you really naive or just a picky person?

In the play, Lin You really deserved to be scolded. She destroyed the happy family of Gu Jia and Xu Huanshan, resulting in their divorce, the explosion of fireworks factory, Xu Huanshan's imprisonment and loss of all property. But this is no reason to go to Weibo to scold Zhang Yue.

Good acting skills are not only disrespected, but also insulted by personality. This is the most chilling thing for actors. It is conceivable that who wants to play the villain in the future?

If you can't let it go, you can think about it from another angle: Zhang Yue's acting skills are good, which can give a shock and warning to those girls who want to get the upper position without effort, so that they can stop losses in time. Because mistress has a bad ending, she is either abandoned or her life is in danger.

In fact, "she" is just a design that adjusts the ups and downs of the plot. After all, every drama should use negative or gray characters to set off the growth of positive characters. Otherwise, there will be nothing wonderful in this play.

The design of every negative character is the most important point for the audience to think about. The purpose is to enlighten people: the distorted three views will eat their own fruit sooner or later. This is the real purpose of writers and actors playing negative roles.

It is understandable to scold a few words at the theatre, which is a normal reaction of emotions. But if you scold the actor Weibo, there is something wrong with your personality or psychology.

Many times, this picky "keyboard man" does not understand this truth, but relies on suppressing others to raise himself. In the final analysis, it is to find a sense of accomplishment for inner inferiority.

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Alfred adler, a famous psychologist, believes that many people who love to find fault with others have a deep sense of inferiority, low self-evaluation and cowardice, so they need to find fault with others to gain psychological advantage. Although this kind of self-deception and boasting behavior in language is annoying, it can give them a sense of strength and stability in their hearts to "save" a little self-esteem.

This is undoubtedly "a thousand injuries to the enemy, and a loss of 800." This is a sign of futility.

It is true that the rapid development of the Internet has brought unexpected convenience to people's lives, but it has also given them too much freedom and freedom. Because there is no cost, it is easier to become a window for keyboard man to vent his emotions and show his superiority.

Just like attacking Zhao in Chinese Restaurant, this abnormal psychology will hurt yourself sooner or later.

Of course, there are also many good phenomena happening. For example, not long ago, a bus in Guizhou broke through the railing and fell into the river. Before the official gave the truth, netizens waited rationally and did not make any unfavorable remarks, for fear of causing secondary harm to the parties and their families.

Even if the parties are wrong or guilty, please show mercy and don't attack with vicious language. Everyone has good and evil sides, just like a coin. More tolerance, more warmth, give people who do wrong a chance to get lost.

After 20 years of cyber violence, Lewinsky in the United States came out of the psychological shadow. In her speech, she sincerely advised: "You should sympathize with others, even a little sympathy may save another lost soul."

Yes, only those who have really experienced cyber violence can personally understand that the humiliation suffered in the darkest moment is a kind of inner pain. You really have to be kind.

At present, our life is inseparable from the network, and we must rely on everyone's joint efforts to maintain and purify the network environment. Think about it, we will benefit from it in the end.

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