How should parents of junior high school students tutor their children?

Hello! Are you a parent of a junior high school student? Isn’t it really easy to tutor children in their studies? You can communicate well with your child first, so that he can learn how to relax himself. This will make greater progress. On the contrary, you really need to take some tough measures. How should parents help first grade students with their homework?

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Homework is an important part of learning. It is required by teachers in order to consolidate the knowledge students have learned in school. Homework that students complete after school. For decades, most studies on homework have found that homework outside of the classroom brings numerous benefits to students, whether it’s improved academic performance, increased independence, responsibility, and organization, time management skills, and good study. The development of habits.

However, for first-year students, they often lack the consciousness of learning and have no "sense of responsibility". They do not realize that homework is the student's obligation, are not good at using time to complete homework, and often do things perfunctorily. , this has become a headache for parents: some children are unwilling to do it; some children do it slowly... When this happens, the knowledge the children learned that day cannot be consolidated in time, and the memory may be biased or even completely eliminated. No memory is formed.

If you want your children to learn something, it is essential for them to develop good homework habits. So what can parents do to help their children?

First of all: Create a comfortable environment for children to complete their homework. First, prepare a space for children to complete their homework. These include a well-lit, quiet, noise-free room, a clean and tidy desk, soft and hard chairs or benches of comfortable heights, stationery, reference books, books, etc. needed to complete the homework. On the other hand, when children are completing their homework, parents should talk less, interfere less, and disturb them less. Children's attention is easily affected. If there are extracurricular books or toys on the table that are not related to completing the homework, or even a small mirror, it may cause the child to write for a while and look at it for a while, which not only delays the homework time, but also makes the mind lose concentration, resulting in a low accuracy of the homework. Therefore, the desktop must be clean and tidy. If the desks and chairs are soft, hard, and uncomfortable, it will not only affect the child's physical development over time, but also make the child feel that the time to complete homework is "suffering" time, let alone enjoy the fun of homework. If the stationery, reference books, books, etc. needed to complete the homework are not prepared, the child will look for things while completing the homework. This will not only waste time, but also interrupt the train of thought. If family disputes continue, children will be worried and nervous; turning on the TV, or inviting some friends to the house to drink, chat, play mahjong, etc., will have a very negative impact on the children; some parents Frequently interfere with children when doing homework, such as: "Did you do well in school today? Have you been praised (or criticized) by the teacher?" "Are you hungry? Do you want to eat something?" "How many dishes have you done? How many more are there? "Tao?" makes the child unable to concentrate and his thoughts on the problem are always interrupted. Just imagine, in this kind of family environment, how can children calm down to read and study, how can they improve the speed of homework and ensure the quality of homework? Of course, the children themselves must be well prepared for homework. They cannot play with rubber one moment and want to drink water to relax and so on.

Secondly: Teach children the correct and scientific way to complete their homework. The correct method is a magic weapon to enhance memory and improve efficiency.

1. Complete homework at a fixed time every day.

The teacher will clearly write the day's homework on the blackboard before school every day, and ask them to copy it in a special homework book. Parents will supervise their children to complete their homework according to the homework every day. If they find that If the child does not copy homework records, he must be educated in time. Let children develop the habit of doing homework as soon as they come home. After entering the house after school every day, they will start doing homework after a 10-20 minute break. Parents can help their children arrange the order of completion according to the content of the homework. First-grade homework includes reading and writing. , some children can complete it independently, but for example, dictation and practice reading of texts may require parental guidance, which requires optimized overall arrangements. After a long time, the children will make arrangements by themselves.

2. Review before homework. Teach your children to review the day's homework before doing homework, and memorize the new words and words that are required to be memorized before starting to do homework. As the saying goes, "Whether you sharpen a knife or chop wood," this will prevent children from being unable to continue writing. They will flip through the book and recall what the teacher taught in class. This will definitely waste time and complete the task. The speed of work will naturally slow down.

3. Pay attention to posture when working. Correct pen holding and writing posture are also very important. Some children simply hold pens and write in incorrect postures, which results in unsightly handwriting and slow writing speed. In the long run, this can also cause vision loss. Nowadays, we still focus on calligraphy practice. We are required to draw one stroke at a time and pay attention to the structure of the frame. "Slow work requires careful work." No continuous strokes, scribbling, and incorrect strokes must be corrected. Wrong words must be wiped clean. No errands are allowed. Necessary If so, repeatedly ask the child to rewrite, so that the child understands that he must write carefully, otherwise he will not pass the test.

4. Develop children’s ability to examine questions.

For any assignment, reading the questions carefully and understanding the requirements are the most basic requirements for completing the assignment. Judging from the situation of grading homework, the most serious problem is reading questions. Some children often miss questions or cannot understand questions. The main reason is that children who have just entered school are not particularly literate and lack understanding skills. In response to this problem, parents should consciously cultivate their children's habit and ability of reading questions. For example, before doing the question, you can ask them to read the question and then tell us what the question asks us to do. If something is wrong, the parents will explain and supplement it. Some children only read the questions once and start doing them before they understand the meaning of the questions. As a result, they still fail to get it right despite spending time; some children shout that they cannot do it as soon as they see the questions. In fact, many of the questions are not difficult, but children lack the patience to read the original questions. They often only read them once and feel that they cannot do it and it is difficult. This is a negative psychological suggestion. If adults always accommodate children's negative psychology and immediately tell them what to do, or even list the calculations, it will cause children to develop the bad habit of not wanting to think about problems and relying on others to solve them.

The correct method is: "You are very smart. Mom believes in you. As long as you read the original question a few times, you will do it." When the child does it, the adult should happily praise: " I said you are very smart, as long as you read the questions carefully, you will do it." At this time, the child will definitely be happy. This encouraging method of reading questions can "force" children to take the initiative to learn. For questions that children really cannot solve after thinking about it, adults should not directly tell the solution to the original question. The best way is to compile a similar example question based on the original question, analyze and discuss it with the child, understand the general example question, and then Let the children do the original question. Since they understand the example problem, most children will be able to solve the original problem. If they still cannot solve the original problem, they should return to the discussion and calculation of the example problem. After several back and forths, as long as the parents have patient guidance, the children will definitely be able to do the original question. Although this approach is more troublesome for adults, it can train children's transfer ability. Otherwise, children will always be in a passive mindset of solving problems, and it will be difficult to establish a thinking transfer model for learning.

In addition, we must develop the habit of reading, create more literacy channels, and stimulate children's interest in literacy. The first is to consolidate the words learned in class and review them in time. The second is to encourage extracurricular literacy. You can read it anytime and anywhere.

5. Check after completion. Basically, all homework is arranged in order of easy first and then difficult. Therefore, children can be asked to check one task at a time, and then comprehensively check it again after completing all the questions - this is the method of teaching children to check their own homework. For the dictation assignment, it all comes from the vocabulary list (2). Let the children copy 2-3 times first, and then dictate. Check the mistakes and the characteristics and structure of the glyphs. Practice 5-10 times before dictating. Be sure to practice them all. For reading assignments, if you are required to read them several times, just read them carefully and do not be afraid of trouble. If there is no reading training, the child's oral expression ability will not be trained.

The teacher’s homework has its own training purpose. Nowadays, some parents do not pay attention to oral homework, or only read it once or twice. In this case, where does the child's expressive ability come from? Why are some children so eloquent? It started from reading children's songs and Tang poems, and now reading texts is to cultivate the sense of Chinese language and lay the foundation for future writing. Therefore, we must take it seriously and never think that it is readable or not. When reading, the children are required to stand upright like a host. They should not be erratic or weird in any posture. They should be calm and generous, with a loud voice, clear enunciation, correct and fluent expressions, and full of emotion.

Finally: do a good job in supervision and inspection, and be lenient and strict. When children are doing homework, it is best for parents to accompany them at the beginning, because first-grade students are less literate and cannot understand some of the questions and need help from their parents.

When parents find that their children are distracted or making small movements while doing homework, they should immediately remind and stop them. There are three methods available at this point.

1. Use the "limited time encouragement method" to correct it. This method is illustrated by giving an example. For example, first understand the amount of homework the child has, mentally estimate a completion time, and then ask the child, such as "Can you finish Chinese in 20 minutes? Can you finish math in 10 minutes? If you finish it within the specified time, I will put a sticker on you." Little stars, when you reach 5 little stars, your dad will reward you with something you like or take you to xxx place to play. "Usually, the child will be happy to accept it. If you find that your child is messing around and not concentrating on homework, as long as it is not too much, just let him move. After all, home is a place to rest and has much more freedom than school. If the child is too inattentive and shows procrastination, an adult can remind him by saying, "I've been doing this for 15 minutes, come on! The little star is waiting for you!" At this time, the child may concentrate and continue. Keep doing it. Parents are reminded that this "time-limited encouragement method" is to first correct the child's bad habit of doing homework. If he completes the homework within the specified time, he has achieved his goal and must be praised. As for whether the quality of the homework is satisfactory. , is the latter step.

As long as the child has made a little progress, he should be praised. Don't say: "Although he completed it within the specified time, he didn't write carefully and got a few questions wrong. Go and correct it!" If you deal with the problem in this way, you will never be able to do it. Correct the child's habit of procrastinating when doing homework, and also dampen the child's enthusiasm for learning. If you change the way: "You finished your homework within the stipulated time, that's good. Dad will first put a little star on you and keep working hard. It's just that it doesn't seem to be done right here. Can you go check it yourself?" ? "I think if the child is treated like this, he will be happy to accept it. As parents, you need to be patient. As long as your children make a little progress every day, it is something worthy of happiness and praise. Cultivating children's good study habits should be done step by step and should not be rushed.

2. Use the "midway appeasement method" to correct. This method is explained by giving an example. For example, when you find that your child is procrastinating on homework and you feel that you must stop it, you can go to the child, stroke his head with your hand, and say: "Are you encountering a problem and can't do it anymore? Do you want mom to help you?" "This will first draw the child's attention back to learning. Usually, the child will say that there is no problem and he will do it. At this time, the adult should show a calm expression: "You are very smart and will finish it soon. Mom, wait for you, okay?" This method actually starts with It is to stop the child's procrastination behavior and then make the child understand that the adult is paying attention to him and hopes that he will complete his homework quickly. When dealing with children who procrastinate in homework and like to act wild, you cannot always use blaming, scolding, and complaining words to teach them, such as, "Do it quickly, stop playing." "It takes a long time to do a few questions. It's really useless." "The more you scold and scold a child, the more it will aggravate his bad habits.

3. Use the "direct request method" to correct. If the above two methods don't work, then I think the only way to correct it is with the "direct request method". This method is to understand the amount of homework for the child in advance, and then directly propose the completion time. For example, today's Chinese homework is not too much and can be completed in 20 minutes. Mathematics is a little more and can be completed in 35 minutes. If you fail to complete it within the stipulated time, your father will punish you when the time is up, and the resulting responsibility is entirely yours. Of course, if you think there is not enough time, you can raise it now and we will agree on a completion time. "Then, adults must do what they say. Of course, when enforcing this rule, they must be calm and not angry. Children must understand that adults mean what they say and are not joking. This method is a last resort. For this reason, it is compulsive.

(2) Do a good job of checking. Parents should not just ask "has it been completed" for their children's homework, but should take action to "really do it". "Look". First, look at whether the words are clean or not. This is an obvious manifestation of the seriousness of the child's homework; secondly, look at whether there are any missed questions; and finally, look at whether the answer is correct. For copied homework, parents can ask their children to read it themselves See, not only does it make the children memorize it again, but it also makes it faster to check the homework by themselves. Parents should always look at the homework books that have been corrected by the teacher and ask the children to find another copy of the mistakes in time. List them down (can also be organized into an "error correction book" and help children analyze the causes of errors and save them) and use them as key points for review; give timely praise to children for their homework performance. Be consistent, and you cannot change the order day and night, leaving the child at a loss; nor can you ignore it for three days and two days. A perfunctory attitude is easy for children to learn, and it is likely to cause children to "take advantage of loopholes"

When children develop good homework habits, a virtuous circle of knowledge learning will naturally form, and their academic performance will naturally be very good. Parents are their children’s mirrors, and words are better than words. Parents hope that their children will develop a serious, attentive, and active attitude. If parents are perfunctory, indifferent, and unable to strictly demand their children, then the children's academic performance will be affected. Of course it won't be good. Now in the first grade is a critical period to help children develop habits. Parents must not let go and ignore it. They must monitor and strictly demand their children, even the writing of a certain number or the stroke order of a certain Chinese character. They must supervise and not relax. After the children complete their daily homework on time, the parents must sign. The purpose of signing is to urge the children to complete the homework on time. Some parents are very busy and just sign, but whether the children have completed the homework item by item. , it is not known whether the handwriting of the homework is correct, so it will not play the role of supervision.

First-grade children should be encouraged in time. When tutoring students with homework, every word and deed of their parents will directly affect them. The mentality of students indirectly affects the development of students' thinking, so encouragement is emphasized during the tutoring process. In order to encourage children, a table can be designed that includes "Chinese, mathematics, English, living habits" and other aspects, and rewards will be given for good performance in these areas. One star. Count once a week and reward for progress, in the form of: verbal praise, buying books, taking him out to play, cooking delicious food for him, etc.

Of course, children’s habits do not happen overnight. To be able to develop it, parents need to have enough patience and proceed step by step, just like teaching a child to learn to walk, first "support" and then "let go".

At the beginning, you should accompany him all the way to the end. Gradually, you let him go and let him complete it independently. However, he must also read each question carefully. If he knows how to do it, he should use a red pen to tick it. When the child sees that it is all red ticks I feel very happy and have a sense of accomplishment. With this kind of timely feedback, children learn faster. If he makes a mistake, don't check it, give him guidance first, then let him correct it, and then give him a similar question to see if he really mastered it. Pay special attention to the questions your child gets wrong, every time.

As we all know, good habits will benefit you throughout your life; bad habits will harm you throughout your life. Children's things are the biggest thing. For the sake of their children's future, no matter how much you pay as a parent, it is worth it. In fact, all those who have made academic achievements at home and abroad in ancient and modern times have good study habits. Even students from the junior class of HKUST who are extremely intelligent emphasized their good study habits when talking about the reasons for their excellent performance. Which parent doesn’t hope that his son will become a dragon and his daughter will become a phoenix? Therefore, all parents and friends must take up the responsibilities of raising and educating parents, cooperate with teachers every day, and carefully educate and manage children. Children must be taught from the first grade to study wholeheartedly when they should study, and play easily when they should play. They have strong learning consciousness and do not need to be reminded by others, let alone forced by others. . How should parents help their children learn Chinese?

Chinese is a language subject. First of all, it cannot be improved overnight. This requires a step-by-step process.

1. Chinese language starts with Pinyin, which is the most basic thing, and then the words and sentences,

2. Develop a good habit of looking up the dictionary. If you don’t understand, look it up in the dictionary. , you will know after checking it a few times,

3. Pay attention to accumulation. You need to accumulate new words, beautiful sentences, idioms, etc. you encounter, as well as words that are easy to make mistakes, etc., and review them when you have nothing to do. ,

4. Read more to develop reading, comprehension and writing skills.

5. Finally, practice more and you will slowly make progress. What should parents of primary school students do

Should we encourage our children who are junior high school students more, and how should we parents provide guidance?

Parents must not be impatient if their children’s academic performance changes after entering junior high school. This is a normal phenomenon. Parents should discover the problem in time and then remedy it in a targeted manner. If your child is already among the best in primary school, don't put too much emphasis on his grades at this time. You only need to teach him good learning methods; if your child's grades are at a middle or lower level, you should actively encourage him to improve his performance in the new school. At this stage, as long as you are willing to work hard, learn with scientific methods, and achieve quiet knowledge in the learning process, you can go further. It is not difficult to become a top student.

After children enter adolescence, physiological changes, coupled with the strong temptation of society, the Internet, TV, newspapers, etc., make it difficult for many children to learn quietly and independently. With the accelerated growth of adolescence, Many children have strong rebelliousness and independence. Parents should stop doing everything. They should train their children's ability to explore independently, face difficulties bravely, and tell their children to face them when they encounter difficulties in learning. It is shameful to avoid them. Behavior, while guiding the outlook on life and personality, so that children can develop a love for life, life, and society, tell children the meaning of life, and then develop scientific learning methods and learning plans for children in various subjects. Give children a democratic and relaxed environment in family education and life. Do not ask children to do various things in a commanding tone. Allow children to do as they wish on issues that are not very principled, such as dressing and eating. You can observe the child's behavior in secret. If there are any bad signs, provide guidance and solve the problem from the side. Try not to have a direct conflict and respect the child's privacy and dignity.

Children may lose confidence because of unsatisfactory test scores. Parents should encourage and communicate with their children in a timely manner. When communicating with their children, parents should have a gentle and sincere attitude. Never be condescending, speak to their children in a tone of blame or questioning, let alone use rough methods of beating and scolding. This will only intensify the conflict, which will not solve the problem but will also deepen it. each other's estrangement.

Parents of third grade junior high school students should work with their children to formulate learning goals and plans. They must have both an overall plan and small plans for each stage. The plan should be in line with the actual situation of the child, not too high or too low, and should be adjusted in a timely manner according to the specific situation. Parents also need to spend a certain amount of time communicating with their children to help them identify weak subjects. For these weak subjects, parents should communicate with teachers and candidates in a timely manner to come up with practical ways to make up for it. Children are nervous about studying and do not have much time to read extracurricular readings. Parents usually read books and watch the time, but they must also consciously help their children collect composition materials.

After all, children are the main subjects of learning. Parents must position themselves correctly and do a good job of assisting them. However, they must not overstep their authority and let their children learn this or that. They follow the trend and blindly make up lessons. Do you not know that making up lessons is just a way for teachers to defraud parents of their money? It is just a means. From a knowledge point of view, it is impossible to help children's grades. Teachers know this very well. If a child listens to parents' suggestions and takes extra classes, his grades still do not improve, or even drop, and he loses a sense of accomplishment. It is easy. It causes children to have a rebellious mentality and become tired of learning. Some parents like to buy a large number of tutoring books and exercise books for their children without authorization. However, there are many versions of tutoring books on the market, and they are a mixed bag, which is not very helpful for learning.

The third year of junior high school is the general review stage. The teacher will take the candidates to sort out the knowledge points in school and assign corresponding exercises. The focus is to return to the textbooks and basics. As long as children can keep up with the teacher's review rhythm and use scientific learning methods and study plans, they will definitely get the ideal results and be admitted to the ideal key high school.

How should parents of junior high school students provide psychological counseling for their children?

The third year of junior high school is a very important stage for children. Indirectness is the crossroads in life. If you choose the wrong one, you will not regret it. There is a chance, but the third grade of junior high school is exactly the period when children feel indifferent and most rebellious. Parents should be good mentors for their children in life so that they will not take detours and move towards the bright future. This tutorial on how to be a child's teacher has made many people change their attitude towards their children. , correct your child's attitude. If you are still worried that your child plays games every day, does not go to class, does not do homework, is disobedient, and sings the opposite, you can consult us and let you spend very little money so that your child can earn more in the future. Qian: I am the parent of a third-year junior high school student. My academic qualifications are not high, but my child needs tutoring in her studies. What should I do to help her?

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Are you talking about studying at ordinary times? Or final review?

Generally speaking, first-grade students are at about the same level. Parents should pay attention when tutoring and put more effort into developing their habits. If they develop good habits, they will get twice the result with half the effort. In addition, in terms of learning, pay attention to coaching them in reading the topics. Psychological counseling for junior high school students.

Four mentalities to avoid

1. Blind test-taking mentality. The thinking state of this type of students is still relatively naive and they cannot enter the learning state quickly. The excitement brought to them by the new campus, new teachers, and new classmates has not subsided. They are not too concerned about their own studies. They think it is still early and a test cannot explain the big problems, and they show a relaxed attitude toward the test.

2. Defend the dignity mentality. Such students are usually top academic performers and perform well in entrance exams. They have always regarded themselves as the best in their previous learning experiences, and hope to show their extraordinary strength through examinations and strengthen their status in the new class.

Three. Inferior self-esteem and timid mentality. This type of students had unsatisfactory academic performance or had great difficulties in a certain subject. They want to change their learning situation, but they obviously feel that there is still a gap between them and other students. So I was very anxious about the midterm exam, fearing that unsatisfactory test scores would affect my image in the new group.

Four. A winning mentality. Most of these students have average grades, but they have great potential in learning. They usually have a wide range of interests and have a strong desire to express themselves. They are eager to establish a new image of themselves through the first exam after admission, break through the previous level, and lay a good foundation for future development.

So, as a parent, how should we guide our children into the correct preparation state? Here are three tips for everyone:

First, lower your expectations. Facing exams with a rational attitude, having the desire to perform, and hoping to quickly change your personal image marks that students are beginning to mature and start to seriously think about their own development issues. This is a psychological state worthy of encouragement. If your child has strong expectations for the exam, you should encourage him in time. However, parents should pay attention to guiding their children to realize that any success requires hard work and perseverance. Regardless of the midterm exam results, it does not represent a consistent development trend in the future.

This can help children treat exams more rationally and avoid being too hard hit or relaxing their efforts because of one success.

Second, let go of your ideological baggage. Face the exam with a stable attitude. For students with excellent grades, the first exam will cause greater psychological pressure. They often worry that failing in the exam will leave a bad impression on their teachers and classmates. They may even worry that their grades will have a negative impact on many things, such as running for class committee and being selected as a "three good students". In fact, this kind of worry is often unnecessary. Parents should remind their children that test scores are only a part of personal ability and are not a sign of comprehensive ability. This can help children put down unnecessary psychological baggage, face the exam with a stable attitude, and concentrate more on review.

Third, develop self-confidence. Looking at exams from a new perspective, parents can appropriately encourage students who have difficulties in learning to make breakthroughs in the first exam. However, it is best to develop practical and feasible standards that are consistent with the child's actual situation. As long as there is improvement compared with the past, there is no need to force it. Parents' attention can remind children to treat exams more rigorously, and the setting of reasonable goals can give children a clear goal to strive for. At the same time, parents should also guide their children to examine the meaning of exams from a new perspective and understand that exams are a test of their own learning. Only by identifying weaknesses can they improve in a targeted manner. Do not be afraid of exams. As long as you can defeat yourself, you will win. . How do parents provide psychological counseling to junior high school students?

As a student, I think parents should not be too particular before the high school entrance exam, just let him feel that you are silently supporting him! In fact, what you say "don't be nervous" is of no use at all and will only make the child feel annoyed. Just be normal and do the same as usual...just let nature take its course.

Thank you~