Many people have the habit of changing their personal signatures frequently. Why do you want to change your signature here? I arranged it carefully for you. Welcome to browse.

Flirting between men and women is often a dialogue:

"Oh, why do you always stare at me? 」

"If you don't look at me, how do you know I'm looking at you? 」

The two men smiled at each other.

This game represents a subtle interactive program. If "looking at you" means paying attention to and liking you, then a major prerequisite for this kind of affection to be accepted by you is that you should "look at me" first.

In other words, you have to admit that you expressed the same affection to me with symmetrical behavior, otherwise you can only ignore it. Ignoring won't cause any embarrassment. The really embarrassing situation is that you and I both know that you received my kindness, but you ignored it. ? This interaction fundamentally avoids this.

If there is a third party present, the ambiguous feeling will be completely gone: "Hey, why are you always staring at her?" 」

Think about it again, when only two people participate, this kind of communication initiated by eyes is actually expressing: I am paying attention to you? But you have to admit that you're watching me, too.

Information transmission is conditional. You accept my kindness on the premise that you are releasing the same kindness.

Ordinary communication methods, without this setting, only take the initiative to speak and be beautiful. I shouted at a person and he heard me, but he could ignore me. This means that he can hurt me in this communication.

He can leave me at any time if he wants. This result will embarrass me. The interaction it represents is: I pay attention to him unilaterally and he doesn't respond. ? He ignored me to my face.

Ignoring is not the worst thing. We can pretend that nothing happened. To make matters worse, a man ignored me openly. This is a complete rejection for me, and both he and I know it.

But this is something that can't be helped. Initiate communication with a person, and there is always a probability of rejection. In a relationship, the one who takes the initiative to speak often bears the risk of being rejected.

Of course, most of the time, this risk can be ignored. I took the initiative with my friends. As long as they can hear me, I don't have to worry about them hanging me out, because our status is equal. If they play dumb, there must be another reason. So it doesn't make much difference for me to say it first and then say it.

But with the internet.

The internet has expanded everyone's circle several times. If you associate with people you don't know online, you have a great chance of being rejected. Have you tried chatting with the goddess on QQ?

At this time, personalized signature has become a communication tool.

It functions like a private plot. Put a sentence or two on it to represent your temporary mood. I didn't tell anyone on purpose, and no one will receive the news directly. Functionally, there is no original intention of interaction.

After most people set it, it will remain unchanged for ten thousand years. However, some people will be willing to change it. This action is actually outputting information and it is conditional information.

What's special is that this information is written for people with a heart.

Because it is written after the personal name, the premise for others to see it is to pay special attention to the personal information of the publisher. If the replacement is frequent, it needs to be refreshed several times a day to master its changing process.

Therefore, assuming that a person can receive my signature message, it shows that he attaches great importance to me. This method will naturally filter out people who approach me actively.

If no one sees it, I'd rather play alone.

Anyway, there is nothing shameful about playing alone.

This logic, just like the game "Look at me first, you will know that I am looking at you", presupposes the process of sending and receiving information.

To put it more abstractly, this person collects a pre-authorization from the receiver while sending the message: "Only those who care about me can see it. 」

Look, how lonely this man is.

For example, when this person is sad, he quietly updates a personalized signature: "There is no love in life". He wants to talk to someone. Why choose this roundabout way instead of being straightforward?

Maybe he doesn't know who to send this message to. Friends have their own things. Who wants to talk to him about this when things are busy? Perhaps, after sending the message, he was worried that he would not receive a response. That's even worse, which means: "I thought you were a person who would like to chat with me, but it seems that this is just my wishful thinking." 」

If you sign with your personality, you won't have these problems.

Ideally, within a few hours, a friend sent a message: "What was your signature just now? Do you want me to talk to you? " That would be great. This is not just an expression, friends are willing to chat with me; At the same time, it is also an expression that my friend just refreshed my personal information voluntarily.

The former is the expression of language; The latter is the performance of action.

Only in this way can the person who initiated the communication be sure that he is worthy of this communication.

Even in intimate relationships, there will be times when this expression is needed. Why has the cold war been difficult for two people to end? Because nobody wants to talk first. Whoever speaks first will give up. But neither of them wants to stand still, and they are both tired.

What shall we do? One person complained about one thing casually on his personality signature, but it was very popular. Another person saw it and immediately asked, "What does this mean?" "Two people a contact, the deadlock was immediately broken, at least from the cold war back to the hot war.

If he does not write on his signature, but sends it directly on WeChat, he may be ignored by the other party, or give a cold answer "Hehe", which makes people want to die.

I'm afraid that the reason why the two sides of the Cold War are at loggerheads on their own initiative is because no one can stand such humiliation. Of course, the other party is not necessarily so rude, but why should the power of life and death be given to the other party?

The advantage of personalized signature is here: "I'm talking to myself, and I don't want you to hear it." You heard me, which means you came up on your own initiative. Only under this constraint can he dare to initiate communication.

What a cunning communication, behind the cunning, and how timid.

I have a visitor who quarreled with his girlfriend and broke up. Describing his emotions, he always said, "I just changed my signature to? I'm a little sad to hear that. The more frequently a person communicates with others in sign language, the more timid he is in one-on-one communication.

In other words, the more he enjoys talking to himself, the more unbearable he is to be neglected.

But in the long run, loneliness may get deeper and deeper.

He wanted others to find him, so he chose to hide himself deeper.

I imagined him talking to his mobile phone all day, full of worries, but no one said, changing his signature. The man he was waiting for never responded.

Maybe I saw it but didn't respond, or maybe I didn't see it at all. Of course, he doesn't have to be embarrassed by being left out. ? Isn't that embarrassing?

Nobody spoke to him, so he had to play alone.

I asked him if he had thought of telling her what he wanted to say in a more direct way. He said he didn't want to. "People will feel uneasy."

I said, it's her business whether she feels bored or not. Do you want to say it's your business?

He shook his head and said, "What's the point? 」

Later, I gradually stopped mentioning my personal signature and my mood got better day by day.

"I figured it out," he said. "Sadness is meaningless. 」

When he said "meaningless", it touched me a little. I think, maybe many people, like him, think their voice is too weak. It doesn't matter, so it's not qualified for people to listen.

Using personalized signature is the smallest cry to the world.

I know this kind of voice is almost inaudible, but what if someone is willing to listen?

I think when a person changes his signature, he looks lonely, maybe he is happy inside. He is making a sound in such a roundabout way. No matter how lonely he is, there is no one to talk to, and there is still a little hope. They may still think that someone will see me in the world.

? Later, he either found someone who was willing to listen to him or didn't want to talk.

In both cases, the personal signature becomes a one-time use for several years. We say that this person is mature, but perhaps, we just put down this hope.

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