Jingran, a friend in WeChat Moments, posted a message in WeChat Moments at midnight yesterday and wrote: People say that the color of a parent’s face is the color of the child’s entire world. The saddest thing is to suddenly discover that when you can't help but show your child a look, the child will try his best to please you and not make you angry because he is obviously wronged. This is very much like my childhood self. The last thing I want to do is live like my parents, and I finally live like them.

The story of Jingran and her child:

Last Friday, when Jingran was picking up her child from school, she noticed that her child was a little unhappy and asked her how she was doing in the kindergarten. how? The child didn't answer, but raised his mouth higher. Mother and daughter were speechless until they got home. After returning home, Jingran began to prepare dinner. The daughter looked at her mother and said nothing, so she said that the children went to the Little Zoo last week and I wanted to go too.

Jingran thought that going there to eat and play would definitely cost a lot of money, so she said to the child: "What's so interesting about small animals? You just want to go when others go there. I'll take you with me when I have time." Go." The child also knew that his mother was perfunctory, so he still wanted to fight for it, Jingran's attitude was clear. Forget it.

On Saturday, the sunshine outside the window shone on the warm home. Jingran suggested taking her children to play with friends in the community for a while. The children went downstairs to play, and the mothers also chatted together. One child said proudly: "My parents took me to the little zoo last week, which was fun. I also fed the monkeys and saw many animals." I also went with another kid, and I even saw a raccoon! When asked about Jingran's children, she lowered her head and said nothing.

After a while, the child ran to Jingran crying and asked his mother to take him there today. All the other friends went, but he did not go. Jingran knelt down and said to the child: "Good boy, be obedient and I won't go. You have to be obedient." The child cried loudly, and other mothers said to take the child there. It would be great to have more contact with small animals in nature. In desperation, Jingran took her child to the small zoo.

Along the way, Jingran was very angry, and her face was extremely ugly. She was angry with her child for being ignorant and willful, and even more angry with herself for not giving her child better conditions. The child was very happy after entering the zoo. She looked at the various animals in front of her with curious eyes, but she always held her mother's hand intentionally or unintentionally and teased her with a smile. As a young child, she knew that it was her desire to play that made her mother unhappy, and she tried her best to please her mother.

Jingran looked at her daughter. On the one hand, she wanted to play, but on the other hand, she cared about her mother's face. This scene made her feel a little dazed. She remembered that when she was a child, she was like her daughter. She longed for a doll, but her mother ruthlessly refused it, which had always been a heartache in her childhood. Jingran suddenly felt that her innocent and lovely daughter now knew how to look at her mother's face, which was the last thing she wanted to see. So, there was the paragraph about the circle of friends.

In fact, every child lives under the mood of his parents. Your unconscious mood is the climate of your child.

When parents look angry and indifferent, the child's world will become freezing.

When parents look irritable and disgusted, the child's world will become lonely and helpless.

When the parents’ faces are cursing and complaining, the child’s world will become depressed and inferior.

When the parents’ faces are warm and gentle, the child’s world will become like a spring breeze.

Being a parent is difficult, and being a child is actually not easy either. No matter what we are encountering in real life, as parents we must adjust ourselves as much as possible. Only when our hearts are quiet can our children's inner world be stable.

The more difficult the days, the calmer the parents’ expressions should be

Real life is often so overwhelming that adults cannot breathe. age. You may be experiencing a bottleneck period in your career, your business has failed, your capital is not working properly, your career is at a loss, and your family is burdened with trivial matters.

In your heart you always want the best for your child, but reality makes you unable to create such conditions for him. Self-blame and guilt keep bothering you. When your child opens his mouth and wants what you want, the emotions that have nowhere to put them make you very tangled.

Parents make the same mistakes as their children, losing patience, getting emotional, or even getting discouraged when things happen. When we vent our bad emotions on young children, it will slowly have adverse effects on the child's body and mind.

Create a warm family atmosphere for children and properly control their bad emotions. Only when children see sunny days on their parents’ faces can children have more light in their hearts.