Summarize a few life experiences.
First, you can actually survive if you don't work hard, sign up for classes, or get involved. Although you can't be rich or expensive, it's not difficult to have a bite of rice and wear a dress.
But will you? Most people don't want to
Everyone wants to live the life they expect. Although they complain that they work too hard and live too tired, they secretly compete with each other, hoping to make their families and themselves better and more comfortable. So, don't look at the loss of young people now. In fact, everyone knows exactly what they want.
Second, many people who try to die are not afraid of death, but are afraid of being as numb as a walking corpse. Compared with the end of life, life without faith and hope is more terrible.
Never aim at "breaking class barriers", which will only aggravate your anxiety and powerlessness.
It's not that you buy a small Mercedes-Benz and add a few awesome WeChat. If it could be broken so easily, there wouldn't be so many social contradictions. It takes time and luck.
It's more worth doing and easier for you to control. This seems trivial, but it helps a lot. For example, compared with yourself a year ago, you read five more books, lost more than ten kilograms of meat, gained six more abdominal muscles and earned tens of thousands more, and accompanied your parents to take them on a trip. These small successes that you ignore are the real source of happiness for most people and the key to keeping you confident.
Third, high emotional intelligence, in fact, does not require high speaking skills. Say more nice words and praise others, and do some warm actions to encourage others, which will show that your emotional intelligence is high, such as you like now.
Four, the important things to say three times:
Never equate acquaintances with friends!
Never equate acquaintances with friends! !
Never equate acquaintances with friends! ! !
When you encounter a problem, the friends who stand on your side are completely different from those who really stand on your side. Silence when you have conflicts with others, and then scold each other's friends afterwards. No need for intimacy; I will apologize for you, but once you are bullied, a friend who stands up for you is the real iron.
Don't always say "I can't" and "wait a minute".
When you receive a big new project, you say to yourself: No, I won't. Give it to other colleagues. When you meet a girl you particularly like, you think: I will confess when I am rich and powerful. You think it's safe and secure, but some things won't change if you don't do it. When "waiting" becomes "missing", you will only regret it for a lifetime.
Sixth, cultivate the "patience" of reading, reading will never make you suffer.
A book won't bring you much change, but after reading ten, twenty and thirty books, you will find that you can crush those peers who don't read much, which will not only make you an active and large-scale person, but also give you an enviable "super determination".