How about being alone? It depends on your heart, words, deeds, and style, the true impression you leave on others, and the true feedback from all parties in society.
I got to know Tu Lei through an emotional program "Love Defense" on Tianjin Satellite TV. I was quickly attracted by his wonderful comments, and naturally fell in love with this program, and even more admired Tu Lei as a person. I must admit that Tu Lei is quite powerful and worthy of the title of emotional mentor. Because he can always accurately identify the problems between each couple and point them out to the point, speaking concisely and never being sloppy. Don’t cater to or deal with anyone. He always does his best to provide satisfactory answers to every couple who comes on the show for help. (Of course the host Zhao Chuan and other guests are also very good)
In fact, many of Tu Lei’s statements are reasonable, and his thinking is relatively mature and realistic, without too many fantasies and big principles. Therefore, it may be difficult for ordinary young people to accept it. Young people still have some unrealistic dreams. Tu Lei's down-to-earth statement is difficult to accept, but a lot of middle-aged women who have come here admire him. The program may be a requirement of the production team, or it may be a drill arrangement in advance. Most of the time, Tu Lei uses strong language and severely criticizes one or both parties. This is also a large part of what attracts attention. Personally I feel that although this method can attract the attention of a certain audience at the beginning, in the long run, it will give people a sense of interpretation and always be so condescending, which will turn people off. After all, not everyone can understand life.
Compared to this kind of emotional mentor, Tu Lei’s approach is even more ruthless than Le Jia’s. Le Jia sometimes speaks in a harsh tone, but he still respects the other person. In fact, Huang Lei and Meng Fei This approach is easy for people to accept and is more peaceful and wise. Tu Lei's method doesn't vary from person to person. It's basically a routine. He hits someone in the face first, finds a weak point and starts attacking. After the opponent is defeated, he starts to use chicken soup. So again, it is easy to attract attention at first, but later you will find that it has no real meaning.
Let’s talk about pros and cons! There are both good and bad aspects!
Tu Lei’s vision is indeed sharp and his views are sharp, but there are so many comprehensive factors in love life. He observed that the guests’ words revealed but hidden some thoughts that they knew or did not know but could not say, and classified the secondary special ones. It is the dark side that is deliberately exaggerated and magnified to the main factor. No one is perfect, and everyone’s thoughts have pros and cons. For example, if you see a beautiful girl and admire her, but don’t you have the idea of ??lifting up your skirt to take a look? A rational person will suppress his evil thoughts and promote good intentions. Tu Lei keenly captured this point. Guests often felt that what he said was an idea that they had considered and it was difficult to argue with them, but they also felt that it was inappropriate because in reality, people would not say these words to people close to them because they would hurt others. , Tu Lei said it, because he is an outsider, a commentator, and his sharp opinions are satisfying, and the audience is also happy, but after you are happy and no longer responsible, can those couples still be together? Tu Lei always talks about breaking up or getting divorced, as if it is up to the guest couples to make their own choices, but in fact he is covering up the negative consequences of his extreme words.
There are some words in love that cannot be stated openly. There is no room or possibility to say it. It is possible that they are still together, but it is no longer possible for him to say it in the spring and autumn style. Look at it. "Golden Mediator", if you look at Tu Lei's words in the show, you will know that his words are full of malice. Can he not talk about solving problems? For a love show that is based on solving problems and trying to make peace. , he is acting against good will. This is the opposite!
Let’s talk about the positive side! There are a lot of controversies about him, so I only want to talk about the pros and cons! When we want to evaluate a person, we must first understand the person. To criticize and accuse others of a certain aspect of their quality, first of all, you must be no worse than the person you want to criticize in this aspect. Don’t say, “Do you need to know how to refrigeration to evaluate a refrigerator?” Even if you don’t know refrigeration, you must understand refrigeration. principle. Tu Lei himself said that he is a very serious person about everything, even harsh, and he has a serious mysophobia.
From this point of view, it is not surprising that he is picky about almost all the good or not good contestants on the show.
As an "interviewer" on a job search program, it is understandable that he would comment on the performance of most contestants in addition to their professional qualities. His comments made the bosses evaluate the contestants' performance in addition to their professional qualities. To understand their qualities and then screen them, he fulfilled his duties as host and interviewer. When you want to troll someone, you have already become a troll. At this time, of course you are qualified to troll!
Tu Lei’s Quotes As a man, protecting his woman is his lifelong responsibility. . Yes, in my personal eyes, Tu Lei is a charming man with responsibility, content and talent. Tu Lei has a poisonous tongue and his skill is evident. He has also amazed countless people and won the heartfelt support of too many viewers. First of all, I want to say that Tu Lei's three views are positive energy. No matter when or what happened, as soon as he opened his mouth, he would hit the nail on the head and hit the nail on the head. Straight to the point, straight to the heart. He is like Lu Xun's sword and pen, which can cut away all hypocrisy in people. He is like Duan Yu's six-meridian sword, erratic, but always able to poke at the most painful point of your humanity. These profound and intelligent analyzes put other guests on the same show to shame. Existence is truth, welcome is character. Since Teacher Tu Lei has been widely praised and supported by so many audiences, in this era where entertainment and falsehood are paramount, it can only mean one thing: Tu Lei is sober enough. He also has a clear and pure heart. Dare to speak, dare to be violent, dare to be angry, dare to curse. He used his character and knowledge to bravely fight against many ugly phenomena in society. It can be said that Tu Lei is the only true hero in the show - Don Quixote. He is not fighting alone, but he is fighting alone.
Actually, Tu Lei’s character can easily offend people because he is too direct. He will immediately snap out at something he doesn’t like and will not let others down. He will not consider other people’s status, but I appreciate him. A person with this kind of personality wouldn't be where he is today if he was too smooth. To criticize current ills, you must first be able to give a convincing reason. Tu Lei's language organization skills are top-notch. He has the ability to criticize. Most of the people he scolded have chosen to accept it calmly. It can be seen that It's not his fault, it's the people themselves who have the problem. I have watched several episodes of Love Defense, and Tu Lei is always the last one to comment. Compared with the previous guests, it seems that he can see through the key points of the emotional problems of couples on the verge of breaking up at a glance, and then use ruthless words to comment on them. The method points out the solution to the problem, and the level is impressive.
Although on the show, Tu Lei almost always wears a black face, but in life, he is a gentle and good man who loves his wife and children. To describe it in one sentence, he is "serious on stage." , gentle in the audience.” Teacher Tu Lei once posted this on Weibo when his wife was pregnant: "A woman who leaves a man when he is at his lowest point is the most heartless, and a man who cheats on a woman when she is pregnant is the most shameless! A woman's pregnancy is a test period for a man, which tests whether a man is truly real. Love my wife! The swollen and deformed feet, the burden of childbirth, the heartbreaking pain during childbirth, the love that turns blood into milk during breastfeeding, all women bear alone. She may not be sexy at this time, but she is full of maternal glory. , the only thing a man can do is to make her happy and happy."
It can be seen from this that Teacher Tu treats his wife with love and gratitude. Moreover, he is serious and will show off funny pictures with his daughter on Weibo from time to time. No one would have expected to see this Teacher Tu, who looks sharp and scary, will also show such a soft side. Maybe this is love. This is what a real man is like. Outside he is wise, strong, and able to brave the wind and waves. But when he comes home, he is just an ordinary little man. He longs for family, longs for warmth, and pulls out the thorns all over his body to be gentle. Embracing the person he loves most, at this time, he is no longer the teacher Tu who criticizes the rights and wrongs of others, but is just a father of a child who has returned home.