Disqualification on Earth, also known as Disqualification as a Man, is a novella written by the famous Japanese novelist Osamu Dazai after World War II. The book consists of preface, three notes by Ye Zang and postscript. This novel is a book of soul confessions and a semi-autobiographical novel. Combining Osamu Dazai's life experience of double suicide, self-mutilation, prostitution and suicide, and the topic of "disqualification", we can easily feel the melancholy style and tone of the novel, and also begin to wonder how the protagonist Ye Zang spent his humiliating life and how he stepped into the road of "disqualification".
World: Camouflage is the protective color of people.
In this world, everyone is a pretender. The difference between people lies in the degree of camouflage.
Because of the unpredictability of the future, people basically don't want to completely expose themselves to everyone, but coat themselves with a protective layer. As we all know, the best things in the world are true, sincere and sincere, and camouflage will make people feel hypocritical and tired. The first large-scale divorce variety show "Goodbye Lovers" in China has an impressive male guest. Wang Qiuyu is an excellent screenwriter. He has been educated by a genius since childhood, and his personality is rigid, so it is difficult for people to see his joys and sorrows. He always smiles in front of everyone, when he is happy, and when he is unhappy. After nearly fifty years of life, he learned to hide himself and disguise himself with laughter. But people who get along with him will feel very tired because people don't know what he is thinking. Such people will suppress themselves and others. And everyone pretends for a reason.
Ye Zang's father's speech was boring, and everyone praised him for his identity. Ye Zang pretends to like lions in order to win his father's attention and praise. Ye Zang's teacher likes his humorous composition and always picks it out as soon as he comes out of the classroom, but the teacher has warned Ye Zang that his composition should not be too funny. From the bottom of my heart, Ye Zang thinks that a student who is close to him is ugly and annoying, but he buys things to please her because he is worried that he can't bear the consequences of her anger ... This kind of disguise is everywhere in the disqualification on the earth.
We will find that in life, everyone is a pretender, and everything is inseparable from camouflage. Camouflage has various reasons, in short, it is to live safely and happily in the world. Because people are multifaceted, people are always willing to present the best side to the public and hide the bad side. Otherwise, the bad side will damage your image and plunge yourself into the abyss. Therefore, you can't believe everything in your circle of friends. Most people always share their achievements and happiness, but hardly let others know their bitterness and helplessness. I hope we can understand others and love life after seeing others' disguise clearly.
I please everyone, but I still can't live a good life.
Such people are flattering in character. Many people have a tendency to please others more or less in character.
The ultimate flattering personality is vividly reflected in pine nuts. In the life of not liking pine nuts, pine nuts' sister fell ill, and his father put all his thoughts on her sister. Pine nuts who lack father's love accidentally find that imitating clowns can make their father laugh, so they often play clowns. Later, although pine nuts got his father's smile, they were constantly rejected. As Osamu Dazai said, "I please everyone, but I still can't live a good life."
Ye Cang is also unsociable because of lack of love. He plays a clown and always treats others in a funny way, which makes him a "social cow disease". But in fact, he refused this way. He thinks it's shameful and he won't feel happy. These ugliness played to please others will become the capital for others to laugh and laugh. Maybe others think he is a clown. He courted his father, brothers, friends, landlords and even servants. He tried his best to please everyone. Finally, they abandoned them and sent them to a mental hospital. The fire of his life is about to wither in the hospital, and the faith he spent half his life building will eventually be destroyed by the people around him. His flattery and his efforts will eventually lose their meaning. That's why there is such a sad sentence: I was born a man, I'm sorry.
According to Satya's theory, people will have four coping strategies in communication: please, super-rationality, blame and integration of appearance and appearance. We need to adopt different strategies in different interpersonal relationships. But people who please are always humble. When you fall into the dust, the other person will not feel bad, but will step on you. To some extent, flattering people lose their self and dignity and care too much about other people's feelings. If you want to change yourself, please don't exaggerate others' evaluation of yourself, try not to care too much about others' feelings, live bravely and please yourself. You will find that you can live well without pleasing others.
Reconciliation with yourself is reconciliation with the world.
When you are alive, don't embarrass yourself, don't think about things you can't figure out, and don't associate with people you don't understand. It's no good talking too much. Only when you figure it out can the world be clear. Reconciliation with yourself is reconciliation with the world.
Ye Cang is full of fear and anxiety about life, coupled with the indifference of human feelings, the hypocrisy of his family and the use of his friends, which makes him embark on a road of compromise and concession. The environment is harsh, but Ye Cang is timid and sensitive. Although cool thin knew the hypocrisy of human nature and the world, he still dared not refuse others bravely. He can only be pushed into the abyss step by step by the hand of fate. He traveled all over the world, learned the meanness of human nature, learned to go whoring, drink too much, pawn women's clothes, inject drugs to paralyze himself, and finally lost hope for life in a mental hospital. In fact, he had thousands of opportunities to change his fate, but he gave up.
When he grows up, he has the ability to understand human nature, but he is still the son of his father. He was praised by his father, so even if he knew his father's hypocrisy, he dared not poke it, dared not continue to please his father, and was afraid of losing his father's praise and shelter again. Later, when he was down and out, he kept chanting "money is doomed" all day. He lacks self-confidence and sense of responsibility, and always gives up on himself and muddles along. He has the ability to make money himself, but he always hopes on his brother's money and women's charity. He depends on women, both physically and psychologically. Shizuko, a single mother, took him in and introduced him to work. Yoshiko's pure breath made him move, and he was willing to give up drinking and start a bright life again. Despite the help of a woman, all the good things left him because of his weakness. Yoshiko was bullied. He just hid in the dark and watched the tragedy happen. Afterwards, he suspected that Yoshiko was having an affair with the rapist and gradually became addicted to alcohol and abused himself. Knowing his cowardice but lacking the courage to admit it, he naturally missed the beauty. In fact, no one forbids Ye Zang to pursue a better life. He gave up himself and turned himself into a basket case.
He is so decadent that he thinks he is not qualified to be a man. But what qualifications do you need to be a man? He aggravated the problem, and finally no one could save him. If he can bravely refuse the temptation, please others with humility, but be himself and live freely, how can there be "human disqualification"? He is too stubborn to choose a road leading to darkness, even if he hits the south wall, he will not turn back. However, if he reconciles with himself, the world will reconcile with him.
The root of human disqualification lies in the weakness of the soul. If your soul is strong, no one can control your destiny. May you live freely and love bravely after crossing Qian Fan and seeing through the truth of life!