Is this this?

At 10 pm on January 22, 2015, the good man "Zeng Xiaoxian" Chen He published a long article "I was wrong", admitting for the first time that he and his love Xu Jing, his wife of 14 years of long-distance running, is getting divorced: "It has been almost half a year since we signed the divorce agreement... The relationship of 14 years is not easy. It is beautiful, precious and important. But there are many things in this world that you cannot maintain."

As soon as the Weibo post was posted, it immediately triggered a nuclear explosion in the entertainment industry. In just a few days, the number of comments on Weibo exceeded 3 million, and people sighed. What kind of emotional fission did this couple once envied by everyone experience? Our reporter exclusively contacted the person involved, Xu Jing, and listened to her lamentation. Past...

Time goes back to September 17, 2013.

In Phuket, Thailand, the beautiful waters bear witness to the vows of love. I put on my pure white wedding dress and watched my beloved man put on a ring that symbolized three lives and three lifetimes for me, my eyes blurred with tears. At that moment, the sea breeze turned the pages of our acquaintance one by one, and the wind was full of the smell of happiness.

In 2001, when he was in the third grade of junior high school and I was in the second grade of junior high school, we met and fell in love. I have experienced junior high school, high school, college and work. Four years of long-distance relationship, 144 bus tickets, and 13 years of traveling together have occupied my entire youth. We had quarreled, reconciled, broke up and reconciled again. I thought that with the guarantee of marriage, we would be able to stay together until the end of our lives.

Since he became popular as "Zeng Xiaoxian" in "Love Apartment", he has been traveling all over the country filming, interviewing, and recording programs, leaving him with almost no free time. In order to save him a lot of trouble, I often volunteered to see him.

Once, I accompanied him to Hunan to record a program. As soon as he got off the airport, wearing sunglasses, he was surrounded by fans, asking for photos and autographs. I helplessly hid aside until these people left. Later, when we arrived at the show, a female director asked me: "Are you his assistant?" I smiled and said nothing. He quickly corrected himself and said, "She is my wife!" The female director glanced at me, and there was something in her eyes that I couldn't describe. Afterwards, Chen He said to me: "These people are very boring, don't bother with them." I replied: "It's okay, it's better if she doesn't know me, so that I won't feel as uncomfortable as you." He pulled me I sighed with emotion: "Actually, I envy you more and miss our simple life before." I really want to say that if you don't like this industry, just quit and let's do something else. However, looking at the lights on the stage, I had no choice but to encourage him: "Isn't it bad to be famous? Many actors are envious of your current success. It's better to become famous as soon as possible!" He made a face at me and went on stage with a smile.

More often, I wait for him at home. It was three or four in the morning when he came back. He was so tired that he fell apart and fell on his back. By the time I finished cooking and brought it out, he was already asleep. I helped him lie down on the bed, feeling distressed in my heart. But before he had rested for two days at home, he took the call and ran out again. He was away from home for half a month.

Once, I called him and he hung up in a hurry. I was on tenterhooks all day long, and it wasn't until the evening that he called me and told me that he was filming. Then he sent me videos and photos from the set to express his thoughts to me. Later, I told him: "Let me go out and find a job. Don't work too hard." He immediately stopped him: "I am willing to suffer more. I don't want my wife to suffer anymore. I am willing to support you." , until old age." After hearing his words, I felt a warm current in my heart. Even though it is very hard to wait for him every day, my heart is still full of touch and happiness.

On Valentine’s Day 2014, at ten o’clock in the evening, the door opened and I saw a familiar face. He said: "Honey, I ran back secretly and didn't have time to bring you a gift." I said: "It's okay if you don't have a gift. Just come back." He smiled evilly and took out a bracelet from his arms like a magic trick. , that bracelet is heart-shaped agate, like a blooming rose. He told me: "I love you forever, my wife. No matter what happens to me, I will definitely appear in front of you on major festivals." I nodded, and his embrace was still so warm.

During those two days at home, he kept talking about the hard work of filming, and asked me childishly: "I saw a passage that no matter how happy a marriage is, there will be 200 times in a lifetime when you want to break up. And the urge to strangle each other 50 times. Is it that exaggerated?" I deliberately teased him: "It may be more." Looking at his surprised expression, I comforted him: "It doesn't matter, the impulse is still an impulse, and after the impulse is over, I am still the same. old wife.

He hugged me and tried with a wicked smile: "If one day I really do something wrong, what should I do before you forgive me?" I didn't even think about it: "As long as you admit your mistakes every time, that's fine." ”

One day in April, he told me that he was going to come back after filming. I cleaned up the windows at home, bought flowers and candles, and cooked a table of his favorite dishes. However, when the day came, Hei hadn't seen anyone yet. I was just about to call him when he called me: "I'm sorry, my wife, the company has to hold a press conference and I have to rush there. I can't go back today." "I said it was okay, put down the phone, and all my expectations disappeared. The next day, he sent a WeChat message, showing him at a press conference in Beijing. Although I knew he was busy, this huge loss made me feel uncomfortable.

After that, we met less and less. He told me that several of his films had started shooting, including the movie "The Year in a hurry" and the costume drama "The Legend of the Medical Clinic". , as well as "Love Is Back", "Little Love: Getting Better"... His career has reached a blowout period. Apart from his work, our conversations have almost no other content. On the one hand, I am happy for him, and on the other hand, I am happy for him. On the one hand, I was worried about his health. He often posted on Weibo and traveled to different sets. Once he told me that he was not in good condition, so I advised him: "If you feel uncomfortable, take a few days off and come back to adjust." "He said; "The crew doesn't care about you. How could hundreds of people stop for you!" As he spoke, he apologized: "Honey, I originally wanted to promise you the life you want, but now it seems It’s hard to realize, why do I feel sorry for you!” Before he could finish speaking, I comforted him: “Don’t think too much, why are you so guilty? I’ll just forgive you. "He put down the phone and stopped talking.

In July 2014, he returned to Shanghai after filming "The Year in a Hurry". This time, after meeting, we didn't The joy of meeting again after a long absence. A strange atmosphere spread in the air. I saw that he was worried, so I said, "If you have something on your mind, just tell me." He pondered for a moment and said, "Jing, if I tell you what I think. , you won’t hate me forever, will you?” I said carelessly: “Just tell me, no!” He bit his lip and said word by word: “We don’t see each other a few times a year, and I think this is unfair to you. It's so unfair. I can't give you the promise I made to you. Let's separate...I'm sorry. "As he spoke, he started crying. I was shocked. I suppressed my trembling voice and asked him: "Is it because you are too busy? Or do you have someone else outside? Tell me the real situation!" He shook his head. He shook his head and said, "No, I just feel like I can't accompany you. We haven't seen each other ten times a year. If we live like this in the future, it will be very bad for you!" He held his head and sunk into the sofa, his whole body like a portrait. The pale paper figure seemed to break at the touch of it.

I couldn't help but shed tears. Although I was mentally prepared, I never expected his answer: "Break apart, separate..." It’s such a mess, we have been in love for 13 years, what went wrong? I didn’t sleep all night, and my eyes were swollen like peaches. He was frightened and said to me in a pleading tone: “Jing, please don’t do this, okay? What do you think about me quitting the entertainment industry to be with you?" He looked so sincere. This expression couldn't deceive me. Based on my intuition over the years, I knew he was sincere, but how could I let him have a bright stardom? Because I just extinguished? I nodded, shook my head, and started crying again.

In mid-August, he called me and said, "Jing, Southeast TV's "True Love on the Road" is going to be broadcast. Invite me and two other couples to participate in the program recording and go to South Korea to film the reality show. We finally have time to get along. Haven't you always wanted to go to South Korea? Now I can accompany you. "His happiness infected me. Although I didn't like being on the show, I still agreed to it because I thought that the two of them could get along well, regain their love, and improve their relationship.

Before departure, we had dinner with the film crew. When the camera was pushed towards me, I was speechless. At this time, the crew asked Chen He: "If there was an afterlife, would you marry Xu Jing?" He immediately replied: "Of course!" Then the camera turned and pointed at me, "Will you marry Chen He in your next life?" I was still immersed in his answer, and I hesitated in panic for a long time without saying anything.

Chen He asked me: "Why are you so hesitant?" I looked at him, thinking about what he said about separation, and it felt unreal. When did such a familiar person become so strange that I didn't know?< /p>

In the next few days, we finally got together again. We set up a tent and camped on the beach in South Korea. He put his arm around me and we hugged each other, waiting for the sun to rise from the distant sea level. The sea breeze was blowing, and his arms were wide and warm, as if I was back to the big boy who chased me back then. We opened up, and he confessed that he was not happy filming comedy. The image of a "good man" made him tired, and he felt like wearing a mask every day. I also told him that I felt lonely while waiting, and real communication became less and less... We chatted and analyzed. At that moment, I really hoped that time would freeze and we would stay until all the distance disappeared and we would be reunited. Back to simpler times.

However, after the recording of this program, we returned to our respective lives. Distance cannot be eliminated. His calls became less and less, and I felt something was wrong. At the end of August 2014, he filed for divorce again. At that moment, I burst into tears, and I knew that we had reached the end. We held hands and walked through the most precious time, but the paths became more and more different. He walked to the scenery that I couldn't see, and the distance became farther and farther. September 8, 2014, the Mid-Autumn Festival, a major festival without his company anymore. I wrote desolately on Weibo: "I hope you will live forever and travel thousands of miles to meet the beautiful lady", but there were no more tears.

On September 11, 2014, I signed the divorce agreement brought by Chen He. Then, I packed my bags and embarked on a solo trip. During the journey, I passed by the majesty of mountains and rivers and the vastness of heaven and earth. I thought of the contradictions and problems that I had ignored in my relationship, and the truth about the breakup gradually became clear. I shouted his name to the sea, and then said forget it.

He once said to me: "If you want to be together, you can't do it at the expense of being delayed. If I become an actor, it is destined to be a busy career. If we want to be together all the time, then you have to get used to it." Separate, get used to waiting, get used to blessing. "Yes, I can no longer catch up with him and can no longer accompany him. Persistence has become each other’s pain and suffering. In this case, give blessings. I have been in love for 14 years. If a person were a tree, his love would have grown into unforgettable growth rings in my world. Love is gone, but we are still the closest people in each other's lives. I also promised him not to publicly announce the breakdown of our marriage, because that would be a fatal blow to his image.

In January 2015, photos of him and Zhang Zixuan traveling were exposed, and the crusade against "marital infidelity" was like a flood opening, almost washing him away. Reluctantly, he posted the divorce agreement. Reading his article "I Was Wrong", his tearful confession made me feel heartbroken. Although I don’t know when this new relationship started or how it will continue, it was after our divorce. Anyway, I still wish him well. In order to reduce his pressure, I posted this on Weibo: "Fourteen years can help you get to know someone better? Learn that you have to persevere even if you are wronged, learn that you have to let go despite the heartache, and learn that you have to let go even if you are wronged. I still can't see him being helpless. He is just a fragile child, but he is my relative. Please don't attack him." After posting on Weibo, he called me. After saying thank you, his voice choked up again, and I burst into tears. He came out and quickly hung up the phone.

If fate prevents each other from coming together, there is no need to kidnap each other with responsibility and morality. Life must go on, letting love fly is also a new life. Since we are so far away from each other, let’s all be well!