Duplicity, heartless heart, sweet mouth, kind-hearted people can call a spade a spade, sweet-talking people hide adultery, preferring herdsman to sweet-talking thieves.

To some extent, this is true.

However, nothing is absolute or even split in two.

In China, it seems that most family members don't have an atmosphere of laughter at all, and there are no pleasantries such as sorry and thank you, let alone praise each other.

Heard such a story:

Xiaomei is a middle school student in a middle school. Her academic performance is above average. She doesn't usually talk much. There is a caring mother at home. Although the school is not far from home, she doesn't like going home very much. She usually stays at school except weekends.

Why?

Because she has a sharp-tongued mother, if she doesn't rank in the grade, she will say, "Look at you, you are not the material for learning, pig brain!" " "If you make some progress, the sentence is still the same:" Don't retreat. Who will marry you if you can't get into a good school? If Xiaomei refuses, she will say, "How can you talk like this?" "Her mother shouted," I did it for your own good! "

No matter what Xiaomei does, her mother can mock and attack her. At home, she doesn't feel affirmation, encouragement and warmth. She just wants to escape.

In fact, her mother doesn't love her for fear that she will be cold and hungry. She tried to say something encouraging, but it turned into cynicism.

And the result? Xiaomei is depressed.

Hurt people around you under the banner of being nice to you. Maybe many people have done such things without knowing it. Think about how terrible and pathetic it is.

For example, some women want her husband to make progress, but they love him in their hearts and say, "Look what you have become. So-and-so has been promoted, and you are still the same. So-and-so's annual salary is millions, and you take that dead salary ... "And so on.

As everyone knows, she forgot that her husband is not useless, practical and family-oriented.

If you speak this language too much, people's hearts will get cold. For a long time, I pushed my husband out and even moved on.

Someone once did an experiment in which two pots of flowers were put. Every day, they say some compliments to one potted flower and some vicious words to another potted flower. The abused flowers slowly withered. We don't know whether the experiment is true or not, but we know the truth, the violence of language and how lethal it is.

Your dirty words may make others jump off a building. Even if you don't jump off a building, the scars in your heart won't last long.

Talking is really not a simple knowledge.

Maybe you will say, "I am cursing my own people. Actually, I'm not bad either. I am despicable! "

If you really have a tofu heart, why do you grow a knife mouth? What do you think if someone's mouth is the heart of a knife?

Wake up, okay?