Love must be voluntary, you love me and you like each other. As long as one of them doesn't like the other, it's not love, but unrequited love or secret love. We always hope that the person we like just likes me, but the reality always backfires, so there will be many infatuated men and women who have been in love for many years and still can't get a little love from him or her.
It is very painful to have a secret or unrequited love for someone, and the heartache that you want but can't get is only known to those who have experienced it. You are the one who is with him, you are the one who loves him silently, you are the one who collects his preferences silently, you are the one who misses him countless nights, but you are not the one who finally cares about him. He is the most important person in your life, and you are just a passer-by in his life journey, so many people will be sad and worried.
We all know the story of Rene Liu in his later years. She met her teacher Bobby Chen and waited for him for fifteen years, but she didn't get love. Once, when she was singing at a concert, she burst into tears. She must have loved, struggled, suffered, grieved, given up tears, cried for herself who didn't know how to love at that time, cried for her lost youth, and cried for her unrequited love for many years. I didn't understand the meaning of the lyrics until I listened to this song for many years. Describe it in one sentence: "I didn't know what I liked in the song at first, but I listened to it later and it was already in the song." The ideas in the song are still there today, but I can't see the dreamer of that year. "
JJ Lin likes Hebe Tien for more than ten years. He likes his goddess as much as he likes his little fan brother. He wrote so many songs for her that he didn't even dare to ask for her phone number. It is such a talented musician who will be at a loss in front of the person she likes and will dance because of her casual smile. Too bad Hebe doesn't like him.
Love or not, we can feel it through some performances. In order to solve some doubts, Xiaohua Mall gave the following points to roughly judge whether a person likes your performance. Welcome to add.
First, boys' articles
It is said that a woman's heart is a needle in the sea, which can't be guessed, especially introverted boys, who can't find a suitable way to express their love when they meet their favorite object. Too direct, it will scare other girls. It is best for them to accept your love. If they don't accept your love, they will feel bad on their own faces. It's too euphemistic, and I'm afraid that the other party won't understand my mind and dare not confess rashly. The advice for boys is to learn to judge whether girls have a good impression on themselves, at least not to hate them, so that there will be opportunities for further development.
1. You take the initiative to chat with girls. If she only sends the words "hmm" and "oh" or returns "I'm going to sleep", "I'm going to wash my face" and "I'm wearing a mask", it means that she is not interested in you. When you reply to a message or an expression occasionally, or even don't reply at all, you must hope that you haven't disturbed him. I don't understand straight male cancer, but I still harass it, which is easy to cause girls' disgust. If she likes you, she will definitely want to chat with you and share her life and thoughts with you, making you think she is an interesting person. Generally, girls chat with boys they like, and girls especially hope that he can spend more time with them and don't want to hang up. So if she likes you, she will wait for your information and be happy to chat with you.
2. She likes you and will pay attention to your life silently. For example, if you go into your space to see your dynamics, you will definitely delete the record after reading it, indicating that she secretly loves you and is afraid that you will know, or set your circle of friends as a star and you as someone who cares about you.
3. She will ask about you through other people's casual information and expose things related to you on her friends, thus attracting your attention. When she chats with others, the topic always involves you. On the surface, it's calm, but inside, it's rough; Will be angry with you for no reason, and boys may not even know what they have done wrong. If your friend says she may like you, she must really like you, but she is afraid to admit it. You can use your friend's insight to help you judge.
She can't unscrew the bottle cap in front of you, she needs your help to unscrew it, or she can't bring animal products. You will be happy to help her, but be careful that some girls regard you as free labor or as a spare tire.
Her eyes dare not look directly at you. She will be a little shy and unnatural in front of you, which means she likes you.
6. You can pretend to touch her hand casually and see how she reacts. If she pretends not to know, it means she has you in her heart. If she immediately withdraws her hand in disgust, it must be that she doesn't like you.
7. If you sign "I have a stomachache" on QQ, she will come to care about you and tell you "You pig don't know how to take care of yourself and what medicine to take", which shows that she cares about you very much.
8. She will ask you to take care of her personal belongings or hold them for her when she goes to the toilet, such as keys, wallets, lipsticks and other items, and usually give you her bag.
9. Every time I meet you, she will deliberately dress up and say that she doesn't wear much makeup. In fact, she spent a long time wiping her face behind her back, choosing clothes, trying on clothes and getting dressed, and ran back and forth in front of the mirror countless times.
10. When a group of people are together, she will like to sit next to you, close to you, and like you to send her home. I don't like that you play better with other girls than her, and I don't like that you say she is suitable for someone. If you say that she is unhappy, it means that she cares about you.
Boys must understand that girls who like you will be a little naughty and melodramatic in front of you, and even pretend that they can't cook, so they are neat and clean. In fact, she may be sloppy and not so delicate at ordinary times. She just wants to be petite in front of you and needs you to take care of her all the time. Boys must remember that every time they meet you, they will dress up carefully, like to smile at you and play with you. Girls who only go when you are around must like you.
Second, girls' articles
Relatively speaking, it is easy to judge whether a boy likes you or not. Their refusal will not be as subtle as that of girls, but more direct.
1. If a boy likes you, he will definitely contact you. Don't underestimate that boy's ability to pick up girls (except for some advanced straight men's cancer, of course). He will try his best to seduce you. If a boy doesn't contact you actively, it means that he doesn't care about you very much, and you may not have a chance.
He will get to know you through your friends or let them tell you indirectly that he likes you.
He will give you gifts, for example, he will think of bringing you gifts when he goes to play.
He will want to be with you very much, will find an excuse to invite you to dinner and watch movies, and will listen to you very carefully. When a group of people are together, he will listen to you very carefully.
He will tell you about himself, especially some unknown things.
In short, boys like you, he will take action, and boys will be more active than girls in this respect.
Xiaohua Mall's conclusion: If you click in, it means that there must be someone you like in your heart, no matter once or now, you may get stuck in it. In fact, whether a person likes you or not is somewhat vague in your heart. Just a word from different people will make you confirm, because you always hope that you can develop in the direction you want, and you are both eager and afraid to love each other. You are constantly looking for clues that the other person likes you, but you often suspect that it is illusion, misjudgment, confusion, hesitation and confusion, and you urgently need suggestions or solutions. You ask yourself every day whether he (she) likes me or not. You like it today, but you don't seem to like it tomorrow. You want to confess, but you dare not. I can't get out, I can't see, I can't let that person go. You need a firm reason to believe that he likes you or dislikes you. Xiaohua Mall tells you that the best way to judge is that if you are not sure whether he or she likes you, he or she must not like you.