A few days ago, I saw my cousin posting in the WeChat circle of friends, saying that she was an intern in a company in Hong Kong a few years ago. It was winter and the climate was cold and humid. At that time, he was still a poor student He sits quietly in his office in a thin coat every day, burying his head in work and silently enduring typhoid fever.

One day, when the boss handed him a document, he accidentally touched his hand, found his fingers cold, kept looking at his nose, and then said a few words of concern and walked away. The next day, the boss suddenly brought him a brand-new down jacket, saying that it was too small to change, so he simply gave it to his cousin. When my cousin put it on, the boss smiled with relief and said, "It's just the right size." My cousin gratefully accepted it. In fact, at that time, everyone tacitly said that the boss bought a small one, obviously for his cousin. However, I was afraid of hurting my cousin's self-esteem, so I carefully pulled a header.

I think my cousin's body and mind should be full of warmth that winter.

In fact, Su Shi, a writer in the Song Dynasty, had a similar story.

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One of the six gentlemen in Sumen is Mr. Li Qinan. He lost his father at the age of six and lacked support in life. When I grew up, I failed in the imperial examination year after year, and my family was very difficult. When Su Shi was a bachelor of Hanlin in his early years, the court gave him a BMW. Later, when Su Shi was a magistrate in Hangzhou, he got a BMW from the imperial court. Seeing that his student Li lives in poverty, Su Shi is going to give him this BMW. He thought that Li would sell the horse to support his family, but the horse was given by the imperial court, so it was rare in the market. If you don't explain the source in advance, you will easily get into trouble in the future. You should write him a written statement explaining the situation just in case.

So, Su Shi immediately began to write down the written evidence:

In the first year of Yuan You, Yuchu entered Yutang and was given a jade nose. I went out to Hangzhou this year, and I am very grateful for this gift. In the southeast, riding on the shoulder is enough to get a horse, but Li did not have a horse, so he gave it to him. I was afraid that Uncle Fang couldn't get a good horse, so I had to sell it, so it was notarized. On April 15th, four years, Uncle Shi. -"Give Li a horse coupon"

As early as the first year of Yuan You, the court gave me a BMW. This time I came to Hangzhou to be an official, and the court gave me another one. You go out in a sedan chair in the south. I have enough horses, so I will give him my BMW now. But I also think that if Uncle Fang has a better horse in the future, he will definitely sell it, so I specially wrote this certificate to let the buyer know the origin of the horse given by the court in the future.

From a small piece of paper, we can see the meticulous heart of a generation of writers. The Li family is very poor and has been working hard. His psychology is inevitably inferior and sensitive. If he sends a BMW in public, he may feel uneasy, embarrassed or even rejected. Therefore, how to phrase this certificate to avoid his bad mood needs special attention.

Giving help makes people feel comfortable, but it doesn't feel like unnecessary charity. This is the highest level of helping others.

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If aid can inspire the recipient's fighting spirit and help him do something, it is the best reward for helping others.

In the same year, Li took the imperial examination, which coincided with Su Shi's contribution. Originally, his favorite pupil in high school was reasonable. However, contrary to expectations, the results were announced. Not only did Li not go to high school, but he was not on the list at all. Full of disappointment and guilt, Su Shi wrote a poem to send him back to his hometown. The poem is entitled "I have known Li Zhi for a long time, and Li Fei was very ashamed to be the first to receive tribute, so I sent it as a poem":

It's not a day with you, and the brushwork is in doubt.

I have been talking about the ancient battlefield all my life and I am fascinated by the sun.

I can't be ashamed of your smile, it's all the emperor's responsibility.

There are 5,000 people in blue robes and white robes, and they know that their children have no grievances and no virtues.

Xie Yuchuan bought goat wine and gave it to me before the spring breeze.

Home is nothing but grass, I am not a fairy.

Although the self-reproach of the first four sentences has been in contact with Li for a long time, we should know his writing style, but we missed the wonderful article he wrote in the examination room. The middle four sentences show that Li's "everything is heaven" is free and easy; The last four sentences describe the farewell scene positively, hoping that Li will concentrate on his studies after returning to China and predict that he will not die in the mountains and rivers.

Later, Li lived all his life, but did not fall into the blue sky and became a generation of Song writers living in the countryside. After Su Shi's death, Leon thanked him and wept bitterly, and wrote a eulogy: "After the death of the emperor, I will be loyal to my life;" Famous mountains and great rivers are still in high spirits. "

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There is also a story about Su Shi's concern for students.

In other words, Chao once wrote Lu Fu. Su Shi read it and thought it was well written, but there were many problems. The way of writing should be based on harmony, and flexibility and modification can only be discussed on the basis of harmony. However, Chao Bu Zhi's article is not peaceful enough, and it is inevitable that the cart before the horse will be put, so it may go further and further. But when Su Shi thinks about it carefully, Chao, a student, is naturally sensitive, and it is inevitable to hurt his self-esteem by pointing out the problems in the article directly.

After careful consideration, Su Shi wrote a letter to Huang Tingjian, which said: I can't tell these opinions directly to Chao. I'll tell you my opinion. You and Chao are friends. If you have something to say, you have the right to tell it to him as your personal opinion!

You know, Su Shi was recognized as the ancestor of the literary world at that time, and criticized that it was not too much for a student, but it was this lovely scholar who was optimistic and careless every day, uncharacteristically, and carefully took care of others' feelings when he was ready to help others.

Perhaps, the greater the realm of life, the more you should focus on small things and handle every detail with your heart. Only in this way can we truly "sneak into the night with the wind and moisten things silently". Just like the down jacket that my cousin once received, although it has been several years, I believe that the dress and those comfortable warmth will always be hidden in his heart.