The coming-of-age ceremony is a solemn and sacred ceremony. As a parent, how can you give your daughter the best blessing? Write a letter to your daughter! Below I have compiled a letter for your daughter’s coming-of-age ceremony. Letter, everyone is welcome to read it. Part 1 of a letter to my daughter for her coming-of-age ceremony

Yangyang:

When I picked up the pen, I didn’t even know what to say. I just felt sad and happy at the same time.

My child, before I can hurt you enough, you are like an eagle, trying to fly on your own. But in my eyes, you will always be my little child who will never grow up. I always dream that one day I can be completely free and be a loving mother who only belongs to you, be your best friend, listen to your most coquettish words, and play games with you to make you feel that maternal love is calm. happiness. Unfortunately, this opportunity was lost after all. I'm a little sad.

But, my child, you are eighteen years old today, how can I not be happy for you? Eighteen years old is a solemn and sacred ceremony, only the people you love and Only those who love you can understand it. The age of eighteen is the sign of childhood turning into "adulthood". My child: Are you ready?

As your mother, seeing you turn 18, to be honest, I am not mentally prepared, and I still have a lot of guilt in my heart. superior. Really, kid, I don’t know in what capacity or in what posture I am writing to you. As you grow up, you have to know that the process of raising you is also the process of us constantly learning how to be parents. Our education may be simple or rough. We always think that I am doing it for your own good. You will be better in the future. Got it. It's too late to regret now, the past is forever gone. My child, how I want you to forgive me as a friend.

Daughter, my friend, then regard this letter as our memories and prospects for each other, okay?

Kindness is the root of a person’s wisdom

Do you still remember? More than ten years ago, we were watching the cartoon "Little Bee" in front of the TV. Little Bee lost her mother and cried sadly. When you were only four years old, your tears also flowed out, flowing clearly. I hurriedly helped you wipe them away, but I couldn't finish them. Boy, that scene will be etched in my heart forever. My child, I am proud of you. A child who sheds tears for others must have a soft, sentimental and gentle heart. Later, you often cried, but in my eyes, I never felt that it was a shortcoming or a weakness. I felt that tears were your way of talking and expressing your feelings to the world. My child, your tears tell me that you understand yourself and others; you care for yourself and your family. Your tears are your heart, as lingering as a stream and as bright as spring. Because of tears, you learn to move and enrich your soul.

A person without kindness will definitely not be a popular person in society, and this will never change. Some people say that only children are very selfish, but I found that every time you follow your mother to the countryside, you never dislike the environment there, and you don't have the coddling of city children at all. The clothes you have worn, even if they are brand new, as long as they are If they need it, you give it to them one by one. I think this is not only family affection, but also your kindness.

My child, I also observed that you are very popular. The most important thing is your kindness. You know, a good heart must be buried with sincere friendship. You once asked me to print review materials for classmates who were unable to return home and were staying at school; you once brought classmates who had not eaten to our house to eat; you once brought back the curtains and tablecloths from the school and washed them silently by yourself; you even You asked me to help your classmate’s sister to study in the Tsinghua University Affiliated Primary School? How many times have I been deeply moved by you. My child, my heart that has been tempered by the world often softens because of you.

Do you still remember, one night, you told me something that made you sad for the whole day. You were riding your bike to the High School Affiliated to Tsinghua University in the morning and saw a magpie on the ground that had been run over by a car. However, before you could brake in time, you also ran over the magpie. It’s almost time to go to school, and you can’t stop. You are a good kid who is never late, so you don’t know how to settle? That magpie? After the first period, you looked through the window and looked at the one lying on the ground. A magpie (outside the school wall is the road to school), but found that it was no longer there.

Until you go home at night, you are still sad, thinking about someone like me who picked it up and buried it in the soil. ?You comforted yourself. At that moment, my heart was filled with emotion. I wrote it in my blog and have been immersed in your kind feelings for a long time.

My child, I have listed these seemingly inconspicuous details. These may not constitute your entire kind personality, but these are enough to show that you already have the wisdom of kindness. A person can have nothing, but he cannot be without kindness. Kindness is the basis for people to love others, and it is also the basis for people to be lovable. Maybe we are not beautiful or tall, but because of kindness, we will become beautiful. After the age of eighteen, you have the right to choose the life you love. Because of kindness, you will love your brothers and sisters, the people around you, and the world even more. My child, your kind-hearted wisdom will bring you happiness and fulfillment in life.

Love, a ray of sunshine on your head

My child, I don’t know if you have noticed, but you are a sunshine girl. You are as tall and straight as a pine tree, rooted in the soil, as bright as the sun, and able to receive the essence of the universe. We look forward to you and admire you for how green and tall you are and how sunny you are. We hide our many hopes for you in the story of your name.

The universe is vast, and people are small after all. No matter how powerful a person is, they must always be humble. Here, it does not mean that people should belittle oneself, but that while being in awe of life, one can live out one's own flavor, the flavor of sunshine. You should stand out from the crowd while blending in with the crowd. See the truth under many masks, find love under layers of glaciers, discover beauty under thick packaging, don't be at a loss in the world, don't follow others. What truly sets you free is your soul and heart. No matter how the world changes, no matter how ruthless time is, as long as you have the smell of sunshine, you will always be able to warm yourself and refresh others.

Precisely because you are so sunny, I cannot see your gloomy inferiority or hard arrogance. You always look forward to the future and describe it with beauty. How many times have I always said to you, "My child, I'm not as tall as my mother, so hurry up and grow up", "My child, we are not pretty", "My child, if I want to engage in music creation, I may be imagining that I shouldn't As I said, every time I fell in love with you, I was impeached by you.

My child, the pressure of study did not overwhelm you. On the contrary, you became more and more passionate about life. You start applying some moisturizer and start choosing outfits. This shows that you love to be beautiful and dress up, but I prefer to think that my children have grown up, learned to appreciate beauty, and learned to enjoy life.

Love is also reflected in the efforts you put in for a certain hobby. When I arrived in Taiwan, you asked me if I could find the Mayday band and have them sign autographs. I couldn't accept it at first, but later I discovered that this band is a sunny group that exudes a bright vitality. I finally understand you. In order for you to hear Mayday's song, your father specially sent you to the Capital Stadium, and I also chipped in money to buy tickets for you. Once, you secretly listened to it again, and even waited in line to get their autographs? The reason why I didn’t blame you was because your enthusiasm was sincere. Because you love Mayday, you dream of being a choreographer and a singer. Even in the tense years of your senior year of high school, you never gave up your love for Mayday. It is they who influence you, and their vitality is internalized into your temperament.

Child, you can choose hobbies that I don’t approve of, but you must be passionate about a certain aspect of life, even if these are called “promising” in the eyes of ordinary people. In my eyes, there is no distinction between hobbies and hobbies. What people fear most is lack of enthusiasm. As long as it is meaningful to your life, we will firmly support you!

In childhood, you had a wide range of hobbies, including poetry, painting, and music. I believe that your soul is filled with noble interests, and these noble interests will sustain you throughout your life. I dare to bet you on this, because I see that you are not giving up your love for petty profits, nor are you giving up your beliefs for a certain trend, nor are you letting vanity and temptation lose you, but pursuing meaning. life.

My child, love will make you stand out not only because of your beauty, but also make people fall in love with you because of your infection and "illumination". Love will purify your temperament, purify your soul, and turn it into your persistence.

My child, the road to your ideal may not be satisfactory and may be bumpy, but because you are so green, tall and sunny, you will get to know more wise men and gentlemen, and you will see many miracles that others cannot encounter. and scenery.

Independence, a strong character

If it is a characteristic of girls to scream when they see a spider, then, my child, you are no exception. However, you had your own bed when you were very young. I remember when I was three years old, you taught me how to tie my shoelaces. Your shoelaces were well tied, and Teacher Park even praised you in front of me. When my mother was a child, she mostly wore shoes that were hand-sewn by her grandmother. There were almost no shoelaces to tie, and she didn’t buy shoes with shoelaces, so she still can’t tie her shoelaces. How happy I am to see you squatting there every morning, tying your shoelaces so seriously and meticulously. Some people say that a clever mother must have a clumsy daughter. It seems that my clumsiness has made your cleverness come true.

You learned how to wrap books by yourself, brush your teeth by yourself, fold quilts by yourself, even ride a bicycle, you learned by yourself? There are more, more, all of them are you. I learned it myself. When you are independent and will continue to be independent, I want to say that independence should be something you have and what all children have. But when most children have not left the "nursing period", you are already independent. My child, I want to congratulate you and deeply admire you.

Child, I am busy, all for the so-called fame, and I don’t have time to train you in detail. Let’s just talk about your first grade studies. In order not to affect my work, I sent you to my grandma’s house for a semester. You went to the first grade in the No. 8 Primary School in the Chuanying District downstairs in the community. How many times have I left you on the school playground and been preparing lessons and grading homework in the office. I only remembered it when it got dark, so I shouted your name everywhere in the playground like a madman. How many times have I asked you to follow me, and on the way to and from get off work, I have forgotten that there is still you, and I have even thought of taking care of your safety. More often, I think about the children in my class, but I neglect to develop your learning emotions and study habits?

I’m really lucky. Maybe it’s me letting go too much, not too much. With more care, you can walk independently, and you can independently control each stage of your child. Take love as an example. This is a very personal thing. Only the person involved can understand and experience its taste. I have read your "poetry" and it is very beautiful. At this time, I couldn't help but wonder, are you in love? For a purposeful "communication", I told you my love story, and you laughed loudly. Amid laughter, we hugged each other tightly. In your expression, you understood what I was thinking. My child, you already know that if the fruit is picked too early, it will not be ripe. Warm winter and cold spring are both abnormal solar terms. You did it to give us peace of mind and peace of mind. How wonderful it is that you can handle all your feelings alone.

You must know that a girl’s feelings cannot be easily revealed to others, even the people closest to her. What is true love? I think true love is not one-way, but two-way. Loving someone is very happy, but if the person you love does not love you, your love may be a burden to others; being loved is also very happy, but if the person who loves you is not the one you love, then this happiness is like It is wine mixed with water and has lost its original aroma and concentration. If the person you love doesn't love you, then your dedication to him should be to stay away from him and give him a comfortable space; if you don't love the person who loves you, then stay away from him and don't give him hope, lest he worry about it in the future. More desperate. On the topic of love, what girls need is not sensibility, but to constantly beat themselves with reason to leave room for themselves. Learn to protect yourself, learn to value yourself, this is a fund to store happiness for your future love. Every time I ask you this question, I see the gratifying answer in your eyes.

Look, when you were eighteen years old, you walked this thrilling journey independently. I believe that your sweetest love will be in college and in your future life. No matter how in love you are, as long as you are willing, I will straighten my back and prepare to listen to what you tell me.

In fact, the most important thing to talk about is the current college entrance examination. The college entrance examination is? Devil's training camp. You didn't let us accompany you. I said that I wanted to accompany you at every turn. How many times did you persuade me to go to bed quickly? I was indeed tired, but you were not polite, leaving a gentle snore to accompany you. Studying all night with you.

Every night, child, that bean-like light is your beacon of hope. No matter what the future holds, you have worked hard, created, struggled, and paid. Just like the little prince in "The Little Prince", you have been tamed, and you are a unique winner. My child, you have conquered yourself and life with your own strength. Good boy, your independence means standing up for yourself.

There is so much to learn from you, my child. You are calmer than me. My expressions are too rich, but you are very reserved. Sometimes, you know better than me, how a girl's speech and behavior should reflect her cultivation, etc. However, as your friend, as someone who has been through this experience, at this moment when you are approaching adulthood, I still want to tell you and encourage you with some pointers:

To love, More passion? My good daughter, love is a person’s behavioral state, and passion is a person’s attitude towards life. If passion is temporary, it is not true passion, it is love at best. A person's success cannot be achieved by "love" alone. It requires little by little practice from the things you love. Therefore, when love is no longer a short-term interest, but becomes a persistent inner motivation, it turns into passion. Yu Minhong, the founder of New Oriental English, said that a person's success depends first on academic skills, second on passion for life, third on insight and judgment, and fourth on humor and speech skills. In my opinion, these four points must be accomplished through the accumulation of enthusiasm every day. Therefore, it is not enough to rely on enthusiasm for a while. Only when it is turned into passion can it become your knowledge, skills, and literacy. When you were four years old, you started learning piano. The teacher said that this child’s hearing is so accurate that he will definitely be successful in the future. It's a pity that you still haven't persisted in your piano practice? Of course, this is directly caused by me.

Your IQ is not extraordinary, but this does not prevent you from becoming a wise person, as long as you have passion. Now, you should think about it carefully, what do you really like? What are you good at? What major should you choose? Which major is linked to your future happiness? Which college has a major suitable for you? How many points per year? What is your current distance? ?What should we do now? My child, as long as you feel the importance of passion to you, you have already put wisdom in your mind. Remember, enthusiasm is unreliable. Let the ray of sunshine of enthusiasm shine on your head forever, and hone and accumulate the eternal light of passion. If life fails you or leaves you without hope, then passion is finding hope in despair. That way, your life will eventually be brilliant.

Be kind and be grateful? Do you still remember? Work hard? This is what I kept chanting with my students when I was teaching "Autumn Memories", and it is also what I often say to you. No matter the ups and downs, my child, I hope that tears can turn into your strength, and your "masculinity" can also be seen in your kindness. Everyone's life is limited. When we live in the world, we must be good at learning, dare to admit mistakes, and be brave enough to take responsibility. We must not take advantage of opportunities, never give up easily, do not attack things we cannot do, and do not look down on ordinary people.

As parents, we don’t care about your return. Your health, your happiness, and your happiness are the greatest gifts to us. But you must learn to give back to others. For example, sometimes you like to have a bad temper, and although your words are humorous, they are also harsh and will inevitably hurt others. Learning to endure is also a gesture. How I hope that you know how to deal with your parents' childishness and understand the way of thinking of our generation. It is not to ignore or get angry, nor to complain, but to be grateful. Also, children, after you go to college or even work, it is recommended that you spend at least two hours a day reading, and when you receive text messages or letters, you should reply promptly. You must keep your promises to others. Learn to care about others and repay others for their help. With these, I believe that life will be more beautiful because of your gratitude.

To be independent, but also to share. In the face of your independent self-care ability, I would rather see it become your comprehensive potential for further development. Learn to cooperate while being independent and share the abilities of others. hapiness. Life is short, and sometimes it is difficult to distinguish reality from reality. It is easy to be dazzled and ultimately achieve nothing. Only by being down-to-earth, pragmatic and implemented can you achieve reality. But this "fact" must also be based on social recognition. As you grow up year by year, you will gradually meet people who are better than you. You will find that you have many shortcomings that you hate, which will make you depressed and inferior, and will make you feel inferior to others.

But you must face it, don't run away, compare yourself with yourself, learn from others, don't be vain, don't be jealous of talents, don't feel inferior and give up, but strive to catch up. Make a little progress every day, accumulate positive power by learning from each other's strengths, and make it the most meaningful support in your life. Later, you will find that it is to conquer yourself, not to conquer others? This is the state of being a human being.

The stream sings a happy song and flows away. It will hit all the cliffs and flow to the sea. The quiet mountains still stay in their original place, watching the flowing water waves go away. And I, your mother, will stay where you are like the mountains, watching you, my child, travel happily?

　XXX

　XXXX.X.X For my daughter Part Two of a Letter from the Coming of Age Ceremony

Dear Yingcheng:

I wish you will soon cross the threshold of 18 years old, and you will have more rights and also have to bear responsibilities. More responsibility. As a mom, I both look forward to this day and worry that it will come too soon. You will step out of the middle school gate and fly higher and farther into the sky. In the future, you will see more beautiful scenery, and you will also encounter storms. These are inevitable on the way forward.

Mom does not pray that the pain in life will stay away from you, but hopes that you will have enough wisdom and courage to face it. When you break free from the mud through your own efforts, when you survive the harsh winter and enter the blossoming spring, you can truly appreciate the richness and beauty of life.

You are very thoughtful, so you can consider your mother’s experience. If it is beneficial, take it and discard it if it is not.

About love and marriage.

Since you were in high school, I have often talked about this topic in front of you, consciously or unconsciously. Because for women, love and marriage are important components of happiness. You have the right to choose the lover and marriage you want, and your parents will not interfere. But we hope you can make a choice that suits you.

Remember when I was a kid, I took you to see the Huangmei Opera "Dong Yong and the Seven Fairies". On the way back, you said seriously: "I'm telling you, when I grow up, I will find someone like Dong Yong." Don't you object like the Queen Mother!? The taxi driver laughed. I immediately agreed to you with a smile. Of course, as long as you are happy, I have no objection. But people who are delicious and lazy are not good!? You immediately sat up straight and looked at me: Of course, how could I like the lazy person? People?!?

Many years have passed, and I believe you no longer remember what you said, but my mother still wants to tell you that as long as you are happy, we sincerely bless you for the choice you make!

I want to talk to you about my mother’s views on love and marriage.

First of all, the choice of life partner.

First, he must be smart. Two people in a marriage must rely on communication to maintain their relationship. If their thoughts are not at the same level, communication will not be smooth. In my opinion, the chicken-and-duck talk in marriage is more terrifying than the occasional family war.

Second, he wants sunshine. If a person has a negative mentality, worries about the rain in autumn during the sunny summer, and does not know how to enjoy the present day, no matter how capable or wealthy you are, you will not be happy living with him.

Third, he must make progress. A good woman is a good school, and a good man is a good driver. No matter what job you do, you must do your best. It is difficult for a man who just walks around in circles to make you feel the passion and beauty of life.

Fourth, he must be filial. We cannot predict whether the person we like will have family responsibilities in the future. The easiest way to judge whether he is responsible is to look at his attitude towards his parents. A person who is indifferent to the parents who gave birth to him and raised him, and who is often loud and loud will definitely not treat you well.

Of course, there are other things, such as not having bad habits, being generous, upright and kind? However, no one is perfect. I think it is very difficult to have the above four points at the same time. .

What's more, we ourselves have many shortcomings, don't we?

You often ask me why I married my father. In your eyes, my father is an excellent father, but he is still far from the ideal husband: Dad is not enough Romantic, not considerate enough, and not very good-tempered, but he meets the above four requirements of mine, so he is the right person for me. Moreover, when my father graduated from college, he gave up a better job opportunity and went to a small place in order to be with his mother. He said in a letter to his grandmother: "You can have a career anywhere, but you only have one lover." I always remember this sentence. I think that if a boy writes a letter like this to me in the future, as long as you love each other, I will happily agree to his request.

Secondly, how to play your family role well.

You often question why women have to do housework and think it is very hard for mothers. In fact, when you were young, your father also did housework. You should always remember that when you were young, your father took you to the beach to play, right? It was only because he was busy with work and had no time that he stopped doing it. Family members should understand and give in to each other, adjust the division of labor according to the situation, and not care about who does more and who does less. Only in this way can individuals get the best development and the family can be harmonious. Mom wants you to treat "housework" correctly, because Mom doesn't think it's sexist. Because of my mother's efforts, you and your father can eat delicious meals and go out neatly dressed. This is the reward of life for me.

Learn to take responsibility and always look at problems positively and optimistically. One day you will also experience conflicts between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law, conflicts between husband and wife, and conflicts between mother and child. When a problem occurs, you must first reflect on whether you have made any mistakes. Always pushing the responsibility to others means that you are unwilling to grow from your mistakes. At this point, neither your father nor I have done a good enough job. There are no winners in family disputes, always remember to put problem solving first, not your own face. Learn to respect each other's family and respect every "opponent" in your marriage, so that you can gain the respect of others.

Finally, my mother would like to reiterate what she has told you ten thousand times: never rely on anyone. The only person you can rely on most in the world is yourself. Except for blood relations, all your other relationships in the world are based on your own worth. Live your life well and improve yourself, which is the key to your happiness. In married life, one must be independent mentally and financially. When my mother was your age, my grandmother told me many times: "Don't take advantage of others and don't use boys' money." This is what I have always done.

Mom and Dad wish you the best of luck in meeting someone who loves you and who you love, and who can stay together for life. However, marriage is not an unsinkable ship. If you have put in hard work and consumed your life, it has made you lose yourself and live without dignity. Then remember that the sea of ??suffering is boundless and you will only be able to return to the shore? Hurry up and escape!

There is not only one model of happiness, never exchange dignity and freedom for the things you love!

I wish you happiness!

Always love your mother

2016.4.10 A letter to my daughter on her coming-of-age ceremony Part 3

Daughter Lulu:

Hello!

Mom and dad first want to thank you !Thank you for being with you for more than 6,500 days and nights over the past eighteen years. These wonderful times are like colorful necklaces. We will string them together and treasure them in our hearts forever. They can be taken out to look back and savor at any time. It's great to be with you! This has become an inexhaustible wealth for us?!

Although you have grown up, you are about to leave the Eagle's Nest to fight and experience in the sky. However, what we want to tell you is that the place where your parents are is always the place where your body and mind rest. No matter where you go, our hearts are always with you.

Taking this opportunity, we especially hope to share with you some of the insights we have gained from decades of life training. It can also be regarded as a spiritual gift for your coming-of-age ceremony.

The first rule is to “love yourself”. What is referred to here is "love" in a broad sense, not narcissistic and selfish love. To love yourself is to keep your body and mind in a nourishing and comfortable state at all times, soft and sensitive. Only in this way can you be sensitive to the ever-changing environment around you.

First of all, you need to love yourself, only then can you have the capital to love your relatives, friends, others, and all living creatures. Feel the joy and pain of all things. Only then do you know what you really should do!

The second rule is to keep your word. This is also a broad category. When you step out of the house, you will come into contact with people of all kinds of temperaments, but in the face of all living beings, you will eventually lock your circle of contacts into a relatively stable range. The generally recognized latent (explicit) rules that restrict this scope of communication are all in the word "faith". For relatives, friends, and partners, "faith" is the criterion for mutual maintenance. The natural enemy of trust is changeable temperament. For villains who don't want to deal with, you might as well use the strategy of "dishonesty" to make them retreat.