While being labeled, I am also labeling myself.

This is an interesting phenomenon.

"This looks like a female driver."

"Those who can eat spicy food are northerners, right?"

"post-90 s old aunt"

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This statement that people are labeled according to age, region and gender is easy to be disgusted. It is not that the words "female driver", "northerner" and "post-90 s" are not good, but a simple and rude value judgment accompanied by this group. For example, "female driver" means that she can't drive after 90, and she is old ... This label not only knocks over a boat, but also smacks of discrimination.

Therefore, in this era of individuality, people can't wait to tear off all external labels and want to be themselves without worrying about other people's eyes.

As Leslie Cheung sang, "I am me, fireworks of different colors".

It's not easy to be yourself.

Because there is no ready-made and complete "self", it is not that we will be all right if we try our best to find it.

Finding your place in the world requires at least two things, a static map and relative coordinates. Trying to figure out the ultimate question of "who am I" is like trying to locate yourself in the rolling sea. The outside world is constantly changing and there are many contingencies. We receive all kinds of information every day and are influenced and shaped by various factors.

Being yourself is a continuous process, and you need to constantly find and correct your own reference coordinate system, not a static positioning.

Labeling yourself is a quick way to find a position in a group.

Content, calm and peace.

Many people will feel that they have no feelings when they see these words.

But when the word "Buddhist youth" came out, many people applauded and said it was me, and even changed their personal signatures immediately.

In addition to "Buddhist youth", there are "post-it girls", "slash youth" and "invisible poor people" emerging on the Internet these days (people really have a deep understanding of poverty).

Label yourself as a group, because you really have a deep sense of substitution, and because you can quickly locate yourself and find the same kind in society.

You know, there is a cruel reality: how many people make the difference of "I am different from others" on the Internet, and how many people look for the recognition that "I am not alone" on the Internet.

Labeling yourself is a simple way to make others remember for 3 seconds.

Label, usually a simple and easy-to-remember word, can greatly reduce people's memory cost. We are in an era of information explosion every day, and the speed of knowing people far exceeds the processing speed of brain information. Labeling yourself allows others to remember themselves effortlessly, thus establishing stronger links.

For example, we all like to use "school scum", "foodie", "tangled stars", "families with difficulty getting up" and "obsessive-compulsive disorder patients" to come from the dark or to brag. In social relations, we should not only look for the role we play, but also manage our impressions. These harmless little faults can make your "personal design" more full and vivid, and more pleasing than Mr./Ms. Perfectionism.

This is a way to personalize the label. In fact, when many stars just debuted, they also quickly accumulated fans by establishing personal ways. Wang Fei was also called "little teresa teng" when she first made her debut, which is not only an affirmation of her singing strength, but also a package for her debut.

In addition, you can also label yourself with the skills you have mastered or the fields you have cultivated.

This year, I joined several societies, witnessed the rise of many awesome people, and also saw examples of others "doing". After reflection, I found it more and more important to master a skill. Because in a strange community, the fastest way to open contact is to help others. Adding a skill label to myself means that I can provide these help, which will greatly add points in a short self-introduction. For example, breakfast prince, fitness instructor, speech trainer, PPTer, mind map, investment management, design photography. ...

It is important to "be useful to others".

If it were you, what label would you put on yourself?

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