Today is April Fool's Day.
In the traditional concept of education
We are all advocating honesty education.
Ask the child to be an honest and trustworthy good boy.
But in this festival dominated by "deception"
Will parents "fool" their children?
Some parents said: "Of course! Children can't have a sense of humor! "
Indeed, children with a sense of humor can always have fantastic ideas. They not only have a wild imagination, but also know how to put themselves in other's shoes. When they grow up, they will be more easily loved and welcomed by their friends.
And some parents said, "No! Children learn to lie at an early age. What can they do when they grow up? "
Put an end to "deceptive education"
Some people say that whether it is April Fool's Day or not, we should not be silly children.
"Hey, open your mouth ... the medicine is sweet."
"No, it doesn't hurt at all."
"It's getting dark, go to sleep quickly, or the wolf will come to you."
"obedient! If you don't listen, let the police uncle take you away. "
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In the eyes of many parents
Children born after 70 s and 80 s are all picked up from the garbage.
After 90, children are all sent by charging phone bills.
Children after 00 are downloaded from the Internet.
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According to a survey published in the International Journal of Psychology, 98% of parents admit that they will educate their children through such similar lies and coax them to be obedient and good.
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However, when children find that the medicine is super bitter, the injection is very painful, there are no wolves outside, and obedient children can't get the toys and gifts promised by adults, they will have a strong sense of being cheated, feel wronged, angry, and even find it difficult to believe what mom and dad said.
Childhood is a critical period for the formation of children's behavior habits and moral quality, and children have a natural ability to imitate their parents' words and deeds.
When children find that lying can achieve their goals, they will naturally imitate it, and once children's bad habits of lying are formed, it is difficult to correct them.
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Therefore, if parents always cheat their children, it will have a bad influence on their behavior, psychology, personality and character, which is not conducive to their growth.
Scientific "deceptive encouragement"
Parents are the people that children trust and rely on most. When children encounter difficulties and setbacks, parents give appropriate encouragement and positive psychological hints, which can make children face life and growth more confidently.
In other words, some deceptive "lies" are beneficial to children.
There used to be a famous family education rule called "Rosenthal effect", also called "expectation effect", which means that in the process of children's growth, parents can use healthy, well-intentioned and scientific lies to increase their self-confidence, make them work hard and finally realize their wishes.
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Psychologist william james once said that the deepest desire of human nature is to gain the appreciation of others.
Every child can become an extraordinary genius. Instead of bluffing, it is better to give children appropriate "deceptive encouragement" and be good at observing and discovering the bright spots in children, rather than blindly correcting and criticizing them as soon as they find their shortcomings.
Then, as a traditional holiday in western countries-April Fool's Day, how should parents play April Fool's Day and let their children know the difference between April Fool's Day and lying at ordinary times?
Make up stories together to stimulate children's imagination
Mom and dad can say a word, or take out a picture, let the children make up a story based on this word or picture and tell it to other family members, and convince the listeners that the story is "true" through their own performances.
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Guiding children to make up stories can not only stimulate their imagination, but also inspire their acting talents and improve their language skills while interpreting stories.
Move your little hand and make an interesting mask.
Children naturally like to play, and different roles and identities can bring different freshness and experiences to children. On April Fool's Day, turn into a funny little monster with your children and have a "masked party"!
Parents can prepare cardboard, brushes and other tools to make funny masks with their children. After the work is finished, let the children wear masks and take some interesting photos to record, which is both fun and memorable, which can not only improve the children's practical ability, but also increase the intimate relationship between parents and children.
Realize children's small wishes
There is a link in the well-known and influential animation work "Cherry Maruko":
On April Fool's Day, Maruko, who was still asleep, was awakened by her sister, who told her that Yamaguchi Momoe was on TV. Maruko immediately took her grandfather to watch TV together, but she didn't see Yamaguchi Momoe on TV anyway. At this moment, my sister said, "Today is April Fool's Day. You can lie. Anyone who is cheated is a fool. "
Unwilling Maruko and Grandpa decided to play tricks on others, so they targeted Mrs. Yamada, who was the most easily deceived in the class, and said to him, "Today, the people of the paper troupe are going to the park to distribute snacks for free."
Yamada took it seriously without thinking, and happily came to the park to wait for the people of the paper troupe. As it happens, Mr. Fujimori is also in the park. When he learned that, he said, "Today is April Fool's Day. You were cheated by Maruko! "
Unexpectedly, Yamada said decisively: "Maruko won't lie! We should trust other people's hearts. What are the bad guys in the world? "
Yamada's words shocked and moved Maruko and Grandpa. They were at a loss and wanted to apologize in person, but Maruko thought it would hurt Yamada's heart, so he decided to turn the lie into reality. Finally, grandpa played the role of a paper troupe artist and sent snacks to three children.
In the pure world of children, they always trust others unconditionally. This April Fool's Day, parents might as well think about whether they still have unfulfilled promises to their children, realize their children's small wishes, and let them grow up happily in a loving family!
Tell a picture book story about "lying"
Through picture book stories, let children understand that lying is wrong, correct the bad habit of lying, and let children understand that the meaning of April Fool's Day exists to create happiness without hurting others, not because lying is right.
Read a picture book about "lying" with your children on April Fool's Day!
Recommend the following books:
The little boy Philu's father received a gift from his grandmother. His father didn't like it very much, but in order to make his grandmother happy, he had to lie and say that he liked it very much. These conversations were heard by Philu.
However, Philo didn't understand: "didn't you say you couldn't lie?" Why did you lie? "
Fortunately, Philo has a good friend, Philo, who flies to the window to chat with Philo every night and explains why his father lied: "Because it is to make grandma happy."
Pipano, an old carpenter, carved a piece of wood that could cry and laugh into a puppet, and Pi Nuo, the little puppet, began his adventure. If he wants to be a real boy, he must pass the test of courage, loyalty and honesty.
However, Pi Nuo Qi played truant for fun, his nose became longer and longer because of lying, and he became a donkey because of greed ... In repeated adventures, Pi Nuo Qi grew up slowly, and his mistake was forgiven by the old carpenter's father and fairy mother. He overcame the shortcomings of nature in love and trust and finally became a real little boy.
An old man in a striped suit wants to buy a watery apple to eat. However, it was April Fool's Day, and the fruit shop owner wanted to play a trick on the old man. He sold the old man a green apple made of plastic and told him that it would be delicious when it matured.
The old man believed it, put the apple on the windowsill and waited patiently. Unexpectedly, the naughty parrot knocked the apple out of the window and hit the grandmother's head. As a result, a chain reaction like knocking down dominoes followed, instantly making the whole town noisy. ...
On this April Fool's Day full of "rebellious colors"
Parents should guide correctly.
Let children understand the difference between fooling around on April Fool's Day and "lying"
Release children's creativity and imagination.