A recent article, "Your peers are abandoning you: the founder of mobike cashed in 654.38 billion +0.5 billion", became the most "chicken soup" in the circle of friends. According to the article, Hu Weiwei, who was an ordinary journalist three years ago, cashed in 654.38+0.5 billion in this acquisition. Now, after 80s, most people in the north are afraid to resign in the office building because of the mortgage, but in the third-and fourth-tier cities, they can see the future life at a glance. Middle age comes as scheduled. And she has reached a height that others can't. That's it. Your peers are silently abandoning you.
That's it! That's it! The warning "Your peers are abandoning you" has become the most touching slogan today!
Including me. Look at this Hu Weiwei, think about yourself, count the zeros behind 65.438+0.5 billion, and then look at the figures on the payroll. An anxiety makes the head cool to the soles of the feet, but a panic rushes back to the brain from the soles of the feet. In such a good time, why am I so much worse than others? Look at other people's children, shameless. As a result, I quickly signed up for several hesitant online courses and bought some books that were still in the shopping cart. Work hard! !
However, at this time, someone spoke, spoke ... Han Han said that this title ... is not just sales anxiety, but creates panic. Is it called being abandoned by peers without making a lot of money? ..... The richest man worth hundreds of billions has abandoned the relationship with a gardener, a beautiful editor and a programmer? Different times, people's division of labor and fate are different, and each has its own happiness. ..... If you read the article, you are in a surge of emotion and want to abandon other peers. With such determination and mind, you can only benefit the landlord in spring, summer, autumn and winter.
I reviewed the courses I just booked and the books I just bought ... countless crows flew overhead and countless black lines were erased from my face. ...
What are these and what? One is a popular article with millions of readings, and the other is a great writer who has heard a lot. Why are they all so reasonable? They can make me doubt my life instantly! What have I done? Or what did I do? I felt very confused for a moment.
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Although things have passed, I think he is still in a dizzy state.
In order to get rid of him, I told him a psychological point of view: people are like tape recorders, which will play when you press a key. Buttons are stimulus triggers, and playing is based on your life experience. On some special occasions, your recorder will be turned on again and again until the playback is chaotic.
The friend said, huh? Isn't this about me? Yes, that is to say, you!
If people don't often reflect on their experiences, it may be really easy for others to press the button and turn on your tape recorder repeatedly, which will eventually lead to confusion. Only when people constantly reflect on their experiences can they avoid instant misjudgment.
Spreading millions of articles must be good articles, and famous great writers must be of high level. I'm afraid this is the experience that many people have silently saved in their life experiences. If they speak at different times, everyone's tape recorders may naturally play at different times, and they won't realize the differences (if you don't believe me, carefully reflect on what you approve, will there always be contradictions in your approval? However, the anger between them eventually caused our bad circuit confusion through frequent keystrokes.
So, is there really a problem with our silently accumulated life experience?
I'm afraid the answer must be-"yes"!
Before discussing whether experience really needs reflection, let's talk about the working mechanism of the brain. Otherwise, some people may still have some doubts: we are advanced creatures with brains, and our choices are determined by the brains. How can it be so mechanized and broadcast with one click like a machine?
But people are so strange. If you pay attention to observation, you will find that many times, human beings are like a machine, which is explosive. For example, in Wolf Warriors 2, Rachel jumped out of the car angrily and found several lions wandering around. What is her choice? Hurry back to the car, the cold front is a foot pedal, flying away from the lion. It is said that this plot was shot on the spot, which is quite dangerous.
But we're not discussing the details of the shooting. What I want to say is, do you think Rachel's action when she ran back to the car was well thought out? For example, will she seriously consider the feasibility of hitting the lion first? Or think about the possibility of jumping off the trail of lions on foot? You will answer me without thinking, "Are you sick? How can you have time to think about such a stupid thing? " You're right. Actually, I feel the same way.
This illustrates a problem. There are many things that the brain reacts without thinking. This is the primitive reaction of the brain. If the brain does not have this function, then in the primitive human era, human beings will be extinct. When our ancestors faced a saber-toothed tiger, if the brain couldn't send a series of signals to the body quickly, it would be scattered in the energy product of various things for one minute to deal with emergencies (in fact, it would run away quickly). Assuming that in this case, the brain is still slowly considering whether to evaluate the combat effectiveness of both sides first, and whether it is possible to eat this saber-toothed tiger as a meal, then the saber-toothed tiger would have jumped on and bit off the neck of our ancestors. At this time, the brain's unthinking reaction can save our lives.
But the problem is coming, because with this function, the brain will automatically put many experienced things into this category. For example, when you meet a teacher or principal from an early age, your usual reaction is to avoid it. Therefore, when you grow up and meet a superior leader or a more influential person, you will still choose to retreat without thinking, instead of approaching and contacting such a person. Although, afterwards, we will feel that we have done something wrong and should choose to bear it, but the next time we encounter this situation, we will involuntarily escape. This reflection reflects what the brain thinks is right, but it is not always right, because the times are changing and the environment is changing, but the brain changes this reaction very slowly.
It is precisely because of this behavior of jumping to conclusions without rational thinking in the face of a certain scene that we need to reflect. Reflection can help us find our misused knowledge and re-examine our accustomed behaviors.
Take the fact that you can't help but flinch when you see a big shot. If you seriously reflect, you will find that in general, leaders and celebrities are actually more humble and can handle interpersonal relationships better. The probability of getting a kind response by actively approaching him is far greater than the probability of being scolded, that is, we can ask a complete stranger for directions, so why not choose to actively approach these people who are more likely to get a kind response?
The same is true of the friend I just mentioned, because the brain has included explosive articles and celebrities in the category of automatic trust, so when he saw the spread of millions of articles and works by celebrities, he chose to believe without thinking! That's how the chaos began.
So, how should we deal with such a mechanism as brain?
So, let's analyze my friend's chaos:
1, objectively state the facts
Two articles with sufficient arguments and clear arguments have touched him successively, but the views expressed are completely opposite. Hey! Therefore, he is very confused.
2. Analyze yourself rationally.
The main reason for this situation is his blind obedience mentality. When he saw the explosion and the big V, he was very excited and impulsive, thus bringing the deviation of his subjective understanding into the situation.
3. Rebuild your own experience
Kaibenbang has a way of identifying information, that is, asking "the cause and effect and the applicable boundary". Then we judge this information through several questions.
How did this information come from? Mobike's acquisition triggered the news.
What assumptions are implied in the opinions in this information? First, having money is success, paying off the mortgage is failure, and being clear about the future work is also failure. Second, when people are rich, they will abandon ordinary people of the same age.
Is this information necessarily correct? Do you have any different opinions or counterexamples? Even billionaires need gas workers, cleaners, government employees, programmers, etc. It seems untenable that some peers are abandoned by the rich. Besides, it seems normal to pay off the mortgage. If this is a failure, most of the younger generation will be eliminated. As for the foreseeable future, it seems not bad for those who like peace.
Maybe you can see more clearly by following several similar viewpoints. Puyi ascended the throne at the age of 3, and your peers are abandoning you; Nezha is 7 years old, and your peers are disgusted with you; Karry 17 years old is worth over 100 million, and your peers are abandoning you; Zuckerberg is 34 years old and worth 400 billion. Your peers are abandoning you. Bill Gates is 60 years old and worth 500 billion. Your peers are abandoning you. As a result, all peers were abandoned.
Through this uncomplicated question and answer, we found that such an explosive article turned out to be nothing more than that. Just push a certain point of view to the extreme and then whitewash it through language.
So how is Han Han's article? Answering these questions in the same way, we will feel that Han Han's article also implies the views that "it is not bad to be content with the status quo" and "it is not bad to recognize everything". If you think about it seriously, in fact, these views seem to be somewhat biased.
So how should we know each other? Whether it is an explosion or a blog post, it has its own ultimate pursuit of eyeballs, because this is the official WeChat account and other ways to survive from the media. Whether it is correct or not is only a small part, and attracting attention is the most important thing. Now it has attracted Han Han's anger, and I believe that the murdered writer "Wang Er" will also laugh in his dream.
What are we going to do? ...
As long as everything is suitable, we should realize that real success refers to what suits us. Excessive desire and no progress are biased views. Life is our own. People who are richer than us are not necessarily happy. Those who really adapt to us are truly happy. Look at Han Han's last message, which is the real point: the words above may look more comfortable and comforting, but this is not an excuse for you to be lazy and not make progress. Never climb out of one bowl of chicken soup and fall into another!
Dismantle speculation and stand, we will not become a mechanical recorder, and we can play it at will!