Social Etiquette and Eloquence In social situations, language, as a basic tool of interpersonal communication, also constitutes an important part of social etiquette in interpersonal communication. Civilized, polite, humorous, appropriate words, appropriate tone, appropriate weight and other social etiquette terms can often get the favor of others. The basic skills of social eloquence are manifested in three principles: timeliness, moderation and moderation;
timeliness
Say it when it is time to say it, and stop when it is time to stop. But some people don't say what they should say in social circles, and they don't say hello in time when they meet; It's not as good as saying goodbye when breaking up; Do not apologize in time when rude; Failing to answer questions in time; Did not answer for help in time ...
Instead, some people should stop. They nagged about their misfortunes in a lively and festive atmosphere; Laugh and joke when others are sad; When the master is in a restless mood, he still gushes and makes macro comments; A detailed discussion on the "Road News" of the home for the elderly ... Such people are obviously unpopular.
Moderate principle
Moderate speech is also one of the basic skills of social eloquence. Moderation refers to both the amount of speech and the volume of speech. It should be pointed out that it is not always wise to say less in moderation, let alone an old monk who never stops talking. Whether it is appropriate or not depends on whether he has achieved the purpose of speaking.
Proper social eloquence does not exclude the necessary repetition to achieve the purpose of speaking, but refers to speaking more and talking less according to different objects, environments and time. Some people talk a lot about themselves, don't stop toasting for half an hour, and criticize endlessly ... This will not only affect the effect of speaking, but also affect their social image.
The right amount of social eloquence also includes the right to speak. Speak loudly in public and talk moderately in private interviews. If it is a conversation between close friends and lovers, whispering can show a special intimacy and kinship, giving people a sense of intimacy. These are all things that should be mastered when talking to people in social situations.
Moderate principle
Moderation of social eloquence mainly refers to grasping the depth of speech according to different objects, grasping the appropriateness of speech according to different occasions, and grasping the discretion of speech according to one's own identity.
Secondly, the body language should be just right. Pay attention to avoid lowering your head, not looking directly at each other, and speaking with a little uncomfortable voice. This will prevent the other party from thinking that you have no confidence and can't make up your mind. Speak in a clear tone.
Never use language that causes you to break up. If you are worried about this situation, you can directly ask the other person which way you want to express it; You can know each other's personality in advance; You can ask the other person for your address, which is better than apologizing afterwards.